To think friend was disrespectful

Some people aren't that bothered about dressing up to go out. I can't say I would necessarily get changed if I looked reasonably clean and tidy.

The important thing was that your friend helped out when needed and what she chose to wear is, in my opinion, irrelevant.

I disagree with most people here. I think your friend should have made some sort of effort. No one would have expected best bib and tucker, but as a sign of gratitude and respect to the elderly couple, who obviously viewed the occasion as an important one, then a change of clothes to suit the event and as a sign of respect and appreciation, would have been appropriate. Added to which, presumably she had taken at least some of her clothes off in order to have a half decent wash, so it would not have been difficult to put a fresh top on.

It’s not unreasonable to expect your friend to dress up for a dining experience . Has she not shown this side of herself before ?

Exactly.

Posters have made their point, very robustly. The OP now appears to have left the thread. Why keep on and on and on at her?

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MayBeMaw

Why indeed are you keeping on and on?
You of course with remarkable prescience seem able to tell the rest of us at what precise moment OP left the thread - was that before or after your own aggressive comment at 19.43?

Lwhete did I mention a precise moment. I said the OP 'appears' to have left the thread.
If you are going to become defensive at least try to do so without twisting other posters' words.

MercuryQueen

Your friend put effort in where it mattered- helping out in a crisis. The idea that how she dressed for a thank you dinner is baffling to me.

I sincerely hope she’s not on gransnet. How incredibly insulting.

If you read the thread….friend has been shown this thread!

Your friend put effort in where it mattered- helping out in a crisis. The idea that how she dressed for a thank you dinner is baffling to me.

I sincerely hope she’s not on gransnet. How incredibly insulting.

I jumped from page 1 to the final page as I often do.
I would have liked to have seen illustrations

Please miss!
People are talking to her even after she’s packed her bat and gone home!

Why keep on and on and on
I wasn't.

I was chatting to another poster about how to change to 100 posts on a page.

It's has become a general discussion about different expectations of occasion dressing.

I'm not being aggressive

Why indeed are you keeping on and on?
You of course with remarkable prescience seem able to tell the rest of us at what precise moment OP left the thread - was that before or after your own aggressive comment at 19.43?

Callistemon21

Perfectly pleasant request, MayBeMaw, which might help us to understand the criteria.

See my post about jeans and ballgowns!

Posters have made their point, very robustly. The OP now appears to have left the thread. Why keep on and on and on at her? It's unkind and unpleasant.

MayBeMaw

We may have wildly differing notions of what constitutes “dressing up” to go out.
Would it be intrusive to ask OP what she was wearing, what the other elderly lady was wearing and what the friend was wearing , so that we had a better idea of her expectations?

I'm not sure it would matter that much. The OP appears to be upset that her friend wore the same clothes she'd been wearing all day.

If she looked presentable - then the elderly couple who invited them out for dinner probably didn't know that she'd been in the same outfit all day!

The OP's 'issue' is that the friend didn't "make the effort" that she (OP) thought the occasion required, and thought it disrespectful. So it appears it wasn't so much what she was wearing, more the fact that she'd been wearing it all day!

Perfectly pleasant request, MayBeMaw, which might help us to understand the criteria.

See my post about jeans and ballgowns!

Not to mention aggressive.

Beswitched

MayBeMaw

We may have wildly differing notions of what constitutes “dressing up” to go out.
Would it be intrusive to ask OP what she was wearing, what the other elderly lady was wearing and what the friend was wearing , so that we had a better idea of her expectations?

This is getting a bit nasty now.

No it flippin isn’t.
It was a straightforward question.
Blimey- some people’s minds’! ????

MayBeMaw

We may have wildly differing notions of what constitutes “dressing up” to go out.
Would it be intrusive to ask OP what she was wearing, what the other elderly lady was wearing and what the friend was wearing , so that we had a better idea of her expectations?

This is getting a bit nasty now.

Yeah I'm on a phone.
I'm a single parent, so it stands to reason I have the latest phone.

It’s 8 pages here too.... can’t believe it.

No, you just have to keep scrolling down.

Do you use a phone? I can't see it if I use a phone.

Will it make the writing smaller?
I can barely see what I'm doing already!

MissAdventure

I must have small pages!

You can change posts per page to 100 - Customise at the top of the thread.

Small Pages sounds like a rock group

I must have small pages!