Hetty58
My second husband 'couldn't' (wouldn't) cook. Just once (in 21 years) I was ill in bed with gastric flu. The children complained that there was 'nothing to eat' - so I relayed instructions to the eldest on making salads, beans on toast, scrambled eggs etc.
Husband, meanwhile, went into overdrive hoovering and making tea, getting takeaways - and saying it was strange how angry he felt that I was ill (angry = scared). When I felt a little better and needed more than toast, I was presented with a Chinese - just too greasy when you still feel nauseous.
When I managed to leave the bedroom, and get downstairs (about a week later) there was a mountain of dirty laundry next to the machine and the house was a tip!
So bad.