To visit daughter without DP?

He might prefer you to go alone.

I'm off on Thursday to visit my daughter and family, returning on Tuesday. DH is own his own with the dog for the weekend. I do this a couple times a year. He is fine on his own for a few days, and I get a good visit in with DD and family. We will visit in the summer together.

Go ahead and don't feel guilty at all. Being separated on occasion is good for us.

midgey

He might quite like a day to himself!

exactly. he'd probably be relieved not to have to be on show as it were, with people he doesn't really know.

I spend loads of time with my DD and GDs without me partner and he is their DF/DGf....on the other hand....he does the same....he been round at theirs all day today.....I had made other plans

Just tell him you are going to be chatting about ‘girly’ things.

You will have a great time with daughter without having to consider how your DP. If he asks what girly things, a little white lie like menstrual problems will probably suffice.

I’m heartless, I know, but girl time with your daughter is priceless.

Stop all the second guessing. Do you know for definite that your DH feels the feelings you project on him?

Your relationship sound good, it will not be damaged by you opening up and discuss the problem you perceive with him. I expect he will be gobsmacked that you have projected all these feelings on him and will be more than happy for you to go off and visit your family without him.

At various times DH and I visit our adult children and DGC on our own - and all our children are joint.

Does he ever have plans that do not include you? I was thinking that if he announces he is doing something make your plans for that day but don’t tell him you are going until the last minute, too late for him to change plans.

I know it is better to be upfront but can see that it would be hurtful not to be included if that has been the case previously.

My husband can get bored around children/ grandchildren, and they are his! I just go without him, he’s usually got something he’s either researching, or a film he wants to watch, but I don’t.

As midgey says, he could well enjoy a day to himself ?

Hahaha you’re right @midgey he might do!

He might quite like a day to himself!

You could always tell him that you’re going to visit your DD and that his lunch is in the fridge.

I often meet my daughter for coffee without my partner. Go and stay for a few nights with the others too. He usually only comes along when it’s a whole family thing.

He seems happy enough.?

Why not? Do it!

Thanks Baggs. I should have mentioned- it’s only a day trip!
Reading back, I think I am being ridiculous. Just don’t want to hurt his feelings as I said.

In your position I think I would just tell my partner that I was going to visit my daughter and grandkids and perhaos mention a hope that he had some nice things to do while I was away.