I really don't know what I can do going forward, my papa has always been the type of man who thinks he is always right, he makes all the decisions and you can't dare question them, but since having my children I point black refuse to take his shit! Some days he can be nice to me but others he is just so rude and nasty, he tells me how to bring up my children. For example he has been helping me take my boys to nursery past few weeks as my car is in garage and we live 6 miles away, he will blame me if there is traffic, he will tell me to stop carrying my toddler when he's upset and to let him walk, his words were that I'm "making him soft" as in my toddler! He calls me stupid and dopey in front of my children! Of course I tell him to not talk to me this way as I don't allow my partner to talk to me like this, he swears and calls people names, but if I dare let a swear word out I get told "stop your swearing in front of the children" even though it's okay for him to do it, he will follow me into the nursery when I take my boys in and will stand at the gate this makes me feel incredibly uncomfortable and i could sense that it made one of the nursery workers feel uncomfortable as well! My nana phoned me by mistake when she was in the car waiting for me to take my boys in to nursery ( this day I told him to go back to car because I didn't want him watching me like a hauck) anyways she left me a voice mail and my papa was saying " look at that dopey fucking cunt" referring to me! Saying a lot more but I guess you get the jyst! This was a man I looked up to and loved so so much as a child but since having my children I have seen him in a different shred of light. Am I being unreasonable to not want him around my children? I don't think he deserves a relationship with them. I never understood why my mother was the way she was when I was growing up, she has bad mental health problems and low confidence but now seeing how my papa now treats me and puts me down I can understand why!
