To be very shocked at attitude towards finding money

Witzend

I didn’t pick up on first reading that money was apparently all in £50 notes.
How often do you ever see those? Even if you take hefty sums from a cash machine?
On reflection, it sounds more like a dodgy stash, than some old dear hiding her money away in a ‘safe place’.

I agree. Which is why taking it to police would be best imo, and telling them which shop you bought it at. The charity shop would then be helping police but wouldn't have the whole responsibility.

But I wouldn't begrudge the money to someone who really needed it, so I'd be kinda hoping its source was never found and the person who found, if poor, got it back ?

Froglady

I think I would return it to the charity shop. But I'm also aware of how poor some people are and that money will make a lot of difference to them, if they're out of work for instance, ill, struggling with bills, debts, etc, etc, so I'm not going to condemn anyone when I don't know their circumstances. I haven't walked in their shoes.

In this case the op wanted to use it to fund an expensive holiday and wSas being encouraged to do so by a sizeable number of posters.

Elderly people (including myself) do hide cash in the most unlikely places. Often it has nothing to do with not trusting banks, etc. but the feeling of safety in having some cash close by.

When my Dad died (over twenty years ago), , I found a brown envelope with a hundred pounds in notes hidden in his dirty washing basket. Just pure luck that I went through that, pulling out each item separately, to decide what to wash for charity shops and what to throw away.

Yes, I keep cash hidden at home (my emergency fund), but have also made sure that my daughter who lives nearby , knows where it is.

It’s always possible that if the notes were stolen there would be a record of the serial numbers. But if she’s now paid the money into her bank they will probably have become untraceable unless banks have a habit of checking serial numbers of large quantities of notes paid in. I have no idea about that, but I would think it likely that the bank would query the origin of a large amount, especially in £50 notes under money laundering regulations. So if the story is true her actions may come back to bite her. Someone considering spending the money on a holiday isn’t going to be on their uppers.

And that, gsm, is what shocked people. But the philosophical what ifs were interesting and good for our brain cells ?

Nothing I read on MN now surprises me! At first I couldn't believe how rude and aggressive some of the posters are; telling each other to 'just F**k off' is pretty normal. I despair at how morals seem to have taken a dip.

I must be reading different threads on Mumsnet, Curlywhirly, as I see a lot of compassion, common sense and honesty from posters on there. It’s certainly not the norm for anyone to tell another poster to F off! They can be very open with each other though, which is no bad thing imho. I can’t find the thread in question but I’m sure there’ll be plenty of posters saying just the same things as the majority are on here.

The difference though is that only one poster on here can see nothing wrong with just keeping the money and saying nothing. Whereas on Mumsnet a very sizeable number are advocating this.

Are they? I’d like to read the thread. Does anyone have a link?

I've often thought what amount of money I'd have to find before I reported it. For example if I picked up a £10 note in the street I'd keep it. Anything over £40 then I'd probably think about handing it to the police. If I found a valuable object, such as a gold ring, I couldn't possibly keep it.

I’ve never seen anyone say ‘just f* off’ either Maggiemaybe
There is a link early on in this thread

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4490528-Found-money-what-should-I-do?msgid=115392574

Thanks, *Baggs, I’ll have a look. It’s not as though there’s any housework that needs doing round here or anything!

Missed the earlier link.

FannyCornforth

I’ve never seen anyone say ‘just f* off’ either Maggiemaybe
There is a link early on in this thread

I have, frequently. Obviously there's a wide mix of posters on Mumsnet but some are breathtakingly rude and aggressive.

I have seen ODFOD posted on there before
I must admit there are times when I’ve been sorely tempted myself…

Maggiemaybe

Thanks, *Baggs, I’ll have a look. It’s not as though there’s any housework that needs doing round here or anything!

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FannyCornforth

I have seen ODFOD posted on there before
I must admit there are times when I’ve been sorely tempted myself…

True. But I'm sure posters are often tempted on here but restrain themselves.

That reminds me of when FH (late if this parish) went bananas and told everyone to do one

Well there’s a lot or argy bargy going on, and I must say there are a lot more posts of the just keep it variety than I would have expected. But my favourites so far are:

It might be drug money, proceeds of crime and a killer might come after the money and you so be careful.

and

I think this is Richard Osman researching for his next book.

Baggs

Witzend

I didn’t pick up on first reading that money was apparently all in £50 notes.
How often do you ever see those? Even if you take hefty sums from a cash machine?
On reflection, it sounds more like a dodgy stash, than some old dear hiding her money away in a ‘safe place’.

I agree. Which is why taking it to police would be best imo, and telling them which shop you bought it at. The charity shop would then be helping police but wouldn't have the whole responsibility.

But I wouldn't begrudge the money to someone who really needed it, so I'd be kinda hoping its source was never found and the person who found, if poor, got it back ?

Baggs, the police wont take in money or lost property anymore. They advise you to ask on your local facebook if you find something but not put exactly what it is! I know!

Someone on Mumsnet dubbed it the quilt of guilt.

I love Mumsnet. Even though I now agree that a great big swathe of them aren’t as upright and honest as they ought to be. A lot still are though.

Jane that reminds me of when we found a (gorgeous) lost dog.

I rang the police; and the dog had indeed been reported lost.
They had the owner’s details.

I had to literally beg the duty officer to give me the phone number of the owner of the dog.

GDPR innit?

I agree Beswitched as well as some really aggressive posters on MN, there are posters who are very kind and thoughtful. Personally, I just find GN a kinder place.

well dogs and cats now you are supposed to take to the vets to be scanned. It is like someone has written a new rule book and not told everybody

I find mumsnet overwhelming. I honestly feel like I have walked into a packed stadium and everyone is talking at once. It is most probably a MH condition.