Over sharing….. personal information.

Jane judge indiscriminate inappropriate sexual talk is seen in some people with dementia. Very sad but the OP ‘s friend misjudged who would be happy to discuss her sex life.

If you have ever worked on a chatline then nothing that people talk about can ever shock you! There are people who go onto chatlines because they find it impossible to talk about initmate matters with their friends and family. However they can talk about such things to an unknown person on the phone.

Of course, you could have called her bluff and said the vibrator must be faulty and recommended she takes it back to the shop!

No matter others opinions on this Sago. It is you who are being made to feel uncomfortable on this subject. Time to tell your friend this is too much information and you don’t want to discuss her sex life. If you don’t give her a clear message that you don’t want to hear this, she may think you are ok to discuss such matters.

This is not a subject that has been discussed in my circle of friends, some I have known since school days. Quite honestly, I would find it rather boring rather than embarrassing.

The usual response these days is a pained cry of “too much information”. She will surely get the hint.

£1.50 per minute for a sex chat.
Set a stopwatch and remind her how much she is racking up every now and then.

Perhaps she’s gay / bisexual and is trying to chat you up?

I like your thinking MissAdventure, brilliant.

If it’s not something you want to discuss, just politely say that. There’s no need to be rude - there’s nothing immoral or shameful about our sex lives, but it’s fine if you don’t want to discuss it. Try and do it without embarrassing her or seeming judgemental though.

Was she deliberately setting out to shock you? I worked with someone like that.
Shock her back and say as you have never had to resort to a Sex clinic you couldn't give any advice.

I've got a friend who has told me very intimate things, too - I know all about her husband's fantasies and his lack of hygiene (which made me ask her - why do you continue to sleep with him?)

I'm very open-minded - I worked as a carer for many years and heard and saw lots of embarrassing/taboo things, but I jsu listen and nod politely

Pics disease has these symptoms x

I can honestly say that neither myself nor any of my friends have felt the need to stoop so low.

I have a friend that has been in my life for well over 40 years and never once has sex been discussed, i would feel extremely uncomfortable and i most certainly would NOT engage in conversation about it, my face would say it all, no need for words.

Well at least she didn’t show you a rather explicit video, which was what happened to me a few weeks ago. Some people have no sense of propriety these days

There’s absolutely nothing wrong with discussing sex with friends - but you should check if it’s something your friends are comfortable discussing first!

Thank you all, great to know I am not being unreasonable.
She is a lovely person and has so many great qualities, I will just ignore her comments.

Tell her trying very hard to climax is an oxymoron.

Blossoming apt ?

Wouldn't bother me at all if she was someone I'd known as long as you've known each other.

I talk about sex to my friends. There aren't any areas I wouldn't discuss with a good friend.

I'd have just screamed and clapped my hands over my ears.

I never talk about sex with friends. Ugh. I'd rather talk about the Bristol Stool Chart.

The issue is consent, isn't it?
Just the same as with anything related to sex.
If you don't consent, it's very murky territory.

If a man started to talk about how he masturbated without so much as a "by your leave" I would consider it abusive.
Not because I'm closed minded, not because I'm unaware or offended; simply because I hadn't consented.

Do you generally prefer a type 2 or 3 on the Bristol stool chart, by the way?

Sago

Thank you all, great to know I am not being unreasonable.
She is a lovely person and has so many great qualities, I will just ignore her comments.

If It comes up again I’d just tell her it makes you uncomfortable.

But don’t just ignore it in the future - to be clear is to be kind.

For the record to others, talking about sex isn’t “stooping low”, some women genuinely enjoy those conversations. It shouldn’t be a taboo. Nothing wrong with not talking about it of course, but no need to shame those who do

I'd have just screamed and clapped my hands over my ears.

The best reaction by far!

I've always believed that those that drone on about the intricacies of their sex lives aren't actually getting any. If you are, you don't need to relive it by telling anyone else.

If you don’t say anything, she won’t stop.