Over sharing….. personal information.

timetogo2016 best answer so far

My friends would never talk in that manner and neither would i.
Respect is lacking in my opinion.
You could try and laugh it off by saying " oooh,that reminds me,i have to pick up some spotted dick for dessert ".byeee.

Naninka

I think your friend is giving TMI and, with respect, even your post has TMI. It would have been enough to say "my friend wants to discuss her sex life".
Btw, I'm no prude either although I have perhaps made myself sound that way.

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It could be that she finds it a problem, and feels sufficiently comfortable with you to raise the matter, and hope for help or sympathy,when she wouldn't with anyone else.
A problem shared, and all that?

Tell her to get a real man! Lol
Or a bigger rabbit with decent batteries.

Oh please! Just tell her you’ve heard it all before and are bored with it! So change the subject! Ask how the garden is! Then get on with life! ?

At least that was an easy problem to sort out

Ha! Just been with the oversharing friend!
No mention of anything vaguely sexual.
However she doesn’t realise the importance of a dot in an email address which has caused a whole raft of issues I have just sorted out for her. ????

Like I noted previously any hint of sex draws plenty of posters out ?

Thank you all so very much. From sex chat lines to failing batteries.
In response to the post… she clearly doesn’t use a well known brand of batteries. She could have been at it like a rabbit.

I hope not!

Or she's been cornered by her friend who's regaling her with more lurid details, poor woman.

Sago is a regular user.
Hopefully she was out and about, enjoying the weather, rather than discussing blow jobs, vibrators, bowels and Dutch ovens on here.

Wonder why the person who created the discussion has disappeared.

I’d tell her to be quiet. It’s akin to abuse, like a dirty ‘phone call. Our head girl at school was like this, always talking about the best techniques for giving blow jobs. It was horribly embarrassing and she revelled in it. I met her many years later and she hadn’t changed. In the staff room she would entertain herself by droning on about what she liked her partners to do in the bedroom. Mostly she was told to shut up, no one was interested. I think there was something wrong with her and although she seemed to be happy, I think she was quite a pathetic character.

Chewbacca

One of my neighbours told me, not long after I moved here; "We never answer the door if anyone knocks, or answer the phone, on a Sunday afternoon because "that's our grown up cuddles time."" Eurgh! A simple "We have a nap on a Sunday afternoon" would have sufficed; I didn't need to know what they did when they got there!

"that's our grown up cuddles time."

... it's the wording, rather than what they are doing, that would make me cringe. A bit too contrived...

I've been single for a decade now so I'd be sticking my fingers in my ears and singing 'la, la, la.' However, I'm still laughing at MissAdventure's pneumatic drill comment...

One of my neighbours told me, not long after I moved here; "We never answer the door if anyone knocks, or answer the phone, on a Sunday afternoon because "that's our grown up cuddles time."" Eurgh! A simple "We have a nap on a Sunday afternoon" would have sufficed; I didn't need to know what they did when they got there!

Suggest she speaks with a professional. . My daughter is a relationship and sex therapist and this is a pretty common problem. She obviously needs to talk to someone about it but not you if you’re not comfortable about it.

I’ve got all sorts of friends - some over share. I listen & offer advice even if it seems embarrassing.
Think I’d tell her to use Google- but maybe add she’s probably not relaxed enough and overthinking.
If you’re really embarrassed or offended just say so, say you can’t advise & for her to ask someone else.

I have a new friend who told me her husband used to kiss her on the back of her neck when he came home. I didn't really want to know that either!

There used to be a colleague of mine who would discuss her poor DH’s problems (bodily functions and disfunctions) with the office. I felt really sorry for that man, especially as I had met him socially.

All anybody has to say when a 'friend' starts to give tmi is the truth - you're not comfortable with it but you hope s/he can find someone who might be. GP, therapist etc.
As a therapist I hear lots of intimacies and presume they are conveyed to me as a stranger because people don't want to offload these onto their friends.

I'd be no use, my husband hit 60 (ďouble figures older than me) 6 years ago and with no input from me decided we would be celibate - I've forgotten how to do anything!!!

Please tell me if this is TMI x

I don't think talking about sex with someone you consider to be a friend is, in itself, rude or inappropriate.
Some honest discussions with female friends might actually be quite helpful and healthy! Surely women should be able to help each other with genuine concerns - whether relating to sex, childcare, distribution of household chores, problems with in-laws or whatever?
If a friend has a genuine worry or problem with sex, I think it's probably best to listen and then either offer your thoughts or advice if possible or else say something along the lines of "I'm sorry you're having a problem like that. I don't think I can offer any advice and I actually feel a bit uncomfortable talking about such personal things, but I think there are places where you can get some expert advice. I'll help you find out what's available."
If someone is just trying to shock or get a reaction that's different; but you can probably curtail the chat by ignoring the comments, changing the subject, or simply telling them the particular topic is not something you want to talk about.
Maybe some honest chat among women can help dispel the myths and sexist attitudes about sex displayed in many films and TV shows.