Over sharing….. personal information.

Pics disease has these symptoms x

I've got a friend who has told me very intimate things, too - I know all about her husband's fantasies and his lack of hygiene (which made me ask her - why do you continue to sleep with him?)

I'm very open-minded - I worked as a carer for many years and heard and saw lots of embarrassing/taboo things, but I jsu listen and nod politely

Was she deliberately setting out to shock you? I worked with someone like that.
Shock her back and say as you have never had to resort to a Sex clinic you couldn't give any advice.

If it’s not something you want to discuss, just politely say that. There’s no need to be rude - there’s nothing immoral or shameful about our sex lives, but it’s fine if you don’t want to discuss it. Try and do it without embarrassing her or seeming judgemental though.

I like your thinking MissAdventure, brilliant.

Perhaps she’s gay / bisexual and is trying to chat you up?

£1.50 per minute for a sex chat.
Set a stopwatch and remind her how much she is racking up every now and then.

The usual response these days is a pained cry of “too much information”. She will surely get the hint.

No matter others opinions on this Sago. It is you who are being made to feel uncomfortable on this subject. Time to tell your friend this is too much information and you don’t want to discuss her sex life. If you don’t give her a clear message that you don’t want to hear this, she may think you are ok to discuss such matters.

This is not a subject that has been discussed in my circle of friends, some I have known since school days. Quite honestly, I would find it rather boring rather than embarrassing.

Of course, you could have called her bluff and said the vibrator must be faulty and recommended she takes it back to the shop!

If you have ever worked on a chatline then nothing that people talk about can ever shock you! There are people who go onto chatlines because they find it impossible to talk about initmate matters with their friends and family. However they can talk about such things to an unknown person on the phone.

Jane judge indiscriminate inappropriate sexual talk is seen in some people with dementia. Very sad but the OP ‘s friend misjudged who would be happy to discuss her sex life.

Someone I know has a medical condition that has caused her to have a loss in inhibitions and sometimes she says some really inappropriate things in public, a bit similar to what you have described and we usually just tell her and she apologises.

I’m not shocked. People talk about all kinds of things. I don’t want to discuss other peoples sex lives

Just tell her you would greatly prefer her to keep that sort of topic private.

If she really needs to discuss it with someone, you feel too embarrassed to help her, which is a reasonable point of view.

She should be able to respect this.

I'm not shocked by any aspect of human sexuality; I could happily talk about it for hours, but the point is that it would be my choice to do so, not just because someone else decides I have to listen to them.

I have never had this sort of conversation with friends; one group of women I know quite well spent much of their time complaining about their husbands and booted them out of the marital bed in their fifties, so sex didn't appear to be much of an issue. Those who had/ have happy marriages rarely discussed it, and only in the most general terms.
But I like to think I wouldn't be too shocked.

I agree with Iam.

It wouldn't bother me to be honest but I'd be no use as my sex life has always been good.

As you have not told her otherwise she probably thinks you are ok listening to her, how is she supposed to know you do not like it.

I wouldn’t want to spend time with someone so lacking in boundaries

My two best friends and I have known each other 45 years and have never once had a discussion like this.
I would have said Whoa two much information and laughed it off I think. Maybe she was hoping you’d share too. I’d wait to see if she says something like that again and then tell her you aren’t comfortable.

I might have been a bit naughty and asked what a vibrator was . Actually knowing my friends I would have been more than taken aback.

Antonia

I really, really, wouldn't want this kind of information. Some things are private. I would try to deflect her by an inane comment about the weather.

I think that's the best suggestion.

Just shut her up and say ‘too much information’, that’s what I do with people like that. It happened recently and I just said I didn’t want to hear it. She stopped and, believe it or not, we are still friends.