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Ignorant or acceptable?

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JackK Mon 28-Mar-22 17:29:44

Sachamac - I wondered about embarrassment too ... I'm hoping that's the reason.
I'm away for the next 3 Saturday nights so unfortunately (or fortunately!) won't be able to monitor any change.
They're owners, so no chance of contacting a landlord.
Thanks everyone! And yes, SN is sex noise!

AGAA4 Mon 28-Mar-22 17:03:25

I think with some people responding in kind is the only way. If you have been reasonable and they are just ignoring you wait for the sex noises and put some loud silly music on. Maybe the birdie song.

Visgir1 Mon 28-Mar-22 16:51:59

Friend had a noise issue with neighbours, parties until early hours of the morning.
Her husband on a Sunday was due on duty at 7 am so at about 6.30 am as he left the house, he went to the "party" house kept ringing the door bell until someone came downstairs to answer it. He in a cool, sarcastic way, told them that he wasn't impressed with the repeat racket last night, and thought they would appreciate an early morning wake up call.... It worked.

DiscoDancer1975 Mon 28-Mar-22 16:49:33

You need to keep a record...video/ audio if you can, if all else has failed. Then contact your council Environmental department.

It’s horrible isn’t it. I wish you all the best.

JaneJudge Mon 28-Mar-22 16:46:43

Well if they are ignorant I think you've made it pretty clear what is acceptable and hopefully they will be more considerate.

I'd be tempted to start texting them if loud sex noise continues on a Sunday morning, things like - HAVE YOU FOUND IT YET?

Calendargirl Mon 28-Mar-22 16:42:28

kittylester

Please tell what SN stands for.

Sex Noise?

Callistemon21 Mon 28-Mar-22 16:17:49

Are they renting?
Could you contact the owner of the property if so?

SachaMac Mon 28-Mar-22 16:15:14

They sound truly awful, I have lovely neighbours and that’s one of the main reasons I wouldn’t consider moving, you just don’t know who you’re going to get stuck with. Maybe because they’ve been drinking they are oblivious to how loud they are, it will be interesting to see if it’s as bad this Saturday now you’ve messaged them about it. It’s ignorant of them not to at least acknowledge your text, they could be embarrassed or is it more likely they’re the kind of people who just don’t give a damn.

crazyH Mon 28-Mar-22 16:02:03

Noise Abatement Society, I think, is a charity set up to resolve noise problems, between neighbours.

JackK Mon 28-Mar-22 15:59:39

I think my restraint originates from living alone ... and they're not the nicest people (if you catch my drift!) Everyone in the road (including me) seems to keep themselves to themselves ... I've lived here for 17 years and it's always been the same. Their non-joined neighbours are relatively new, and seem similar from what I've heard two houses away, so I daren't ask them in case it got back to the noisy neighbours ?

kittylester Mon 28-Mar-22 15:58:08

Please tell what SN stands for.

Dee1012 Mon 28-Mar-22 15:53:45

Personally, I think you've shown restraint...as you said, if it's every week I'm afraid I wouldn't be apologising.

Oddly enough I was chatting with someone who lives locally to me and is suffering hugely with antisocial behaviour from neighbours, on reporting the noise again (as instructed by police), she's had a call from the council who told her as the complaints generally about these people now number in excess of 10, no more letters will be sent to them as, they could accuse the council of harassment confused.

Is this the world we have created??!!

JackK Mon 28-Mar-22 15:50:01

We're semi detached and I'm joined onto them, so I don't know if anyone else is disturbed?
I'd considered contacting environmental health, if they don't reply, but since it's only on a Saturday afternoon/night/Sunday early hours, I don't know if I'd have a valid complaint?

Hithere Mon 28-Mar-22 15:44:12

No, it's not too much to expect a reply but you are talking about people who don't seem to have much consideration for others

May I ask if you are the only who is impacted by their actions? How about other neighbours?
Strength in numbers could help

If they are breaking any rules, could you tell them that the noise ordinances/ other rule are being broken and impacting their community?

JackK Mon 28-Mar-22 15:34:40

Every Saturday is hell. My neighbours come home from wherever, and all hell breaks loose. They both have loud voices anyway, but after a few beers the volume increases dramatically. The noise goes on until the early hours which is then followed by gruesome sex noise that continues for at least an hour. This week, the noise (punctuated by SN at 3am) continued until I left for work at 6.30am. At around 3.30 I shouted "Shut the fuck up", and he shouted something back and banged the wall.
I got his number off a mutual friend and sent him this text on Sunday afternoon. I've had no reply ... is that him being rude, or me expecting too much?