AIBU - Friends have booked same holiday

Lucca

She asked AIBU!

And most replied ‘yes’, so I’m sure she gets the drift,

But some of the comments are so scathing and condescending.

I’m not surprised some new posters never post again, that’s all.

I can't understand why your husband is so upset. You are going on a holiday that you are looking forward to. Many people won't be able to afford any sort of holiday at the present time so he needs to get things in perspective.

Missiseff

There's a war on. People are starving. Homeless. Can't afford a weekend away let alone many cruises. And you're upset about what exactly?? Perspective. ?

We're still allowed get a nnoyed about other things.

Lucca

She asked AIBU!

And some of conclude she is

She asked AIBU!

Reading through these comments, I feel sorry for LizzyG, the OP.

She says it was her first time opening up on here about a ‘problem’, and judging by the replies, I should think it will be her last!

Some of them sound rather harsh.

Esspee

Callistemon21

Of course! Cruising is such a status thing. All the way up to luxury yachts. And they have gone oneup by booking earlier.

Well, I never knew

Absolutely with you there Callistemon21.

Just to clarify, Esspee - I was responding to loopyloo who posted that gem - I can't take the credit!
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Lucca

Treetops05

I'd be angry too, and using your booking to get a discount without your knowledge? I'd avoid on a permanent basis.

Why why why would you be angry ??? (Not the discount thing)

and with you too Lucca.

Callistemon21

^Of course! Cruising is such a status thing. All the way up to luxury yachts. And they have gone oneup by booking earlier^.

Well, I never knew

Absolutely with you there Callistemon21.

Treetops05

I'd be angry too, and using your booking to get a discount without your knowledge? I'd avoid on a permanent basis.

Why why why would you be angry ??? (Not the discount thing)

There's a war on. People are starving. Homeless. Can't afford a weekend away let alone many cruises. And you're upset about what exactly?? Perspective. ?

I'd be angry too, and using your booking to get a discount without your knowledge? I'd avoid on a permanent basis.

Rumpunch

You are right to be upset. This is a new ship and it is special to you. I would be annoyed too.
My Mum has a friend who has to do everything first- so much so, she never tells her what's she's doing until she's done it. Otherwise, she always manages to pip her at the post. Big or small. Visit to the postal museum or a holiday to Australia. She's there to do it first. Now my mum tells her she doesn't know where she's going as I'm taking her as a surprise !

It’s not special to them !! It’s a whopping great cruise ship open to anyone who wants to book.

You are right to be upset. This is a new ship and it is special to you. I would be annoyed too.
My Mum has a friend who has to do everything first- so much so, she never tells her what's she's doing until she's done it. Otherwise, she always manages to pip her at the post. Big or small. Visit to the postal museum or a holiday to Australia. She's there to do it first. Now my mum tells her she doesn't know where she's going as I'm taking her as a surprise !

Just avoid all contact with them in the time between their holiday and yours. Better still, just tell them that you don't want to know and prefer to reserve judgement for yourselves. Simple.

I think if your husband is really down about this, there’s a bigger problem lurking with his lack of resilience.

I’m not minimising his feelings; could you encourage him to talk to someone before it spoils other aspects of his life?

Yes, you're being totally unreasonable. You're responsible for your own actions and you don't have to listen to your friends telling you in advance, you can simply say they will spoil it for you and you don't want them to talk about it. They have a perfect right to go on the same cruise ship as you especially as they're keen cruisers, and they're not even going at the same time as you.

It just doesn't seem worth getting worked up about really!

I’m sorry but I hunk this is a little over the top. If you don’t want to advertise your plans then don’t. It’s hardly surprising if you tell people about a wonderful holiday and people think, wow I’d love to do that too. They may not have used your name to get a discount, simply saying I have friends going and how about a discount might have been enough. My friends ask for discounts and upgrades successfully every time. Have a wonderful time and forget any ideas of being miffed.

Oh dear what happens if they have a truly awful experience. I do hope not.

Honestly, I feel you’re over dramatising, your husband really is
Look at the serious stuff people around you are struggling with, count your blessings and stop ruminating

Nothing to add except are you sailing from Portsmouth ? I’ve seen the Virgin cruise liner docked up as I live here , it’s visible from the motorway , can honestly say it’s magnificent as cruise ships go and I am enormously jealous ! Just drop a casual comment that you don’t want them to tell you anything as you don’t want to spoil your surprise but when you get back you can get together and compare notes. Have an amazing time

True

Well it is a shame that they went on and booked your dream holiday and will be enjoying it before you get to go, they are a bit cheeky. After 2 years of Covid it will still be an amazing adventure, as others said avoid them if you want to keep everything fresh or get them to share tips so your holidays is the best it can be. Your time together is precious, enjoy your holiday.

when my son was young we tried each year to go to a holiday park, he ran out of school one day and it was mum mum whats the place we are going to, i told him and his friends mother said they would like to go, her son was lovely but the mum & dad were heavy drinkers and very loud, they booked it and we did not look forward to it, just a few days before we went my mil had a bad fall, holiday cancelled, we explained to the travel agent and they got us a holiday for later on in the summer at a different park, 2 weeks for the price of 1 and half board, it was the best holiday we ever had and my son still talks about it. i can understand how your husband feels, this holiday was exciting for you both and it does sound a bit like they are stealing your thunder by going first, maybe best to avoid them and if you can't just very nicely say, thanks but we don't want to know anything before we go.