Men ageing vs women.

Women are valued for their beauty and youth, men for their skills

Equality is a long time to be achieved

I know many men who have aged really well and many women who though older are far from invisible but quite honestly I don’t care about appearance. It is what the person is like that matters.

I've noticed the phenomenon of the glam, looks-after-herself older women with an older, balding, podgy, badly dressed, slightly scruffy, very ordinary husband in tow.

I think men and women age equally. If any thing with women it's a bit more rapid.
But whereas men tend not to care how they look, most women will make an effort to look nice.

Then you get the. How come he's wirh such a nice looking wife?
Men don't give a damn and seem to think they look great regardless. I kind of envy them their attitude

I don't really pay much attention to this stuff, maybe it's just me but I just see them and don't notice if they change hair or makeup easily but I did read something recently about Monica from friends (can't remember her real name) having all her fillers removed and she looked absolutely beautiful afterwards... And I could see the contrast there.

I think peoples beauty is in their warmth and their smiles and how they treat other people.

Abusive people I have known just look like monsters to me.

It's a bit The Twits lol

You only have look to notice young women with older single/divorced/widowed men, who often have their own homes, ACs gone from home.

I know of 2 couples, the young wives left the older husbands as soon as their joint children left school.
With half of their assets.

Very rarely have I seen a much younger man with an older lady.

I don't know about anyone else but I try to help my husband retain his well groomed look. He is very good at watching his weight and taking exercise. It helps me try to stay groomed and well kept to. We make the effort for each other.

My husband looks great ,people often refuse to believe he has children in their mid forties and mid thirties.He dresses well ,has thick curly hair ,good teeth and I'm very happy to be seen with him.He did worki n a job where image was important and always wanted to look his best
My daughter says she always liked older men ,people like Peirce Brosnan or George Clooney but her Dad looks equally as good as them if not better and her friends all say the same .
He did look very like Cat Stevens when I married him ,Cat Stevens had aged very well too

It strikes me that women are often worrying about their weight and diets of various sorts are frequent subjects of conversation. Just look around, and see how many men are seriously overweight! I bet they don't spend a lot of time thinking how to deal with it.

BigBertha and paddyann54 posted while I was composing mine - obviously their husbands (and mine) are not part of the problem!

Annoyingly, age has been kinder to Mr Dog than to me, too. And he's older than me ?.

He was/is never the type to be vain, either, and is not of the moisturising or self-care generation - a shower every day and a bit of aftershave on special occasions is the extent of his 'routine'.

Still, I get to look at him, but he has to look at me, so it's not all bad . . . ?

In Italy older women are still treated with charm and respect, they don’t become invisible!

Anyway I’d just like the chance to age a bit more …

Men age better than women. A grey haired man looks ‘distinguished’ - a grey haired woman looks ‘old’

The problem with male pop star teenage heart-throbs is when young they were invariably very good looking with a full head of hair, and then we may not see them for decades when all of a sudden they're 70.

It's not that they haven't aged-well, just that they've aged!

crazyH

Men age better than women. A grey haired man looks ‘distinguished’ - a grey haired woman looks ‘old’

Unfortunately for men they can also lose their hair. I appreciate that some women can also lose their hair.

Bald headed men always look older than their years to me. Not every man suits the fully shaved look that some men seem to go for if they have lost their hair on top. Personally, I think it looks a bit thuggish. I sympathise with Prince William. He is very handsome but lost his hair at quite a young age. He would look much more handsome and younger with a full head of hair.

I am not sure who the OP is talking about but there is an actor/singer who was very cute in the 80's - blonde curls/lovely smile. He has lost most of his hair. I didn't even recognise him when he was on tv a while ago.

I don't think its possible to generalise on the basis of sex, it's down to so many factors, genetics and lifestyle choices included. And I really can't agree crazyH that women with grey hair look old. I wear my (still dark) hair in a chin length bob and I'm longing for it to turn that wonderful steely grey or even silver for that matter. IMO it looks so elegant

Gosh, to try and answer the OP I don’t think there’s much to rectify in my real life, media is another matter and driven by a far larger age demographic.
I don’t see the majority of men I encounter as unkempt, or not aged well, there are a few, but not many.
I suppose we could discuss what ‘not aged well’ actually means.
Society has changed, the majority of people wear what used to be termed leisure wear, jeans predominately in my circle. Having said that on the rare occasion when it’s required, everyone ‘scrubs up well’, grey hair, balding or not.

Oopsadaisy1

You only have look to notice young women with older single/divorced/widowed men, who often have their own homes, ACs gone from home.

I know of 2 couples, the young wives left the older husbands as soon as their joint children left school.
With half of their assets.

Very rarely have I seen a much younger man with an older lady.

I have.
A young man will usually target an older women when he realises she has her own home and a good pension.
Over on MN these freeloaders are known as Cocklodgers
Sadly, the older woman is flattered and kids herself that the young man is attracted to her and " I can still pull younger men!"
But sadly it's her financial security that's doing most of the pulling

In looks my DH has aged well.
I think that all be it is grey and almost white, a full head of thick hair helps.
He has a clipped beard which hides any possible lines around the mouth .
When dressed up he looks very handsome, however since retirement he has a new hobby that requires warmth and several layers of clothes (he feels the cold now).

In comparison I have lost weight over 3 stone through healthy and joining the gym, but sadly it shows in my face and loose skin on my arms.
I'm healthy and quite fit for my age now.
I feel I will have to put up with my thin face with lines that were virtually non existent pre weight loss.
Wish it was the norm for female beards!

I am not too bothered about looks. Personality is what counts.
However my daughter , who is applying for life insurance, has just told me how grateful she is that neither of her parents have any serious health issues!

I think most evolved people do appreciate the beauty of older people. The original post suggests a level of judgement of others that I don't experience or witness in real life. It also suggests that most people care very much about appearances and I think most people are too busy getting on with their life to care about 'injectables' and who has had them or whether women with grey hair are 'crones' or whether pop stars age well. Who knows what a person goes through in life and the toll it takes on them.

Personally I am happy as I am. I'm very lucky to be healthy and my body still does the things I ask of it. What a gift that is.

I think that Cary Grant aged well. He was always handsome even in his latter years. ??

Ali Mc Graw .. a poster girl for beauty in age, apparently unenhanced.

I think the important thing as we age is to dress well. My mum was smartly dressed as a young woman but as she got older she just wore stretchy trousers and cardigans. I thought she looked sloppy. Older people can look good as long as they are clean and tidily dressed in reasonably modern clothes.

I just think some men never think of themselves as old, they look in the mirror and see nothing wrong despite being overweight. I think men are far more confident with aging than women. My oh certainly never thinks his trousers or shirts are tight because of weight gain. He started shaving his hair off 30 years ago (think Jason Statham) so no grey and he never ever says anything negative about his appearance.