Men supermarket shopping

I generally do the weekly shop. I make a list and OH adds things to it. When I was in Vienna he did the weekly shop - it seems like he got everything that was required, OH was based in Albania for a couple of years and three years in Egypt. When I wasn’t visiting he managed perfectly well with shopping and cooking. He had a maid for cleaning though. I’m sure there are some men who think it beneath them to do household and domestic tasks. I haven’t met any. It isn’t helpful to generalise.

If my DH is going to be on his own for a few days, he can shop and cook ok, albeit for a limited and very highly predictable range of meals.

Normally, I both cook and do the shopping (mostly online since Covid). On the very rare occasion that I ask him to get anything for me from the supermarket, he will find it, but nearly always calls me about something to make sure it's the right thing. I don't mind that - I would do the same if the boot was on the other foot.

What I hated before started shopping online, was having him trailing round the supermarket with me.
He would either quite literally be in the way, standing between me and the product I wanted to get off the shelf, or, if I ever wanted or needed his opinion on anything, he would be nowhere to be seen! When tracked down, he would usually be standing examining the label on some obscure item.

Oh, and the fun I've had trying to reunite with him. I would spot him at the opposite end of the aisle, gazing up it, quite clearly searching for me, yet not seeing me, even though I would be jumping up and down, waving my hands wildly, to try to make myself visible. I would see him move on to the bottom of the next aisle, so I would do the same at my end and repeat my jumping and waving, and so it would go on until I would have to run several aisles ahead, race down one and finally be right there next to him where he couldn't fail to see me.
This trolley dash was funny the first time, and probably hilarious for anyone watching, but it became rather frustrating when it happened every week!

DH does most domestic chores but not cooking or good shopping. I rarely ask him to pick anything up in a shop....they never have what he has been asked to get!!!!

VANECAM
I don’t know what circle of Neanderthals you mix with but your view isn’t representative of single/ widowed/ divorced men I know.

Mine hates shopping but would if he had to but is a dab hand at clearing up!

Mine is OK he does a list, I add to it for extra stuff, then gets exactly what’s on the list - in 10mins flat.
Speedshopping.

LOL

Well said Maw

And when their wives are no longer there through death or divorce, men just wither away and die due to their sheer inability to shop. Well known fact!

Of course it isn’t a fact , it simply doesn’t hold water. Even in his 80’s my Dad coped with varying degrees of success (mostly due to his own poor health) after Mum died (I was 350 miles away). My sister-in-law passed away 3 1/2 years away and my brother was still alive last time I looked.

However some women like to perpetuate the myth that men are hopeless at shopping/in the kitchen in the same way that some men used to think women hadn’t the mental capacity to have the vote and some still like to think women can’t “do” finance/park a car/ put up a shelf or understand the finer points of the offside rule!

MerylStreep

VANECAM

It’s a well known fact that most if not almost all men are utterly useless in a domestic setting.

Utter tosh !!!!!!

It’s a well known fact.
Only saying!

And when their wives are no longer there through death or divorce, men just wither away and die due to their sheer inability to shop. Well known fact!

My DH goes out most mornings and does a lot of our food shopping; he is excellent at finding bargains and takes advantage of special offers. He also does a lot of the cooking and is better at it than me as he is more organised with timings.

Orlin shops efficiently, I shop efficiently but we don’t shop together. I go in with a list whizz round and out. He goes in with a list and takes longer. Together I can’t bear that he will spend ten minutes looking at tickets to work out which are cheapest per 100 ml. For goodness sake just pick one and move on.
Since covid we shop on line, I put in the general stuff and he adds what he wants, he probably changes a few bits if he thinks another size or brand will save 2p.
Hey ho.

My husband does most of our shopping. Men hold down jobs with more complicated stuff in all walks of life so there is no reason why they can't walk around some aisles and pick up stuff off the shelves.

VANECAM

It’s a well known fact that most if not almost all men are utterly useless in a domestic setting.

Utter tosh !!!!!!

MrJ managed shopped just fine when I was ill a few years ago and actually cooked/cleared up too, fancy, a man doing all that!
Generally I shop, online mostly, but I’m retired and he works, seems fair to me.

youtu.be/-YFRUSTiFUs

While I accept that many men can cook and do the shopping perfectly well (all my sons are fine with it), I still find this YouTube clip funny. I think it was originally recommended by someone here on GN.

VANECAM

It’s a well known fact that most if not almost all men are utterly useless in a domestic setting.

Not in my family or social circle - why would it be so?
Can only assume you are being facetious.

I was shopping recently and an older gentleman asked me where the bin liners were. He was a typical German pensioner of the generation where the woman stayed at home, cleaning the house all day, but he was clutching a list his wife had obviously written for him. Perhaps she was ill or something.

I would have loved to help but couldn't for the life of me think where the bin liners were in that particular shop. He must have found them in the end and I spent the rest of my time there worrying what happened when he got to the bin liners .

10, 20, 35 or 60 litres? Bunny ears or drawstring? Degradable or not? Plastic or paper? If he only had "bin liners" on his list, I hate to think what he came away with, and what his wife said when he got them home.

My DH certainly requires a sheet of A4 for each item purchased. It's quicker to do it myself.

Totally disagree VANECAM my husband like many others does all the shopping and cooking for us. He can turn his hand to most domestic tasks and is not afraid to do so. There would be a lot of complaints if the sort of comments aimed at men on here were targeting women.

It takes limited intelligence to be able to shop, how does he cope with more taxing issues.

Men are smarter than the credit we give them

Google emotional labour - no joke

Iam64

I’d be mortified if mr i or my sons in law couldn’t do a weekly or nip in and get something for tea shop.
These men are fully grown, they managed employment why is shopping beyond them? Even more of a question, why do women pander to it

exactly.
OP, just tell him you don't really care, and need to rest now. let him get what he likes.
don't encourage this learned incompetence.
the more he does, the better he'll get.
tell him that.
if he protests, point out there is nothing specific to female anatomy that enables efficient shopping.
many years ago i started taking phone messages with my left hand. it looked childish but legible.
he is childish at shopping because he has as much experience at doing it as a child has.
practice makes perfect.

Of course men can shop. IMO it's simply that some of them just can't be arsed to, if someone else will do it. (Some women are like that, too!)

My two sons are contrasting shoppers. The older one adds to his list during the week and uses it when he shops. He is efficiency personified. His brother goes round the supermarket and buys whatever he thinks they might need. His partner manages a large supermarket and also brings in necessities as well as a few luxuries. When I go to visit I am flabbergasted at the contents of two fridge-freezers! They are both vegans but the boys are still carnivores! I might add that I take no credit or responsibility for their shopping habits.

Men can step up to be counted when required. What about the men who have brought up a child or children on their own? They would have to deal with all domestic issues and they do.

VANECAM

It’s a well known fact that most if not almost all men are utterly useless in a domestic setting.

Mine isn't. I trained him well over the last forty years ?