Men supermarket shopping

Mr. B does nearly all of our shopping, though I have to write him a list

Have you tried Click and Collect. You order online and he picks it up. Men seem to prefer this to finding their way around Supermarkets.

Count F comes with me every week. Whilst yours truly shops for essentials such as fruit, vegetables, meat, joghurt etc. HE loads the trolley with crisps, chocolate, peanuts and wine if it is on special offer. Whilst I have no objection to the latter, the former are definitely unnecessary

He is still out, fortunately! but would you believe he has phoned me twice, first about the apples, I told him Gala, before he left, then yogurt.

I think my DH would shop OK if he had to. Having him come with me to the supermarket is pleasant in a way - and he helps me to remember things - but he's so slow wandering round with the trolley it drives me up the wall!

I’d be mortified if mr i or my sons in law couldn’t do a weekly or nip in and get something for tea shop.
These men are fully grown, they managed employment why is shopping beyond them? Even more of a question, why do women pander to it

Iam64 says it for me. Grown men who can’t shop? What did they do before they married? Did they always live with their mothers? I think some women, including mothers, like men to be helpless in order to feel useful.

I was only having a moan because I am stuck in bed not feeling well and I don't pander to him, and I don't appreciate the sarky comments.

Toscalily to be fair I think Gala apples have finished at present!

I haven’t cooked or food shopped for 20 years but I think I could find my way round a supermarket if I had to.

That was the problem, there were Gala & Royal Gala so he wasn't sure which to buy (local Aldi).

Grandma70s

Iam64 says it for me. Grown men who can’t shop? What did they do before they married? Did they always live with their mothers? I think some women, including mothers, like men to be helpless in order to feel useful.

You sum it up very well.

It’s a well known fact that most if not almost all men are utterly useless in a domestic setting.

Mine isn't.

VANECAM

It’s a well known fact that most if not almost all men are utterly useless in a domestic setting.

Mine isn't. I trained him well over the last forty years ?

Men can step up to be counted when required. What about the men who have brought up a child or children on their own? They would have to deal with all domestic issues and they do.

My two sons are contrasting shoppers. The older one adds to his list during the week and uses it when he shops. He is efficiency personified. His brother goes round the supermarket and buys whatever he thinks they might need. His partner manages a large supermarket and also brings in necessities as well as a few luxuries. When I go to visit I am flabbergasted at the contents of two fridge-freezers! They are both vegans but the boys are still carnivores! I might add that I take no credit or responsibility for their shopping habits.

Of course men can shop. IMO it's simply that some of them just can't be arsed to, if someone else will do it. (Some women are like that, too!)

Iam64

I’d be mortified if mr i or my sons in law couldn’t do a weekly or nip in and get something for tea shop.
These men are fully grown, they managed employment why is shopping beyond them? Even more of a question, why do women pander to it

exactly.
OP, just tell him you don't really care, and need to rest now. let him get what he likes.
don't encourage this learned incompetence.
the more he does, the better he'll get.
tell him that.
if he protests, point out there is nothing specific to female anatomy that enables efficient shopping.
many years ago i started taking phone messages with my left hand. it looked childish but legible.
he is childish at shopping because he has as much experience at doing it as a child has.
practice makes perfect.

Men are smarter than the credit we give them

Google emotional labour - no joke

It takes limited intelligence to be able to shop, how does he cope with more taxing issues.

Totally disagree VANECAM my husband like many others does all the shopping and cooking for us. He can turn his hand to most domestic tasks and is not afraid to do so. There would be a lot of complaints if the sort of comments aimed at men on here were targeting women.

I was shopping recently and an older gentleman asked me where the bin liners were. He was a typical German pensioner of the generation where the woman stayed at home, cleaning the house all day, but he was clutching a list his wife had obviously written for him. Perhaps she was ill or something.

I would have loved to help but couldn't for the life of me think where the bin liners were in that particular shop. He must have found them in the end and I spent the rest of my time there worrying what happened when he got to the bin liners .

10, 20, 35 or 60 litres? Bunny ears or drawstring? Degradable or not? Plastic or paper? If he only had "bin liners" on his list, I hate to think what he came away with, and what his wife said when he got them home.

My DH certainly requires a sheet of A4 for each item purchased. It's quicker to do it myself.

VANECAM

It’s a well known fact that most if not almost all men are utterly useless in a domestic setting.

Not in my family or social circle - why would it be so?
Can only assume you are being facetious.