Stepson aggressive towards me

Good advice Hithere.

OP

He is not your stepson if you are not married.

Your partner should not be allowing this to happen. What is HE doing about it?

Assuming he steps up and insists his son respects you and you really want your relationship to continue then you need the protection of marriage.

If he won't control his son then your partner is guilty of disrespecting you and in that case I suggest you are being used and should think carefully about whether you are getting treated fairly and consider moving out.

You could look into getting Attendance Allowance for your partner, might help with the financial situation. I would suggest that your partner speaks to his son and insists that he either treat you with respect or keep away. It sounds like your partner's son could be jealous of your relationship and is demonstrating in the only way he knows how. He must stop as it's patently unfair and abusive.

He would have a 2 word response from me. One of those is off

Does your partner his stepson treat you like this?
If so, why does he allow it?

So many issues in just one post

I am not sure all the fault relies on the stepson.

Your partner has health issues and only a few thousand pounds left.
How is he planning to support himself for the rest of his life?
Dont tell me you are the plan (free caregiver and bank account)

The house is the inheritance- does stepson acknowledge this?
When your partner passes away, the stepson seems to be the type to create drama

Why did your partner buy him a house?

You are not married - when your partner dies, unless there is a financial agreement or anything legal setup, you are on your own

Are you planning for your retirement and health issues?
What would happen if you cannot take care of your partner anymore?
What if you need care?
How long could you pay the rent?

Summary-
While your partner still has mental faculty, run to a lawyer and make sure you are taken care of if you get hurt while caring for him, passes away, etc.

The stepson here is the least of your issues.

Of course you want the abuse to stop. Can you minimise or just stop contact between you and stepson. Manage his visits to dad by agreed dates and times, with you out the house.

Thanks for the replies. There is no inheritance issue per se because the bulk of the estate has already been paid out in the form of the property. Partner only has a few thousand left. Stepson has a partner and three young children which is why partner gave him the house. It has been pointed out to him that I am his unpaid carer/housekeeper/driver etc. Partner knows this but stepson refuses to take this on board.
I am sick of the abuse however which has been going on for a number of years and want to put a stop to it. Thank you so much for all your kind comments.

Aggression and hostility are unacceptable. This young man sounds unpleasant and selfish. What is your partner’s role in protecting and defending you. Is there a possible inheritance issue

Ok... I have read your thread and I am so sorry you are having all this...

I ask myself WHY is this taking place, do you think the stepson has regrets at not being able to look after his dad and its manifested into hurtful words to you who IS looking after his dad ?

How can he say your sponging off his dad when a property as been purchased for him !

It seems to me that jealousy is lurking about ....

An unpaid caring job which you are doing is not sponging. You should tell your stepson this. He would have to look after hi father or pay someone if you weren't there.
Don't put up with this situation.

No you are absolutely not being unreasonable avalon.

This is harassment and my advice is put in writing to your stepson that if he doesn't desist, you will be taking legal advice.