Dh and I have been friendly with an old colleague of mine for over 30 years. We have had regular short breaks in various European countries and met up regularly for shows, concerts and dinners out. We live a distance from each other so visits to each other's houses have been infrequent. Pre Covid we had flights booked for Rome but when the airline cancelled she opted to defer our trip rather than take the refund, which was fine. She asked me for dates once it was deemed safe to fly and I gave her several. I said we could be flexible around those dates and she said she could make all of them. We hardened down to June dates. She intimated that she needed to book by a cut off date, some two months in the future. Heard nothing and I text her a few times but had no replies. I guessed she had missed the cut off date when it had passed without any response. I said in a text not to worry if she'd missed it, perhaps we could meet up in England for an overnight stay and a show. No response. Anyway months passed, my birthday missed then two days ago an expensive Christmas gift arrived and flowers. I text my thanks. She then called to ask if she had missed my birthday. I was cool. No apology or explanation from her just inconsequential chat. I asked what had happened but she deflected. She mentioned she'd been on holiday with a relative spanning two of the dates I'd provided! I feel hurt and puzzled. I had told her dh had some health issues and we might need to park him in a bar while we did the sights. Should I just drop her?
