Norah
TopSec, granto2, MadeInYorkshire
And really? Anyone suffering the death of a love.
Thank you Norah.
@MadeInYorkshire. I truly know what you are going through. The loss of a child, no matter how old, is not the right order. For you the loss is very recent and I know that your heart is breaking. My heart was broken in 2009 and is still in pieces. Whilst I cannot tell you how to cope with your grief, I can say that, although you will never, ever get over the loss of your daughter, you will learn to cope and live with it. Your grief becomes a silent part of you, the part that you will probably hide from others. It will raise its ugly head every now and then, and when it does, let it have its 5 minutes, then give it a kick and put it back in its place. If you don't it will destroy you, and you know that that is not what your daughter and all others who love you, would want. I read an article written by a lady who lost her son and she wrote these words which have stayed with me:
" when he died, I went into a dark, wet, cold tunnel. It was a horrible place and I was cold, unloved, and hurting. It was a sad place. I thought I would stay there forever. After a while though a saw a flicker of light in the distance, and over the months and years, that light got brighter. I could hear laughter and feel the warmth of the sun and I knew I would be okay. Whilst the tunnel became a better place to be, I know I will always be in a tunnel, but that's okay, for now"
I am sure those are not her exact words but I hope they help in some small way. I send you my love.
PS : Try reading the book, or watching the film "the shack". It may help depending on your beliefs.