Just answer the question😬.

Monica

dragonfly46

Both my son and DH wear invisible headphones!

My husband listens to stuff on his phone, eg sports commentaries, via his Bluetooth hearing aids.
I can't tell, so I just talk to him as normal and he genuinely doesn't hear me.
Then when I get his attention there's a lot of,
"Ooh, ooh, hang about, just a minute, there, hang on, what was it?" while he faffs about switching it off and is eventually ready to listen to me.
By which time I'm probably in another room doing something else as the moment has passed 🙄

My DH used to often answer a question with a question.
Me - what would you like for dinner?
Him - what would you like?
Me- salmon
Him- I would like curry 🤦

grandtante we are not _objecting now.We have, as you say, lived with it for years and someone with dementia is not going to go through the logical thought processes that lie behind every answer.

It is just that, now and again, it is nice to have a little moan with someone who can share our exasperation. because they experience it themselves.

Its called manspeak in this house and after 25 years I am now almost fluent and even pose questions of my own to Mr Keepcalm.!

AGAA4

My DH used to often answer a question with a question.
Me - what would you like for dinner?
Him - what would you like?
Me- salmon
Him- I would like curry 🤦

Reading that out to my husband he said ‘what’s wrong with that?’ I had to explain that all he had to do was answer the first question!

Must be very irritating!
Mine doesn’t do that but he just doesn’t listen - and it’s not as if I’m nattering away all day - far from it. Countless times he’s said he didn’t know such and such, when I absolutely know I told him not long ago.
I’ve come to the conclusion that he hears, but without actually listening or taking anything in, IYSWIM.
I shouldn’t moan though - he’s not a bad old bugger really. I wouldn’t swop him!

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

We go I know your pain. DH also tells me something I have just told him.

Which suit are you wearing for the wedding? I’m not buying a new suit I’ve got plenty

Yebbut if he knows that, if he answers straightforwardly, your next comment will be "that suit is a mess", he's actually saving time

My DH does that too! Must be a man thing ….

Charleygirl5

Thank God I now live on my own as that would drive me crazy.

I’m with you on this one!

Me: it's very cold today, isn't it?
OH: well, it's not warm.

Me: It's very warm today, isn't it?
OH: well, it's not cold.

BigBertha1

We go I know your pain. DH also tells me something I have just told him.

My DH does this. I think that he thinks that he has just thought it rather than me just saying it.

I usually say, 'I've just said that'. He just looks puzzled then

He isn't that old. I think he just half listens to everything I say

Some of these complaints seem to be about tactful husbands trying not to disagree, or simply being polite. One classic situation was discussed in another thread, on asking how items of clothing looked on the wife. I suggested then that the only safe reply was along the lines of 'You look wonderful in anything in anything, darling'.