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A little whinge

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NotSpaghetti Sun 12-Mar-23 08:37:51

I think it's odd to sit next to hhe only person on the bus.
If you hoped for a bit of a chat you could always sit just across the aisle.

MerylStreep Sun 12-Mar-23 08:30:08

Maybe she was a friendly person who wanted to have a chat.
She obviously picked up your frosty vibes and thought better of it. 😊

Calendargirl Sun 12-Mar-23 08:27:16

I would feel annoyed if someone sat next to me if there were plenty of other seats available. Completely different if the bus were nearly full.

I don’t think this makes me ‘standoffish’, just don’t want to sit next to strangers if not necessary.

And please, before anyone says ‘A stranger is just a friend you haven’t met yet’ or similar….

Poppyred Sun 12-Mar-23 08:20:00

Agree Patsy70 most annoying! I have a friend who carries a traffic cone in her boot so that she can avoid such situations! 🤭

micmc47 Sun 12-Mar-23 08:11:27

Interesting how the take on "personal space" has cultural differences. On a virtually deserted beach in Portugal, we were nonplussed when a large family of locals arrived and plonked themselves down right next to us. Yes, we moved away down the beach, no doubt adding to the unfortunate reputation of "Brits Abroad". Had a similar experience in Sweden, where we were happily relaxing at a lakeside picnic table, and with other tables vacant, a Swedish couple decided to join us. Our initial discomfort quickly faded, and we had a pleasant chat.

Ginny42 Sun 12-Mar-23 07:08:59

My whinge is when I park my Focus - not a small car - and I arrive back to it in a car park to find a 4x4 on each side. I then shimmy into the seat trying not to mark either mine or theirs and edge out in centimetres until I have clear vision of whether another driver may be approaching.

The absolute worst scenario is when there is someone waiting for my space and sits drumming on the steering wheel whilst I to and fro to get enough swing to vacate the space. Whinge over!

Ladyleftfieldlover Sun 12-Mar-23 06:58:31

I think ‘standoffish’ is the word we’re all searching for.

mumofmadboys Sun 12-Mar-23 06:43:25

Perhaps she was lonely and hoped to have a chat?

BlueBelle Sun 12-Mar-23 06:18:50

Oh my goodness I think you are being really petty
Why shouldn’t she sit where she wants in the bus ? I just can’t believe that that could bother anyone enough to start a conversation over it
Well let’s hope you always travel in future on an empty bus
😂😂😂

henetha Sat 11-Mar-23 23:38:30

That annoys me too Patsy 70. Especially if I'm on the moors having a picnic in my car and just want peace and quiet to read my book etc.
Gggggrrrrrrrrr

cornergran Sat 11-Mar-23 19:48:02

Me too purpledaffodil. What a useful gizmo to have.

Purpledaffodil Sat 11-Mar-23 19:46:19

DD has a new car on order that will glide forward a little way to let you open the door if someone has parked too close to you. I have car gizmo envy 🤣

Patsy70 Sat 11-Mar-23 19:36:42

I know exactly how you feel. What about in a car park, where there are loads of spaces and the very large 4x4 parks next to you?

Hetty58 Sat 11-Mar-23 19:30:17

I bet she always sits in that seat - regardless of circumstances. The world could end and she'd be there in 'her' seat.

I sat with my large bag of books (for the charity shop) on the seat next to me. A stroppy woman got on and demanded that I move them - as she wanted to sit there (when there were plenty of other seats available). I think she wanted to make a point about bags on seats? I just refused point blank and, luckily, the driver backed me up.

overthehill Sat 11-Mar-23 19:21:12

I got on a bus yesterday and a woman with a shopping trolley sat next to me. I know there are more important things in the world than this, but this annoys me. The bus was practically empty, so why sit next to me. She could have gone to the wheelchair bit with her trolley, it was empty with a seat nearby. If that seat was the only one available, then fair enough. Do others have petty grievances?