Left feeling upset by Mother's Day

Think it is very thoughtless not to at least phone you. It is hurtful. But they may just not have realised it was Mothers Day. If it were my son next time you speak to your AC, I would mention that you were a little hurt by lack of contact on the day, and just leave it at that.

*even

And as for dd whose sent nothing- No we havent event fallen out.🤔

I agree Icanhandthemback- i lost my mum over 25 years ago now- i still miss her- but i also love my adult children & my grandchildren and love to receive something or share the day with them, of course i do.

My son and his wife usually invite us over for Mother’s Day , however this year we saw them just before and they gave me a present “ just in case “ they didn’t see me so I guessed I wouldn’t be seeing them , at first I was hurt , but then realised he had to take his children back
Mid morning so they could be with their mum and his in law was having an op later that day . Life had got in the way of what is really an Americanism . I was just happy to get sweets which I don’t eat - constant diet but I know he will when he comes over !! 😂

Same daughter also sent NO cards at all (orgifts) on mine or her brothers birthdays last year!🤨

Sleepygran, we can't eradicate everything in life because some people find it difficult. On that basis you'd eradicate Christmas because some people don't have families, Valentines Day because people don't feel loved, Birthdays because they don't have people to celebrate with, etc. We have to learn to cope with some grief in order to give us the armoury to cope with adversity. Sadly, losing our parents is part and parcel of the circle of life.
Maybe these things shouldn't be so commercialised but that is a different argument.

No cards from the daughter whose partner is manager of a card shop(!)😐

I think your feelings are very understandable. I think it's your husband's job to tell your offspring that they're being "unintentionally" hurtful. I'm sure it's just careless of them. A text costs nothing. You just want to feel "remembered." They just need to stick a bl∅∅dy reminder in their e-diaries!

Card, present and and floral plant from eldest and from husband. Phone calls once my husband put it on family WhatsApp. One child, zero response (mh issues). So I am hurt too. I went to visit my mother with card and flowers etc. 😥

If my children forgot, my husband would let them know how upset I was. Fortunately I have a wonderful DD who organises her two older brothers every year on my birthday and Mother’s Day.

Mother’s Day should be banned!
So many people get upset on this day, those who haven’t got their mothers,estranged mothers, those who can’t be mothers, those with children who carnt be bothered,it’s awful.

My daughter informed me a couple of years ago I wouldn't get cards any more. It was the only time she ever gave me an indication about how she felt about me as she would never buy a card with words she didn't mean so I was upset. This year I got a gif saying "Happy Mother's Day!" Nothing more. I just have to keep telling myself that even though our relationship has been difficult, at least she marked the occasion.
I think the way our children treat us as family is far more important so value your relationship and don't worry about a bit of paper. Younger people just don't do cards in the same way as we do.

Thanks notspaghetti - yes, my DiL is a lovely lady. She and my son chose not to have any children. They have a lovely life and their house is super child-free zone. Must also say that they are super Auntie and Uncle

Card arrived today (tuesday) I was a bit bewildered, but on opening it found it was from my eldest g.daughter (now at uni).. Bless her. Will be keeping that card when the others go to recycling.

I would never tell any of my children I expect a card or present, but I would be more than amazed if one of them gave me £300 I would assume its was a mistake.

the past few years i don't get any cards for anything as my son has said "we don't do cards" meaning him and my dil, it is a text saying, happy whatever and check your bank, i am okay with the no present but i like to get a card, i have even said to go to one of the websites and pick a card and they send it. this year i did get a card and i almost burst into tears when he arrived on saturday evening before starting work to deliver it to me with the usual, happy mothers day and check your bank, living on benefits i am grateful for the £300 pound he put in the bank, but it did take a few weeks of telling him i expect a card this year. maybe your dh should have a word with your ac and tell them how upset you have been and next year a text to them from dh to remind them about mothers day in advance.

I had my second son on Mothering Sunday, the best gift ever!

I think it's a load of commercial hoo ha quite honestly, having said that being totally ignored on such a day would be hurtful commiserations to you Fartooyoung and anyone else who felt hurt by omission. I did wake up on Sunday not realising it was Mother's Day, easily done when we no longer have our own mothers any more. Of course offspring can be inconsiderate, I'm sure I was in my younger days, although I always sent my mother a card and once she was widowed I always took her somewhere nice for a Mother's Day lunch. My less considerate son turned up on Sunday with flowers, chocolates and a card, a gesture I really appreciated, it's not about the money. it's always about the thought. My more considerate son rang me on Sunday to say I've posted the card, still not here though Tuesday morning but he's taking the day off work to take me to lunch on Friday so I appreciate that, although again it's not about the money it's about maintaining the closeness.

I have for most of my adult life believed that there is no point in sitting waiting for things to happen - however nice it is to be pleasantly surprised. That way disappointment lies.
Which is why I suggested being proactive - if you want to see your family, do something about it, with plenty of advance notice and then, if they are in fact committed elsewhere or genuinely too busy, you spare yourself the disappointment.

Paddyann
That’s lovely, you are truly cherished

we spent Mothers day retiling my daughters kitchen not "waiting for flowers to be delivered"

I genuinely dont want stuff ..not for mothers day or birthdays or christmas .I see my kids and GC a lot I dont need THINGS to tell me they love me .I tell themdont spend money on me ..spend it on your own kids .
If your relationship with anyone means more because they buy you gifts in my opinion you have a problem .
The absolutely best gift I had was for my 65th birthday when all the family children and grandchildren spent a day roun d a table and painted little self portraits that they mounted into a frame as a birthday surprise.
It meant so much more that they were /are happy to all be together and when they gave it to me ...all together ...I cried .
Cost them nothing but time and love .
If you have a good relationship with your children cherish that

The good news here Franbern is that not only did your son send you a card but you share a sense of humour with the person he has chosen to spend his life with!

And for so many people it's so poignant. My DL won't be able to have children because of her health.
And children have lost their mother. Perhaps it should become Primary carer day.

I do agree with you grannyactivist. Some measure their worth as a parent by being acknowledged on Mothering Sunday. I think this was a religious tradition, but now “Mother’s Day” is much more commercial and about selling stuff.

I feel sorry for those for whom this day is very important, if they do not have any acknowledgement from ACs. or who have lost loved ones.

We’re not too hot in my family on remembering cards and occasions, but make up for it when we meet. Doesn’t affect our relationships.