Overwhelmed

It's so easy to get bogged down in just getting on with it all.

Sometimes you need to stop, take a step back and a long hard look at everything and everyone.
Good luck 👍

Here’s the kicker … people will continue to take while you continue to give. Just stop. If your son is off sick, he needs to get himself to appointments or ask a friend or another family member. If your daughter needs help, she needs to seek out more professional help or find a helpline or someone else to confide in. If your mother is taking care of your father, leave her to do that, if she has health issues, she needs to discuss these with her doctor.

Sit down with everyone (including your husband) and tell them that you are spreading yourself too thinly and you are stressed and can’t do it anymore. They need to step up and help in some capacity or stop relying on you.

As they say on an aircraft, ‘Put your own mask on before you try to help anyone else’

deedeedoe16, it seems that you have fallen into that trap - of just being a doormat. If I were you, I would simply take to my bed with a mystery 'virus'. I'd read my book, watch films on catch up and expect to have meals and drinks provided.

I think a week could be about enough for a good rest. Think of it as a holiday. The world won't stop without you, as nobody is indispensable. Other people will have to do everything you usually manage. Of course, you'll be just about able to get yourself bathed and dressed - but feel far too dizzy and nauseous to do anything else.

I mentioned my situation on another thread about when my mum was ill. The situation got so bad I thought I was cracking up as I couldn’t cope. My doctor was marvellous and sat listening to me crying about my family. I am one of eight and at the time not one of my siblings helped they were all far too busy. My doctor told me to tell my family to give me a break. It wasn’t until I verbally blasted them that a few were shamed into doing so.

You are too kind and too easily available as suggested up thread you need to assess what needs are the priority. That begins with you stop being too available your husband well he needs to shift himself into action too. People especially family with try it on to get other family to do everything for them. The old saying you can choose your friends but can’t choose your family. Things have changed you don’t have to put up with this be assertive tell them how you feel. Things need to change soon if you became ill who would look after you?💐