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A bit awkward!

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JackK Fri 11-Aug-23 16:28:55

I'd really appreciate a bit of advice please!
My neighbours (late 70s) are away for a week and are paying their DGD to house sit their gorgeous (old) labrador (GOL). As DGD works from 9-9, they asked me to walk him, and feed him each day; I'm absolutely happy to do this as he's no trouble whatsoever.
But ... over the last couple of days I've become a little concerned, as the house is a mess (washing up not done, dirty plates everywhere and dog poo in the garden). Plus today - there was no water in his water bowl. I've given him clean water and cleared away the dog poo, but am not sure whether to do anything more ... or to just leave it? I'd hate them to come back to a mess!
I'm sure that someone will say that DGD will probably have a big clean up before my neighbours return ... but I've cared for GOL before, and the mess was just left. My common sense tells me to just care and clean up after GOL, am I right?!

BlueBelle Fri 11-Aug-23 16:33:24

No please DONT touch their house by all means make sure the dog is fed and more importantly watered but it’s definitely not your place to be clearing up, washing up etc
So from me a big NO NO NO

Germanshepherdsmum Fri 11-Aug-23 16:38:37

I think you’re doing the right thing, make sure the dog has food and water and clean up his mess (it distresses dogs if this isn’t done) but leave everything else, that’s down to the daughter.

Juliet27 Fri 11-Aug-23 16:38:38

Might have been easier for you to have the dog living with you for the week?

AGAA4 Fri 11-Aug-23 16:43:05

You've been asked to look after the dog not clean up after their DGD.

JackK Fri 11-Aug-23 16:46:22

Thank you all. Yes, I'd have happily kept him in my home for the week - but my cat wouldn't have been so happy!

Callistemon21 Fri 11-Aug-23 16:46:48


You've been asked to look after the dog not clean up after their DGD.


Theexwife Fri 11-Aug-23 17:02:55

If the mess was left before when they went away then maybe they dont mind that the granddaughter doesn't clean up.

I know my grandson does a big cleanup before his parents come back from holiday, my daughter has no idea the mess the house is in whilst they are away.

Callistemon21 Fri 11-Aug-23 17:15:07

Is she a teenager?

In my experience they are happy to live in chaos then have a big clean-up once in a blue moon!

Then they get their own place and woe betide you if you put anything in the wrong place 😀

Callistemon21 Fri 11-Aug-23 17:17:09

As DGD works from 9-9
Long hours, tired when she gets home - give her a break.
Just see to the dog and make sure there's no old food around that he could reach - Labs will eat anything!

M0nica Fri 11-Aug-23 17:26:48

long hours, tired when she gets home - give her a break

In which case how does she find the time to mess the house up the way the OP describes?

It is much less effort just to keep things ordered as you go in those circumstances.

Callistemon21 Fri 11-Aug-23 17:29:09

Not for teenagers.
Their brains don't work like that, mostly.

I did know one who was incredibly tidy, and loved having her come round to see my DD as they would tidy DD's bedroom 😀

buffyfly9 Fri 11-Aug-23 17:46:14

BB and GSM are right in my opinion. You must look after GOL as if it was your own but I most definitely would NOT clear up domestic mess that the granddaughter is leaving. Your neighbours must be aware of her lack of domestic skills so they must be happy to come back to chaos. Leave it but look after the dog!

M0nica Fri 11-Aug-23 18:06:35

Who said they were teenagers?

JackK Fri 11-Aug-23 18:28:33

Not a teenager: early twenties 😊
You've all been enormously helpful - thank you!

Calendargirl Fri 11-Aug-23 18:32:54

OP was asked to feed the dog and walk him.

DGD is being paid to house sit the old dog.

She should be clearing up the dog poo. Not sure what she is doing to earn her money.

NotSpaghetti Sat 12-Aug-23 06:44:37

I would suggest you stick to your brief! Food (and water) and walks. #sitonyourhands - good luck!

Joane123 Sat 12-Aug-23 08:04:38

Look after the lovely dog as you promised and if it was me, I would, now and again, do a little something else too. Best of luck.

Esmay Sat 12-Aug-23 08:24:35

Just look after the dog as asked :
Walks , clean water and food and I would clean away any dog poo -I've known old dogs step in it if left .

In fairness to the granddaughter - that's a long day.
She must be tired when she gets back .
Hopefully , she'll have a blitz before her grandparents return .

I have to admit to cleaning up my neighbour's kitchen for her as her children had trashed it . It was just a question of shoving stuff in the dishwasher and doing a few saucepans after a quick wipe down of surfaces and a mop - it looked transformed !

It's up to you .

Franbern Sat 12-Aug-23 09:06:39


Is she a teenager?

In my experience they are happy to live in chaos then have a big clean-up once in a blue moon!

Then they get their own place and woe betide you if you put anything in the wrong place 😀

Made me laugh!!

One f my g.daughters was so disgustingly messy in her bedroom, No amount of threats, rewards, requests etc would get her to tidy it up. Twice in ten years, the carpet in there had to be replaced - it was in such a mess. Her clean washing given to her to put away was just throown on the floor to mix in with the rest of her mess.

She left school at 17 yrs and got a job as an apprentice librarian and announced that she wanted to get her own flat as soon as she turned 18 - and did so!!! We were all so very worried as the state this would get in - a new cream coloured carpet had been laid in there.

From the day she moved in there, it has been kept in perfcct neat, tidy and very clean condition. Washing up done immediately, everything tidied away. Any marks accidently made, cleaned immediately.

Callistemon21 Sat 12-Aug-23 10:23:40

It's quite amusing, Franbern
We used to say that when they get their own places, we'll go round there and make a mess 😁

Norah Sat 12-Aug-23 10:46:02

I love to walk dogs, do that 4 times a day. I'd dislike cleaning up after a house sitter, not my job, and intrusive. The house sitter will learn from her own grandparents disgust at the filth - or not.

Leave the house alone. Care for the dog, especially water and cleaning poo. Dogs dislike any poo in their environment (they like clean).

Hithere Sat 12-Aug-23 12:44:33

Another no

grandtanteJE65 Sat 12-Aug-23 13:21:38

You said the granddaughter has formerly just left the mess for her grandparents to deal with when they came home.

Presumably they accept this otherwise they wouldn't have asked her to house and dog-sit again, surely?

So just walk the dog and make sure he has clean water and food.

Grantanow Sat 12-Aug-23 18:15:00

Help the dog not the DGD!