Letting a delivery driver use your loo

Very awkward, it would very much depend on who it was, I wouldn’t want to, but I probably would, as long as they were delivering something, and not a random passer by.
We don’t have public loos at work, but we allow customers to use them, I honestly can’t tell you the disgusting mess they are sometimes left in. So that does rather put me off.
But I know how it feels to be desperate, so I would probably come down on the side of allowing it.

Quite felicititious. As my DMiL used to say i hope the pan is perfect

Difficult in our house as all three loos are en-suite. Difficult enough when we have visitors . Perhaps not with someone we don’t know.

Grammaretto

Quite felicititious. As my DMiL used to say i hope the pan is perfect

Indeed 🤣🤣 I'm sadly obsessed with presenting a spotlessly clean loo, whilst being quite happy to frequent some..... debatable far Eastern loos🤭

A couple of years ago, I was in the front garden and a couple walking by stopped and the woman asked if she could use our loo. I did know her slightly by sight and so agreed. My DH suffers from IBS and so he was very sympathetic to her plight.

Yes, I would. And have.

But in all this - isn't it a bad situation that there are so few public toilets - especially now, in an era when there are so many people out on the road doing deliveries, etc?

In the past two decades, public loos have dropped by something like a third. The average English council has about 15 conveniences for every 12,500 people - I don't know the figures for Scotland, etc.

Of course, it's the usual cost-cutting by councils who cannot afford the maintenance etc, but I have read that it is possibly having an effect on people's wellbeing, according to The Canary, In the UK, around 14 million people live with bladder-control issues. Around 6.5 million people have similar problems with their bowels. Meanwhile, the Royal Society for Public Health found that 43% of people with continence issues do not leave their homes as often as they’d like.

In my small town in The Cotswolds, which is a magnet for tourists - there was one public loo when we moved here, in the centre of town. Much frequented, too. I watched two years ago as it was gradually converted into a des-res - someone's bought it and converted it into a small house which has so far had 3 tenants in succession.

And, of course, now they are gone - they won't be coming back. Just one more service beneficial to the general public that has been quietly removed.

The last individual who wanted to use my toilet was a paramedic - he was about to insert a canula but couldn't focus because he was bursting for a pee and told me later that he has a problem with an enlarged prostate and frequently has to ask to use people's loos. Poor chap. Not good is it?

Dickens - you are so lucky to be living in the Cotswolds.
To answer the OP, yes of course, I would let the delivery man use my downstairs loo.

A lady Sainsbury’s driver asked if she could use our loo , I said yes , as she said , it’s harder for the lady drivers
The men can always nip behind a hedge if they get desperate .
We live in a village with no public toilets .

I let a driver use mine a couple of weeks ago. I was alone in the house, but the downstairs loo is at the back of the house and I was getting in the shopping at the front door whilst he was in there. I could have run off if necessary, but I think the odds on that are extremely high.

I wasn't pleased that he didn't wash his hands though. For someone handling food I think that was pretty shocking.

I can understand why people might feel reluctant, especially if they are alone in the house, but I suffer from a couple of medical conditions which sometimes mean I need a loo urgently, so I know what it's like to feel desperate! Many of the public toilets in our area have been closed now too.

Absolutely no way. I would direct them to the nearest public loo.

My husband dis still working but does suffer with Ibs and when he needs to go he needs to go! I’m grateful to anyone that allows him to go!

Felicititious

I'd let them, but gave to dash in there first to make sure it was clean enough to eat your dinner in😉

😁

Yes, or keep apologising - "oh! I havent had time to clean in there yet!!"

It is possible to get an “ I can’t wait” card from an IBS charity. People are supposed to let you use the loo if you showthe card. I must admit, I might need to use it for bladder weakness!

I am not sure if I would let a driver in, if I was on my own in the house, though I guess it is no different from letting a workman in. In the OP’s case, he asked about public toilets and she was able to direct him to some, so fair enough. But in other circumstances I think on reflection I would feel sorry for him and let him.

MrsThatcher

Absolutely no way. I would direct them to the nearest public loo.

How kind.

MrsThatcher

Absolutely no way. I would direct them to the nearest public loo.

How very unkind. Why?

Absolutely yes, as long as it wasn't late at night and I was alone in the house. My husband also suffers from IBS and has had some terrible experiences whilst out and about in town or while travelling by public transport which have caused him severe embarassment.

I would and I have in the past , luckily I have a downstairs loo and a dog .
Many years ago when my dc was very young , they were out with my in-laws at the park and my dd needed to go , no public loos so my mil knocked on someone’s door and they kindly let her use their loo.
Regarding bottles of yellow liquid , I’m in a litter picking group and every pick we get loads of bottles strewn on the kerbs and central reservations .

I do sympathise as my OH has extremely high BP and is on water tablets. Sadly it is not unusual for him to go for a wee 4 times during a meal or 8 times in the night.

He says it is really embarrassing to get to a customer’s house and ask if he can use the loo as soon as he arrives. He does have to carry a bottle in his vehicle too!

Primrose53

I do sympathise as my OH has extremely high BP and is on water tablets. Sadly it is not unusual for him to go for a wee 4 times during a meal or 8 times in the night.

He says it is really embarrassing to get to a customer’s house and ask if he can use the loo as soon as he arrives. He does have to carry a bottle in his vehicle too!

Much sympathy.

My OH is also on those drugs and has the same problem.

Anyone who is working suffering with these medical conditions is in a very difficult position.

Nobody has ever asked, but as we live very very close to public toilets that are open 8 till 5 so I would tell them that, I wouldn’t allow any one to come into my house especially strangers and more so if I was on own,

As we have a downstairs loo, of course I would have allowed him to use that, even if his question was not so direct.

That said, I was really bloody annoyed (though didn't say anything) when we were having work done in that room (as well as the loo, our air-source heating system is in there) and an operative doing similar work on a neighbouring property let himself in at our back door where his colleagues were working and used our loo without even asking!

We've a loo in the back/side entrance - used for gardening and outside tasks. We've allowed drivers/workers to use, it's not inside our home.

crazyH

Dickens - you are so lucky to be living in the Cotswolds.
To answer the OP, yes of course, I would let the delivery man use my downstairs loo.

Believe it or not, there are parts of The Cotswolds where property is not hideously expensive - our town is historic (my own house has its roots in the 1500s), but it's a working town and ordinary working people live here. Lots.

But they still took away our one and only public convenience.

... and forgot to remove the signpost directing visitors to it.

I remember being sent out as a young social worker to interview a very large man in his own home about accusations of child abuse. Nowadays this would not happen I am sure and there would be some consideration for the SW's safety.

However, I was desperate for a pee by the time I got there (cystitis) and the first thing that happened when he came to his door all guns blazing was that I had to ask to use the loo. He did a double take and showed me where to go. When I emerged he had calmed down and we were able to have a sensible conversation.

Interesting though - it changed the power balance a bit and helped to defuse the situation.