Simple things that men are unable to do!

lemsip

I think less people are starting threads on gransnet lately as whatever the subject of their thread they are frightened away by attacks!

I agree. This thread was lighthearted, it is not about dementure, bereavement or any other things that are sad in life.
Do we stop having a sense of humour because of the horrible things that happen?
I think it is smug to pull people up just because it does not suit you, as seen on this thread some people are not offended. There are lots of threads about dementure and bereavement which I rarely go on, but others do, it's what people are interested in/or find comfort and help.
I hope this thread goes back to what it was intended to be light hearted and humorous.

lemsip, perhaps they should engage their brains first? They need to ask themselves 'Is this sexist, racist, ageist or offensive to others?'

Still, having been through grief, I think there's no need for the oversensitivity towards the grieving. Nobody will be capable of 'saying the wrong thing' or upsetting us to any real degree. It's only ever a little drop in the ocean of our grief - so do carry on as normal.

This was supposed to be a light hearted post to give everyone a laugh.
It has been turned into a political correctness rant by the “woke” brigade.
Sorry I ever started it!

Quizzer, if you had just worded it differently: 'Things your partner simply can't do (lighthearted)' - then you'd have set the context. We should know, by now, how these things go.

It is no surprise to me that many posters do not bother with GN any more.

This thread shows how quickly a lighthearted comment can be misconstrued.

some people do not recognise tongue and cheek unfortunately.

lemsip

I think less people are starting threads on gransnet lately as whatever the subject of their thread they are frightened away by attacks!

Absolutely! The world is in a terrible state. This country is falling apart. So it isn’t allowable to make a light-hearted observation any more? An observation. based on the verb ‘to observe’…

Much of the best comedy is based on real life observation, the simple everyday (with apologies to IKEA). Those who can’t see the difference between a gently poke at the ridiculous and genuine misandry, racism, etc. are to be pitied.

What a shame a lovely lighthearted thread has been derailed. I was enjoying it but now it has become nasty and spiteful so I’m off to find another thread 👋

Thank you Quizzer for trying to start a light hearted thread. I have really enjoyed the fun posts. It is strange how some posters are so defensive of anyone recently widowed etc (quite rightly) but don’t mind hurting the OP by chastising them so rudely and abruptly.

Straddling the fence, as I so often do, I think that the reason that some people don't feel the need, e.g. to tear off loo paper neatly is because they have different priorities.

So to those who find the differences amusing, that could be an explanation. To those who find the whole comparison thing belittling of others, it would help explain why we are different. "Different" being the operative word. Neither group (however you divide humanity up) is inferior nor superior to the other.

Has anyone noticed that this is posted in AIBU, in other words, inviting different viewpoints.

In the light of which
Yes.
“Some men”, possibly,
“Men” - who is to say? My (late) DH, no.

So if I had lost a child, but still chose to read the light hearted threads of those mums who share jokes and funny stories of their children, should I think that they were being "smug"? Of course not
Just to say, if you had ever lost a child, and my sincere apologies if you have, but my experience was to run a mile from mums’ groups” sharing jokes and funny stories of their children” , and I am relieved and grateful to say my friends were considerate and tactful enough to be aware of this.

lemsip

some people do not recognise tongue and cheek unfortunately.

I think this post says it all.

I don’t post very often simply because posts gets twisted by certain posters.

I usually avoid very ‘certain’ personalities in real life too.

I recognise most things that are tongue in cheek - did you mean that?

Maybe you do, but sadly not with this thread .....

Unnecessarily pedantic Foxygloves correcting posters mishaps in typing, grammar or spelling are bad manners in my view.

I also lost a lovely baby boy, I was very upset for a long time, but I would not be offended about any light hearted threads or things that were said to me especially if people did not know.
I realised that life went on outside my tragedy, and did not take offence at anything that was said in jest.
I can only conclude we are all different. I feel the lighthearted threads bring some welcome relied to all the horrible things going on in the world.

I think it’s a given that we all recognised the typo but as Jaxjacky has posted manners forbid us pointing it out.

We have all experienced death and it’s devastation in many ways I’m sure.

My own experience stared when I was 7 years of age. A much loved parent then years later a beautiful baby boy and of course much loved family members as the years went by.

💐rafichagran

We are all very different in our response to life.

My first thought when I read the opening post was that poking fun online about one’s partner’s perceived inadequacies is not a very kind thing to do. That doesn’t mean I don’t have a sense of humour.

Jaxjacky

Unnecessarily pedantic Foxygloves correcting posters mishaps in typing, grammar or spelling are bad manners in my view.

Yes, a poster may change their name but not their spots.

We all have jobs we dont want to do and devise ways to avoid getting lumbered with those jobs. Some people dont have to devise strategies because they just "dont notice" that the dishes need washing or that the bin is overflowing.

I’m sorry Quizzer that your post has been jumped on in such an unpleasant way by some posters.
I hope it won’t put you off starting a thread again another time.

The topic baffles me. Other than reproductive system issues, there’s nothing my husband can’t do due to being male that I can.

We absolutely have different strengths and weaknesses, different preferences and priorities, but none are based in gender or sex

Would it help to get this thread back on track if the question was 'simple things that my partner seems unable to do'? I got that impression that was the gist of the topic, a light hearted thread about things that might wind you up that the person you live does or doesn't do, possibly without thinking.