The fact that fathers don’t hear babies crying in the night as quickly as mothers do has been investigated and found to be a genuine difference between the sexes, I believe.
I found quite early on in marriage that telling my DH what I wanted him to do was effective in getting him to do things. Of course, there are things he’d rather not do, as there are for me. But since lockdown he’s been doing all the daily shopping we need, because he didn’t want me to catch Covid. He started buying very fancy ready meals, most of which I didn’t like, so it had to come to the point of me asking him to stop. Covid seems to have drastically affected my senses of smell and taste, there’s nothing I can do about that. Eg, I used to love a pizza, now I can hardly take a bite of it because it doesn’t smell appetising.