Simple things that men are unable to do!

Why don’t we lighten up here?

Mr i always took our bins out. The first time I did it after he died last year, I wept as I struggled to get the full garden re-cycling bin down our steep driveway. It’s still one of those regular events that have me thinking about how much I miss him. Thankfully it makes me smile now, rather than weep, as I remember how we shared the domestic stuff.
Im with foxygloves, anything that’s too much for me or beyond my skill area, I get someone else to do it. My youngest daughter is a dab hand with an electric saw or drill. My sons in law great fun and totally hopeless on the practical front.

Iam .

I'm equally sure there are as many women who irritate their other halves with such trivial can't dos. ☺

Freya5

I'm equally sure there are as many women who irritate their other halves with such trivial can't dos. ☺

Yes of course there are, my point exactly. So isn't it better to find humour in it, and be able to laugh together about it? I would never "demean" my lovely DH, but he knows to never leave the toilet seat up!

Foxygloves

With all due respect, this makes me so cross.
My DH absolutely did not have the sort of shortcomings OP itemises, but to extrapolate from her personal experience that men are unable to do these is not light hearted banter but every bit as sexist as those dinosaurs who tell us not to “worry our pretty little heads” or claim women can’t parallel park or insist that only they can put up a shelf straight.
What century are we in for heavens sake?

Thanks for Foxgloves for your comment.

This is not sexist in any way. My DH is capable of everything in the home. It’s just that he has these little blank spots which render him incapable of performing these simple tasks. I am sure he would say the same about me.
The post was meant to be lighthearted, hoping for some more daft things that our partners, whichever sex, find impossible.
I have been a feminist all my life, but I feel that if we can’t have a silly ‘dig’ at the opposite sex occasionally, then life is just a little too serious.

Quite agree Quizzer. It's nice to have a little lightheartedness now and again without someone getting offended about something. I believe I am a feminist too but Mr M and I can both be 'incapable' of doing simple things when it suits and happy to have a lighthearted dig at each other!

I remember sitting in my car by a library in a nearby town. Can’t remember why I was there. It was many years ago. But I remember being surprised to see a man pushing a push chair. Soon afterwards it was common place. And seeing my nephews changing their babies nappies.

The post was meant to be lighthearted, hoping for some more daft things that our partners, whichever sex, find impossible
For those who have recently or not-so-recently lost partners or who may be caring for partners with dementia or life altering illnesses it may be hard to read these daft things in a way other than smug. .

I think this post was meant to be light hearted. I think it is a shame some posters took it so seriously.

Made me smile reading some of these posts. My hubby and I had the same sense of humour and we could without any of us feeling hurt tease each other about silly things.

He’s got Alzheimer’s now,so no banter between us. I miss that.

Granniesunite

I would really miss that too.

In my husband's case it look for his own golf ball even though I bought him multi coloured ones he still thinks wandering about with a bemused expression will reveal the ball to him.

In the case of all the men I know- multi tasking. They can only do one thing at a time. I am sure females can do better than that because they have to nurture babies and need eyes in the back of their heads! Alos- they can never find anything even when it is in front of their noses!

Foxygloves

^The post was meant to be lighthearted, hoping for some more daft things that our partners, whichever sex, find impossible^
For those who have recently or not-so-recently lost partners or who may be caring for partners with dementia or life altering illnesses it may be hard to read these daft things in a way other than smug. .

Smug? Wow, just wow.
So if I had lost a child, but still chose to read the light hearted threads of those mums who share jokes and funny stories of their children, should I think that they were being "smug"? Of course not.
I wish some posters would just stay off what is obviously a light hearted thread if they have no sense of humour.

I don’t think OP is being unfair to men it’s just observation about how they sometimes do things differently. My DH is perfectly capable and adept at doing certain things better than me mainly because arthritis restricts me. However other jobs in the house he isn’t quite so good at especially cooking he’s not a natural cook.

Yes I agree multi tasking can be problematic for my DH. The most ridiculous thing is asking where something is when it’s right in front of him an everyday occurrence.

I doubt those looking after partners with dementia or who have very recently lost someone would have the time or the inclination to look at this thread anyway. I can’t see a problem, either.

I think someone lonely because of bereavement or confined to the house because of caring duties might be exactly the sort of person to be in need of friendly online companionship or an uplifting chat.
But that’s just my opinion (and experience).

Smug? Wow, just wow

Wow, indeed.
But let’s leave it there shall we? .

Foxygloves

I think someone lonely because of bereavement or confined to the house because of caring duties might be exactly the sort of person to be in need of friendly online companionship or an uplifting chat.
But that’s just my opinion (and experience).

I agree. This forum was, and still is, a godsend, when we were in the midst of DH's final illness.
Thanks so much to everyone who helped me through.
Sorry to prolong the discussion if not appropriate.

Making fun of any group race, gender, colour or any other way you care to divide people is never nice and should be avoided.

Grammaretto

Foxygloves

I think someone lonely because of bereavement or confined to the house because of caring duties might be exactly the sort of person to be in need of friendly online companionship or an uplifting chat.
But that’s just my opinion (and experience).

I agree. This forum was, and still is, a godsend, when we were in the midst of DH's final illness.
Thanks so much to everyone who helped me through.
Sorry to prolong the discussion if not appropriate.

There’s reference earlier to ‘recent’ bereavements, with those in that category unlikely to look at threads like this.
Gramaretto and foxygloves speak from their experience. It’s just a year today from my lovely husband’s first stroke. He had 2 more and died 7 days after the first.
I feel I;m doing ok but at times it feels like yesterday.

Jackiest makes a valid point about dividing people.

I blame the parents (of either, any or all genders) if a person really can't do ordinary, everyday things. (Of course, there's just one thing to learn - look it up on YouTube.)

Still, I'm very familiar (aren't we all?) with the popular 'Do it really badly and they won't ever ask me again' tactic - along with the being far too busy with 'important' things.

A useful counter-move at these attempts at resistance? Being utterly exhausted (having cleaned the kitchen, cut the grass, walked the dog - and cooked the dinner) so only capable of sleep (aka the sex strike).

I think less people are starting threads on gransnet lately as whatever the subject of their thread they are frightened away by attacks!

lemsip

I think less people are starting threads on gransnet lately as whatever the subject of their thread they are frightened away by attacks!

I agree with you lemsip. Quite a few of the regular funny posters have stopped and I know personally of one from abroad who has,as they have complained to me.
There is a group who are backing each other and shooting down or ignoring everyone else.
I joined the Goodmorning for about 5 weeks as an experiment and the only posts that were even commented on were from people I already pm so I stopped.
Everything does not have to bepolitically correct and I'm going to add to the original light hearted post by saying my DH only knows how to write Christmas cards to his brother, one friend and myself. His mind is closed to the others we get and have to reply to .I can do them if I want.