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Looking after DGS for 2 weeks

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Unasmum Tue 24-Oct-23 08:53:16

My DS and DiL want to go on a 2 week, long haul holiday and leave their 5 year old DS with me and my DH who is recovering from a heart attack.
AIBU to refuse?

Kartush Thu 26-Oct-23 23:07:40

Two weeks with a child that young is a big ask and with your husband needing your attention as well I think it would be too much. I find having my 5 year old great grandson overnight is tiring so no you are not being unreasonable at all

bobbydog24 Fri 27-Oct-23 09:42:53

I can’t understand why your DS and wife want to go away without their child. They’re a family so should want to be together. I never left my children for more than 1 overnight stay with my parents because I would have missed them. Two weeks would have been unthinkable. My daughter is exactly the same with her children.
What if after a couple of days the little boy gets upset and can’t be consoled. You’d have to deal with the stress of that coupled with the care of your DH. I’m sorry to say but your son is being utterly selfish both with you and his son, especially knowing his DD is recovering from a heart attack. Beggars belief.

Judib Sat 28-Oct-23 09:38:27

Quite agree. It's called parenthood. They should accept their responsibility.

HFGTGF75 Tue 31-Oct-23 09:59:50

No, not unreasonable, 2 weeks is far to long to expect someone else to look after their 5 year old. Long weekend, no problem and I get that parents want a little break but 2 weeks is taking the p**s to be honest

alchemilla Tue 21-Nov-23 15:11:18

So unsatisfactory when the OP disappears and doesn't tell us what's happened.

NotSpaghetti Tue 21-Nov-23 17:34:40

I think Unasmum must be thinking about it...?