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Simple things WOMEN are unable to do!

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AGAA4 Tue 07-Nov-23 16:52:09

My DH used to do all the things he thought of as a job for a man but he died many years ago and I have had to manage most of those myself. I found I could decorate, garden and move house on my own as well as many other things he felt I shouldn't do.
We all have to go through the grieving process and I hope things will get better for you given time Whethertomorrow

M0nica Tue 07-Nov-23 16:11:00

I am dyspraxic, which means cack handed and clumsy and totally lacking any mechanical skills. DH is the exact opposite. We have the house we have because he is only happy up a ladder with a screwdriver or drill in his hands and, at 80, we are contemplating downsizing to a project house. DD has inherited all his skills.

DS is also dyspraxic, like me, we can do a some basic things, but otherwise, on our own, we have to buy in other people with DIY skills.

BlueBelle Tue 07-Nov-23 15:43:56

Sorry to hear that you are grieving, it sounds a new grief Wethertomorrow and it will take a long while to get used to your loss, one day you will be able to think without the tears and remember how lucky you were to have a caring husband
Cherish your memories

I ve been alone a long time and can paint decorate, lug furniture around, change plugs and muck out horrible blocked drains and I even eat the mushroom stalks 😂 (even when I wasn’t alone he was rarely around to do anything in the house anyway)
I wish you well and hope one day you ll smile again

Grammaretto Tue 07-Nov-23 15:43:19

It'll be 3 years this month when DH died so I do know how you feel whethertomorrow
A photo of him from 8 years ago has just popped up on Facebook.

I can just about cope with most things but I miss having him around. From those early days when there was so much to tell eachother after a day apart, to more recently when we were together almost all the time and there was no need for chatter.

He did quite a few of the jobs I couldn't and had a brilliant creative mind bursting with ideas, some of which came to fruition.

Germanshepherdsmum Tue 07-Nov-23 15:42:17

I’m fortunate to still have my husband but I’m very aware of the things he does which I would find very difficult or even impossible. In this house though, I eat the mushroom stalks - he doesn’t like them!

sodapop Tue 07-Nov-23 15:16:23

So sorry Whethertomorrow I understand how sad you feel and how much you miss your husband. Its all the little things we take for granted which are most missed I think. Love that your husband ate all the mushroom stems for you.
Husband bashing can get a bit much on here sometimes but usually it's a bit of fun.

Bella23 Tue 07-Nov-23 14:13:03

So sorry for you, only others in your position can really understand your grief flowers
I think we maybe need a Grandma's shed.
I can't change a plug luckily we don't have to anymore.
Sort the taps on sinks out with a wrench.
Put a nail in straight or a picture hook.
Do anything with a car.
Or work alongside DH as he is left-handed and does everything the opposite way to what I would, even loading the dishwasher.

Whethertomorrow Tue 07-Nov-23 14:01:58

This is in response to the simple things men are unable to do. The OP said it was said in humour but why post it in the AIBU thread?
When my dearest hubby was alive I was unable to do lots of things because he always did them first.
So I was unable to pick up poop, cut the grass, clean and maintain my car, organise workmen, put up shelves, decorate, remember things I forgot and many many more things. Oh and the most important thing of all he ate the mushroom stems that I hated!
All this supposedly humorous husband bashing is so upsetting to those of us who would gladly have them back in an instant. Sorry if I just didn’t pass on by the original post but I’m having a bad day of mourning and am typing this with tears in my eyes. Love your partners and cherish them.