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AIBU to think that a parent should be able to deal with a 10 year old threatening her with a hammer and garden shears?

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Callistemon21 Mon 27-Nov-23 19:42:03

MerylStreep

What if the Mother was 4’10’’ size 6 like my friend and had a daughter who was over 5’ and very strong like my granddaughter ?

And had left her cannabis edibles around for her daughter to munch on?

Did the police realise she was just a child?

Now the police are undergoing a misconduct hearing.
Social Services should be involved, if not already. This child needs help and the mother perhaps needs to undergo a disciplinary too.

MerylStreep Mon 27-Nov-23 19:37:17

What if the Mother was 4’10’’ size 6 like my friend and had a daughter who was over 5’ and very strong like my granddaughter ?

Callistemon21 Mon 27-Nov-23 19:33:14

When I saw the heading I thought it was going to be One of Those Threads then saw the name of the poster.

I can't comment until I've read more but how did this child get hold of cannabis edibles?

Germanshepherdsmum Mon 27-Nov-23 19:17:44

I have no idea what you’re talking about. Perhaps you could post a link?

Shelflife Mon 27-Nov-23 19:07:35

Don't know the background to this story , but whatever that is one disturbed child. She may have a history of aggressive and dangerous behaviour, an angry 10 year old can be very strong and her mother was probably and understandably frightened. If she feared for her safety and for the mental health of her child calling the police was absolutely the correct thing to do.

Iam64 Mon 27-Nov-23 18:58:04

Yes, I understand that MOnica but the back story is also relevant except we don’t yet know what it is

M0nica Mon 27-Nov-23 18:56:19

As I said, my comments were limited to the story before the police were called.

Iam64 Mon 27-Nov-23 18:48:48

I don’t know enough about this so shouldn’t comment but - my initial thoughts are was this child and her family known to the Police? Is there a history of police being called to aggressive, out of control children/adults
Is it necessary to taser a 10 year old? I don’t know, I wasn’t there.
Should the mother have been able to manage it - maybe but, I wonder if this is the first time this child threatened her mum. Even if she was under the influence (and how did that happen) it’s extreme behaviour
Right - off to read up

Mollygo Mon 27-Nov-23 18:29:34

I can’t comment without knowing the full story, but even a five-year-old can do a lot of damage with a pair of shears and a hammer.
If Mum really thought she couldn’t control her child so much that she called the police, what did she want?
If the police had done nothing and the child had used the hammer or the shears, Mum would have complained that the police did nothing.
I’m not sure about tasering a 10 year old, but I wasn’t there to see what went on.

M0nica Mon 27-Nov-23 17:53:21

The mother could always have just walked into another room and shut the door. The child would have to put the 'weapons' down to open the door.

eazybee Mon 27-Nov-23 17:51:21

Just found an account; seems as though a police officer will be accused of gross misconduct because a mother was frightened of her out-of-control daughter who had consumed cannabis edibles, called the police and then objected to how they treated her.
Will the mother be blamed? Of course not.

eazybee Mon 27-Nov-23 17:44:20

Don't know the circumstances of this incident but some ten year olds are pretty hefty and strong.

M0nica Mon 27-Nov-23 17:36:59

even if she had consumed 'cannabis edibles.

When my two, a boy and a girl, were ten, I was bigger stronger and more intelligent than either of them, and a child holding a hammer and garden shears, which will be relatively large compared with them is at a distinct disadvantage.

I would have thought one quick movement could have resolved the issue or alternatively a carefully relaxing conversation.

Instead this mother called the police. I will make no comment on what followed. It is the first half of the incident that boggles me.