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My DH drives me mad with playing jazz piano.

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Margomar Wed 03-Apr-24 10:33:14

I’m a serious music lover, pianist ( classical) but I also love rock and pop from sixties onwards.However I share our home with my lovely DH and have done since 1968- but he loves to play a sort of jazz on our piano, and also on his guitar. It’s loud, “muddy sounding” and fills our space for an hour at a time. There are no recognisable tunes, it’s pure improvisation and I hate it with a vengeance, I find it boring and very irritating.
He says it helps him to relieve nervous tension and I admit that he has every right to enjoy a hobby in his own home. . I have
strategies such as putting on headphones when he starts, or putting on my own music very loud in the kitchen to drown it out( we don’t have near neighbours).nut sometimes when I’m watching TV in the evenings it’s just so intrusive and hard to escape !
Do any other Gransnetters have partners whose music making drives the mad?

mae13 Fri 12-Apr-24 08:57:39

Jazz: the Good Stuff - Acker Bilk, George Melly, Kenny Ball.

BlueBelle Fri 12-Apr-24 06:58:49

Well as poster hasn’t been back in a week I think we d advising ourselves 🤣
Perhaps she’s run away

mae13 Fri 12-Apr-24 06:31:03

Well, I hope it's not that Free Jazz stuff. It's insane!

DeeAitch56 Sun 07-Apr-24 21:28:22

Noise cancelling headphones?

Chestnut Sun 07-Apr-24 15:34:30

Spinnaker

No, an electronic keyboard isn't anything like a piano but a good digital piano is just like a real piano - and you get the chance to plug in some quality headphones too !

Exactly. I bought a Casio digital piano from Argos during lockdown for my daughter for £400. You need a cover (less than £10) and some decent headphones and away you go. Someone who just wants to unwind can tinker away on it for hours, and can always play the real piano at other times. I can't see the problem with this. 🤔

Spinnaker Sun 07-Apr-24 14:39:40

No, an electronic keyboard isn't anything like a piano but a good digital piano is just like a real piano - and you get the chance to plug in some quality headphones too !

Dinahmo Sun 07-Apr-24 14:17:39

pascal30

Chestnut

pascal30

If you have a house.. why onearth don't you sound proof one room and allow him to enjoy himself? Frankly you sound very uncompromising..

Soundproof a room!!! Just get an electronic keyboard and a set of headphones for him and problem solved.

I understand your point Chestnut but if I co-owned or co-rented a house with a partner I would feel rather aggrieved at not being allowed to play the sort of music I liked.. and would make a space where it is possible. especially if I preferred a real
piano.. This way they could both play to their hearts content without disturbing the other.. £2,000 well spent

Why should he play and electronic keyboard? Not the same as a real piano.

MissAdventure Sun 07-Apr-24 14:15:59

Thanks Dinahmo.

I shall check out your recommendation. smile

Dinahmo Sun 07-Apr-24 14:15:54

harrigran

DS bought a banjo on Tuesday, brought it to show me and played it a little. When he came yesterday he told me his wife and eldest daughter were not enjoying him practising for hours and would like him to go away.
My house has always been full of music, we had a piano, organ, keyboards, violin, guitars and an electronic drum kit. You learn to tune out the sounds you don't want to hear.
DS would like to play folk music as a family group but I can't see that happening 😆

Introduce you DIL and GC to the Ukelele Orchestra of Great Britain. That may make them change their minds.

Dinahmo Sun 07-Apr-24 14:13:43

glammagran

Dinahmo

There is an enormous range of jazz so I don't understand why people dislike all of it. If you look on You tube you 'll find a lot. Miles Davis, in his early days - beautiful trumpet. Also EST - Esbjorn Svensson Trio. Sadly he was killed in a diving accident several years ago. But an amazing pianist.

Couldn’t agree more. I love both these artists. Jazz is as diverse as classical music. I very much miss Chick Corea. However, if I had to listen to Acker Bilk or Dixieland jazz I would have to shoot myself.

Totally agree

Dinahmo Sun 07-Apr-24 14:12:16

Callistemon21

MissAdventure

I've never heard a trumpet sound beautiful.

Eddie Calvert?

The man with the Golden Trumpet.
You are probably too young to remember.

No where near ass beautiful as Miles Davis in his early years. He did change in the 70s from the melodious trumpet player that he was. Try "in a Silent Way" for a beautiful sound

pascal30 Sun 07-Apr-24 13:43:43

Chestnut

pascal30

If you have a house.. why onearth don't you sound proof one room and allow him to enjoy himself? Frankly you sound very uncompromising..

Soundproof a room!!! Just get an electronic keyboard and a set of headphones for him and problem solved.

I understand your point Chestnut but if I co-owned or co-rented a house with a partner I would feel rather aggrieved at not being allowed to play the sort of music I liked.. and would make a space where it is possible. especially if I preferred a real
piano.. This way they could both play to their hearts content without disturbing the other.. £2,000 well spent

Chestnut Sun 07-Apr-24 13:33:47

pascal30

If you have a house.. why onearth don't you sound proof one room and allow him to enjoy himself? Frankly you sound very uncompromising..

Soundproof a room!!! Just get an electronic keyboard and a set of headphones for him and problem solved.

pascal30 Sun 07-Apr-24 12:17:14

If you have a house.. why onearth don't you sound proof one room and allow him to enjoy himself? Frankly you sound very uncompromising..

glammagran Sun 07-Apr-24 11:49:52

Tizliz another favourite is the Marcin Wasilewski trio (Polish). Their Spark of Life and in particular Sudovian Dance is really beautiful. We find lot of new music from streaming services as we have “suggestions” turned on.

At the other end of the jazz spectrum I like Nubiya Garcia, Ezra Collective and Moses Boyd who are all London bands.

Tanjamaltija Sun 07-Apr-24 09:28:05

Watch TV with head-phones, too. I know it's not the best solution, but it's doable.

harrigran Sun 07-Apr-24 09:21:42

DS bought a banjo on Tuesday, brought it to show me and played it a little. When he came yesterday he told me his wife and eldest daughter were not enjoying him practising for hours and would like him to go away.
My house has always been full of music, we had a piano, organ, keyboards, violin, guitars and an electronic drum kit. You learn to tune out the sounds you don't want to hear.
DS would like to play folk music as a family group but I can't see that happening 😆

Mypennyfarthing41 Sun 07-Apr-24 06:52:14

Be thankful that you still have your husband. My darling died almost two years ago - the silence is deafening

Callistemon21 Sat 06-Apr-24 20:40:09

I can't stand modern jazz but used to love traditional jazz.
My DB used to go to see Chris Barber

Dempie55 Sat 06-Apr-24 20:37:27

Dinahmo

There is an enormous range of jazz so I don't understand why people dislike all of it. If you look on You tube you 'll find a lot. Miles Davis, in his early days - beautiful trumpet. Also EST - Esbjorn Svensson Trio. Sadly he was killed in a diving accident several years ago. But an amazing pianist.

Oh, yikes, you’ve reminded me of one of the worst nights of my life back in the 70s, new boyfriend took me to see Miles Davis, possibly in Reading. I had no idea who he was, but eagerly agreed as aged around 23….. Once it started, I simply could not bear to be in the hall, and retired to the bar for the rest of the night, accompanied by many other females! Much huffing and puffing from the bloke about ticket prices, yada yada, didn’t end up together… 🤣

Callistemon21 Sat 06-Apr-24 20:37:22

or my personal pet horror, anything by the bl**dy Hollies

Wash your mouth out with soap, DrWatson 😯

DrWatson Sat 06-Apr-24 20:32:51

For Margomar, you've had a few good suggestions, but I'd fight back with playing him Chirpy-Chirpy-Cheep-Cheep, or The Smurfs song, or Lily the Pink, perhaps Agadoo (Black Lace), or my personal pet horror, anything by the bl**dy Hollies. Max volume. Maybe as someone said banish him to the shed!

Suzey Sat 06-Apr-24 20:29:36

Divorce

glammagran Sat 06-Apr-24 19:57:55

Dinahmo

There is an enormous range of jazz so I don't understand why people dislike all of it. If you look on You tube you 'll find a lot. Miles Davis, in his early days - beautiful trumpet. Also EST - Esbjorn Svensson Trio. Sadly he was killed in a diving accident several years ago. But an amazing pianist.

Couldn’t agree more. I love both these artists. Jazz is as diverse as classical music. I very much miss Chick Corea. However, if I had to listen to Acker Bilk or Dixieland jazz I would have to shoot myself.

Aldom Sat 06-Apr-24 18:36:11

Callistermon Thank you for reminding me of Eddie Calvert (1922-1978). What amazing talent he had, creating such a beautiful sound from his trumpet. I loved Oh Mein Papa, Cherry Pink and Apple Blossom White and Stranger in Paradise.