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Am I being too fussy

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Shelflife Thu 25-Apr-24 19:00:14

I don't expect people to remove their shoes , some people have great difficulty doing that . A chair always helps. I am happy to remove my shoes in someone's house if that is their expectation. Although if I am aware of this I would take comfy indoor only shoes, as I am uncomfortable walking without some form of support!

NotAGran55 Thu 25-Apr-24 18:50:08

For me the comfort of my guests is more important than flooring, and I would never ask anyone to take their shoes off.
Trades automatically kick them off or put on protectors here.

I hate being asked to remove my shoes as they are part of my outfit, and I feel most uncomfortable without them on.

lixy Thu 25-Apr-24 18:49:33

Taking shoes off is common practise around here. I have one friend who really doesn't like to do so and she carries shoe protectors with her in her handbag.

Having said that it doesn't bother me all that much so if someone had difficulty doing so it wouldn't be a problem.

eazybee Thu 25-Apr-24 18:47:48

Do you remove your shoes when you walk on a cinema or theatre carpet?
When you enter a carpeted corridor in offices or public buildings?
When you enter an hotel or hospital?
When you enter a shop?
Why are public spaces different?

Rosie51 Thu 25-Apr-24 18:38:16

I don't ask anyone to remove their shoes, some do some don't. I know the people who like you to remove your shoes and happily do so. What does amuse me somewhat though, is I should remove my shoes because they've been in contact with dirty pavements etc but the family dog who has also walked the same pavements is allowed in with no worries about what his/her paws are bringing in!

pascal30 Thu 25-Apr-24 18:35:37

All trades automatically take their shoes off down here in the SE, and so do my friends.. it just seems to be common practise

Germanshepherdsmum Thu 25-Apr-24 18:29:35

I don’t have carpets either, so much easier to keep hard floors clean.

Tenko Thu 25-Apr-24 18:24:38

I don’t have carpets downstairs so no I don’t ask people to remove shoes . My AC and myself remove our shoes but then we have slippers in a cupboard by the front door .
As for trades people , it’s a health and safety thing to keep their shoes/boots on, so most have shoe protectors with them .

Granmarderby10 Thu 25-Apr-24 18:24:22

I think it is a drag unless it’s a farm yard or similar, or anything offensive and damaging.
I just would not have a plain light coloured carpet on entrance and have very good doormats outside and inside.

It is just about acceptable to remove footwear if there is ..(a) a suitable place for to sit- but still tricky if there’s more than one visitor… what do they do form a queue outside?

And (b) I just hate slippers with day wear, so would it mean carrying shoe protectors- although I suppose that’s not a bad idea actually since I don’t do heals these days.

honeyrose Thu 25-Apr-24 18:19:04

I feel like you GrannyIvy, but I’m often too embarrassed to ask people to remove their shoes, but hope they’ll do so anyway. Some do, some don’t.

Germanshepherdsmum Thu 25-Apr-24 18:13:54

Yes, I fear you are being Hyacinth Bouquet.

crazyH Thu 25-Apr-24 18:13:17

Your house, your rules. I don’t have carpets anymore, downstairs , so I really dont mind.

Grammaretto Thu 25-Apr-24 18:11:11

Can you provide slippers? Or shoe protectors
Some people find it hard to physically remove lace up shoes or boots.
An alternative would to only invite him into a part of the house without carpets.

BlueBelle Thu 25-Apr-24 18:10:49

We ve had a number of threads about this in the past and it always seems divided down the middle
I ve never been asked to take my shoes off and I ve never asked anyone to do so
But that’s just me

GrannyIvy Thu 25-Apr-24 18:05:19

When family, friends or tradesmen come to my home I like them to remove their outdoor shoes and if they do not do this automatically on entering I request they do so. I like to keep my floors and carpets clean. Family and friends are used to me and most are happy to take their outdoor footwear off in the hallway. However one friend I have to request he does this each time he arrives, he comes in once a week, and I find this frustrating and uncomfortable to keep asking. Tradesman on the whole will bring shoe protectors or happy to remove boots or shoes. Am I being a Hyasinth Bouquet? I feel it is my home and I want to keep it nice! I always remove outdoor footwear when I go into someone else’s house even if they say no need to as to me this feels the right thing to do.