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Mel1967 Mon 29-Apr-24 16:37:09

Just a quick question:

My neighbours and their friends are openly sitting and smoking cannabis outside their house.
Their children playing out (we live in a very small cul-de-sac).
Friends will then drive away.

Should I do anything and if so what?

Robin202 Wed 01-May-24 11:12:19

It is annoying to have the smell infiltrate your space. We were rural and our neighbour was a police officer and his wife would smoke weed and it would drift over and was very strong and I hate the smell of it. But we didn’t want to cause ill-feeling as they were nice neighbours. It’s a difficult one.

redchud Wed 01-May-24 11:12:55

Nothing absolutely nothing. It's not your business, they are in there right to smoke it n their own garden. I'm 54 and I smoke cannabis for my pain, my neighbours are fine with it, I told them I do smoke they said nothing to do with us, and if it helps you then carry on.

cc Wed 01-May-24 11:14:51

You can often smell it here too, both coming from properties and in the street, though people don't openly smoke sitting outside. It does annoy people if it happens regularly and the smell reaches their property but the police really don't do anything until it is obvious that somebody is dealing. Even then they don't always do anything.
The police are so stretched now that I doubt they will do anything about your neighbours.

maddyone Wed 01-May-24 11:21:30

Shame that laws are ignored.

Growing0ldDisgracefully Wed 01-May-24 11:30:32

I used to be live and let live, until we had a next door neighbour move in who continually smokes it - skunk I believe, which has a dreadful stink. We can't have windows or patio doors open in summer, and have to get in quickly through our front door because of the stench wafting out of his front door into our house, which faces ours, front doors being on the side of the house therefore facing.
He is the sole carer for 3 early secondary school age children, drives under the influence, is continually shouting at the kids. It is known that passive smoking of cannabis is harmful to the brain development of children. He is continually making dreadful retching coughing noises outside of his door, coughing up whatever the stuff does to his lungs, even in the early hours of the morning (he is of the belief that the stuff is medicinal and good for him,) waking me up. Other neighbours dislike him for his nasty habits as well. However if we were to report him to the police, in the unlikely event they investigate, he will know it was us who reported him.
Sorry for the rant but he makes our life a misery.

mousemac Wed 01-May-24 11:32:55

Not for you to interfere.

Stillness Wed 01-May-24 11:36:11

I understand that if you inform the police it is in confidence. However they probably won’t investigate on the basis of your just seeing them from a distance and maybe smelling it.
It’s frustrating…..I know from my past work that smoking cannabis long term potentially has grave consequences physically and emotionally and can affect everyone around the smoker. It’s down to you as to what you want to do…

Sarnia Wed 01-May-24 11:38:16

Although people are free to do pretty much what they please in their own homes and gardens if their actions impinge on you then you are entitled to have a polite word about it. Cannabis has a very distinctive stench to it and I would not sit in my garden or home and inhale it. I don't think you have any choice but contact the Police and inform them especially driving under the influence. They will keep you out of it but you don't need to live a life of misery.

mumofmadboys Wed 01-May-24 11:47:18

Say and do nought!

Dillonsgranma Wed 01-May-24 11:48:58

I know the smell of cannabis is awful! And this is from an old hippy who used to smoke it at parties etc
If the smoke is annoying you and is invading your house , I would tell them so. Nicely.
Ask them if they could go further down the garden
It would really affect me as I have emphysema and copd

undines Wed 01-May-24 11:55:30

Goodness! There are far, far worse things to endure and observe with neighbours! If the children are ok then I would never dream of saying anything. Arguably, cannabis is less harmful than alcohol, but who would complain if people were having a glass of wine or two? The driving off is the only concern, but personally I would need more reason than that to dob someone in. You risk creating a bad atmosphere and being a target. Why not sashay over, ask if you can share a spliffie and then, if you think someone is driving while stoned you could gently say 'Are you sure you're safe to drive?' :-))

Sherry1 Wed 01-May-24 11:55:48

Personally, I believe that unless someone is hurting you or yours you leave them alone.

sazz1 Wed 01-May-24 11:57:20

Have lovely neighbours but they do smoke cannabis and I absolutely hate the smell. I've tried it many years ago but it gives me hallucinations so I don't touch it. Personally I think it should be legalised and controlled like in Amsterdam with coffee shops.
If you report your neighbours they may not be very happy about it if police take action.

Trottoir Wed 01-May-24 12:04:09

I'd let them get on with it

Cressy Wed 01-May-24 12:05:15

Just back from a weekend in London. The smell of weed seemed to be everywhere so police obviously not bothered. I would be very concerned though about the friends who visit if they are smoking and driving. Wonder what I would do if I suspected they were driving after drinking. 🤔🤫

biglouis Wed 01-May-24 12:16:32

When I was an undergraduate I lived on one of the roughest estates in Manchester and neighbours smoking weed was something I got used to. Not personally - I have never smoked. However there is a class of people who like to sit outside on summer days and puff away. There is not a lot you can do about it otherwise than keep your door closed. Neither the police nor the local authority are going to do anything about it. As for contacting their LL (if its a rental). Dont bother. So long as the rent is being paid and the place is not being wrecked the LL will not care. Landlords will not become involved in personal disputes.

Amalegra Wed 01-May-24 12:17:20

No one should be driving taking ANY drug and that includes cannabis and alcohol. Cannabis is a Class B drug while alcohol is perfectly legal. I find it very ironic that some experts in the field of addiction are agreed that should alcohol be new to the market today, it would probably be banned as a Class A drug! Food for thought indeed.

Dee1012 Wed 01-May-24 12:20:31

I think smoking in their own property is one issue...that wouldn't really concern me but driving after taking drugs would.
In all honesty I'd be passing the registration number to the Police and if they choose to stop / test, that's up to them.

I attended a presentation some time ago - work related, in that, we were told that over 4% of fatal incidents could have been prevented if the driver hadn’t taken an illegal drug. That figure doesn't include accidents with no fatality.
I'd imagine that number is higher now.

NannaBarbra Wed 01-May-24 12:32:00

If the driver is under the influence then report that offence to the police, you don't need to involve your neighbours, they may put a marker on his car and pull him over for a roadside test away from your area
Cannabis can stay in your system for days and effect your ability to drive, if the drivers family are in the car he could crash, seriously injure them or worse, not to mention other innocent road users

biglouis Wed 01-May-24 12:39:58

Personally, I believe that unless someone is hurting you or yours you leave them alone

Could not agree more. I keep people like neighbours at arms length. I dont have headspace for them. But if someone aggresses against me first there is no gaurantee that I will not respond by going nuclear.

Nannashirlz Wed 01-May-24 12:42:46

Unfortunately not a lot you can do about it. In my last home a young lad moved in below me him and friends smoked the stuff regularly i thought they was a problem with my pipes when he first moved in. It was the workmen who told me what it was. I felt a right idiot lol i couldn’t open windows the smell would come through the floors i did report it to whoever would listen he turned into a nightmare neighbor blasting music 24/7 with friends i ended up doing diary after diary and he would get letters to stop he did for a week or so then start again after 3yrs of nothing changing I moved into my lovely bungalow no weed smoking here complaining doesn’t work anymore

DamaskRose Wed 01-May-24 12:46:10

It’s really none of my business what people do in the privacy of their own homes. I’ve never smoked cannabis and can’t remember, from being parties, what it smells like but am willing to believe that it isn’t pleasant. My concern would driving while under the influence. Could you alert the police anonymously? Not nice to be at odds with near neighbours.

LilyoftheValley Wed 01-May-24 12:55:38

Stand downwind and inhale!

Mt61 Wed 01-May-24 13:08:12

My cousin struggled to sell her big fancy house in lytham, every time she had a viewing, the people next door would be sat In the garden smoking cannabis- said smell was putting people off buying😩 you can smell it all over our town centre ( council have converted an office block into flats for the homeless) it makes me have sneezing fits depending on how strong it is 😩

Purplepixie Wed 01-May-24 13:11:42

Nothing.