Grandchild doesn't like me

I agree with madeleine, I would just ignore her while she’s sorting stuff out in her own wee head, and if you’re doing something which interests her, she’ll come round in her own time.
Just go at her pace.

I do not think two year olds can choose to be rude. They do not yet understand the concept. We interpret what they say/do as rude because we know the social niceties ... they do not!

I am a granny and a teacher , and been involved with small children in lots of ways over the years. So firstly, at that age she is not able to express exactly how she feels or ask relevant questions about things that bother her. If her parents havent explained the chair use to her in a way she can understand she may have worries about it , as it is something she is not used to seeing. If you are stressed now by the way she behaves your body language may be giving her mixed messages. As for the shush , there are a couple of things that may be causing this. She may never have the opportunity to say this to others and now she has the chance to say this and get a reaction, which makes her feel in control. Alternatively she could be just being rude and meaning to be like this. At two if you remember your own children they are just finding out the great ability to say NO and take some control of their own lives, which up till then then have just had to do what adults tell them to.

Ideas that might work to improve matters.
If you can have a couple of books suitable for a child that age with you. So the paperback version of The Very Hungry Caterpillar, would not be hard to hold and you could turn the pages and read it aloud but in a quietish voice. Ignore her "shush"ing and carry on turning the pages and looking at the picture. Dont appeal to her to join you, or ask her if she likes it, but let her be drawn to the story and want to look at the book. If she comes close to you, dont comment on this but just show her the pictures and respond to what she says.

Have you got a light tray that would be comfortable for you to have across your chair? Dont know if you have a Button Bag with all your spare buttons in . We used to love spilling the buttons out and making flowers with them and patterns.
So anything safe that can be sorted and made into pictures or patterns. Perhaps her parents have a couple of very simple jigsaws that you could make up, or you could make a very simple jigsaw from paper , by looking for a brightly coloured picture in a magazine, cutting it out and into large pieces. Do the same with another picture and then mix the pieces together and put them mixed up on your tray. You then start looking for the pieces to make up one picture. Just carry on and dont expect her to join you and she may come to look of her own accord, or you can deliberately drop one piece on the floor and ask her to get it for you. So just be yourself, dont pressure her to join you in anything but be welcoming.
Again with the tray you could have playdoh or I have made pastry in the past and had different shaped cutters . So long as your tray or board is clean you can cut out shapes or have a little baking tray to cut out pastry and make jam tarts to be baked and eaten. We are all basically animals and if you look in the animal kingdom, anything new has to tested out slowly and you have to wait for the animal to approach you in its own time when it feels safe and comfortable to do so. Even if you have food for an animal its instinct is to take things slowly and make sure it is safe to approach. If you think of her in that way you will understand that she is not showing that she doesnt like you. It is much more likely that she doesnt see you often enough yet to have become accustomed to finding the chair immediately approachable, and at 2 if she doesnt see you every day it still can seem strange to her. So just be yourself and do what you normally do and let her get used to how and what you do and let her set the pace. I think you will find as she comes to connect your chair with fun things to do and lovely stories read she will relax and you will get along fine.
Dont forget that once she is used to the chair you will actually be more approachable than a standing adult. Also do you have any other children who visit you and who are used to your chair and behave normally and bring things to you? If you do then perhaps she might visit at the same time and she will see there is nothing to worry about , and of course she wont want to be left out. Do you play what I think we called Kims Game with other children? Where you have objects on a tray and then remove one and they have to look to see what has been moved? That would be a good game to play with her when she is more used to you.
My only word of warning is I would never try to coax her with things like sweets cakes etc. It would be a bad precedent to set and you want her to choose to be with you not what you have. Good luck and I would love to know if any of this works for you

Sadly I had very good reason to detest my paternal grandmother. From the age of two she would describe the tortures of hell awaiting a naughty child, like me!! . Her children were frightened of the evil so and so, apart from her youngest son, who could never do anything wrong according to her. The only time in my life when I have danced, or ever wanted to, was on her grave!

I’m sorry, OP, it must be very upsetting for you.

My youngest Gdc was certainly not very keen on me for quite a while - it came as something of a shock, since the two elder were always so very loving from babies. She would cry if I picked her up from nursery - she wanted daddy - but it was exactly the same with the other granny if she was helping out while dd was away.

Now 4, she’s fine with me, so it’s much better, but she still doesn’t welcome cuddles as her siblings always have. I have to accept that it’s just the way she is - otherwise she’s very bright, chatty and funny.

I agree with above. I once went to visit a cousin who had very wiry red hair. I had never seen anyone who looked like him before and screamed my head off. He took it in good part though and smiled at me. He was a lovely man with a unique look and I felt bad about it for years, but I was only little and didn't mean make him feel bad.

This is a phase - it will pass. She is only 2, and cannot reason as adults do. She is dealing with something outside her experience. She will be fine in time. Bide your time. All will be well.

How hurtful for you.
Two things occur to me and I apologise if they do not apply to you. It is not your fault so don’t blame yourself.
Tinies learn by example, they copy what those around them do especially mummy and daddy..
Is she “shushed” by her parents or older siblings?
How do her parents behave with you? Are they demonstrably affectionate? Do they listen to your opinions? She will copy what she sees.
Secondly, she is getting away with being rude(even at2) and it is not your job to correct that but her parents.”We don’t talk to Granny like that” “That’s not nice, “ “Don’t be grumpy with Granny”
Years (abut 30) ago my nephew, then 3 or 4 used to behave a bit like that with Granny and his mum my SIL couldn’t see it. One day when we were all together he threw something at Granny and our 3 girls (12,10 and 7 ) took outside and said something like ”That was not nice, she’s our Granny too and we love her. If you want us to be your friends you’ve got to be nicer to granny”
It worked. He idolised his big cousins and would do anything they said especially when they were around her!

I was born disabled. When I was 29 my health got worse and because out children where 4 and 6 months old because my walking got worse and pain through the roof only way we could go at as a family I used a wheelchair until the children got older. But have used a stick since I was 29 now 66. My children and their friends grew up knowing about disability and I wasn't treat as odd.

I found children more accepting of disability than some adults this was in 1988 and to this day. As the years went by I was able to manage with just my stick . After my husband died aged 47. I managed with my stick and was asked lots of times why I had one by children . So I explained their parents all had the same reaction of horror and apologised for there child asking but always says it was fine and after explaining they thanked me .

My grandsons are growing up with a disabled nan and love using my stick to walk with.

It isn't the wheelchair that your grandchild is reacting to but at 2. 5 all children tell you to shush and be quiet.

Why are you embarrassed about being in a wheelchair if you are projecting this feeling your grandchild may picking up on that.
Embrace you disability have you explained to your grandchild why you are in a wheelchair if not do so. Also next time your grandchild says shush or be quiet tell them to shush and be quiet.

My hands tremble all the time my daughter's eldest tells me I am getting better at colouring as I am staying in the lines more. When out with them because of my neurological condition and have what is called at strange walking gait and my body makes me veer off from a straight line . So can be walking along and end up an aisle in a shop I didn't intend to go up. I hear my daughter say where's nannie and the 3 year old has started to say she will be back when she can stop. When the boys where younger my daughter said it was like herding cats with the 3 of us.

I have a friend who is in an electronic wheelchair chair her children and grandchildren have grown up with her in it and they all have used it as a climbing frame and make it into a game.

Child no matter how young pick up on how you are feeling. Do you play with your grandchild? I know you say doesn't come near you but do you go to them . Is it in your home or the child's this happens ? If it's your home have you got toys you have brought for them to play with ? I have 3 large boxes of toys which my grandsons love. But what they really love is nannies micro fibre gloves for dusting ,my long handled dusters ,hand held vacuum and the 3 year old my carpet sweeper. They love cleaning my bungalow. Plus they make a den using my pressure cushion over the gap between my armchair and settee with blankets and they have a torch each .

I have baked with my own child since little and do it with my grandsons but my way as I have found a way to do things I want. My daughter and son in law have always trusted me to babysit the boys since babies and fed and changed nappies. Have you done any of these things?

Do you have to sit in your wheelchair or can you sit in a comfy chair? If you can and they come to your home do that but leave your wheelchair out and I bet any money your grandchild with climb in to it. And play.

What struck me was you saying you are embarrassed. Disability is nothing to be embarrassed about it doesn't mean incapable . Embrace your disability and learn to love your differences. And your grandchild will pick up on that. Have you forgotten what your own child was like at 2. 5 they are little sods ? It's not called the terrible 2 for nothing.

My granddaughter loathed me at that age. She would throw things at me, leave the room if I went in, etc. it passed. We are now pretty close.
Be patient!

Maybe it is the wheelchair and shes confused why you’re not walking but her mum should be helping maybe finding a story to read to her about disabilities
I presume her mum or dad is with her when she visits so it really is up to them to be educating, explaining kindness etc and to be honest no child whatever age should be telling you to shush when you try to speak to her
I think the answer lies in the parents Have you talked to them about how it makes you feel
When she gets a bit braver maybe a ride on nannas knee would be exciting