Sometimes I despair.

Give her the benefit of the doubt I meant ! You could have asked her where they were …. but equally you could now ask her why they ended up in an odd place ….

Iinitially agreed with GSM about making a fuss about nothing, worse things happening for some of us.
Then I realised the OP had been ill. Perhaps she is feeling fragile.

Marg75.

I agree, Kircubbin2000 would not have posted if she wasn't upset about it.

@Marydoll,

Whether Kircubbin2000 has been ill or not, no-one wants to go to their cupboards and find everything in different places. When our son and daughter in law moved in with us for a few weeks waiting for their new home to be ready, I could not find a thing after they had left, many things were in different places. It is just frustrating that is all. Why is it so difficult to put things back where you got them from.

The plates are obviously stylised peaches with their leaves. They have an art deco look which I quite like. Clarice Cliff influence with a modern twist.

People have different ideas of where things should go in a kitchen, My cleaner likes plain surfaces with nothing visible. I like certain things near to hand. I dont want to have to go looking in cupboards for a mug when I want quick coffee etc, He frequently tidies things away in places that are logical to him and then I cant find them! Fortunately Ive got to know his ways and so I put away in a cupboard the things I want out handy but which he thinks should be tidied away.

Lovely plates, maybe someone else put them away.
Unpleasant comments are uncalled for.

We have some amazing charity shops near here. The amount of really beautiful china, ornaments and so on is often heart breaking. You know that these things were much loved by their owners.

Unpleasant comments on gransnet! Surely not.
I'm not at all upset just a bit surprised at the plate stacking order.

Germanshepherdsmum

What a huge fuss over absolutely nothing.

It is quite possible to be very grateful for everything that someone has done for you and still feel a bit peeved if they haven't looked after something you cherish. In fact it is more than possible, it is human and probably normal. Those plates are still the ones which the OP has spent many years being careful with and looking after carefully.

I have some china which was inherited from my MiL, who inherited it from her mother. It doesn't have any monetary value, but it is pretty and of its time. I value it because of the memories it holds, and for those other hands which hand-washed it in the past. I am fairly sure that none of my children or grandchildren will want to be bothered with all that faff. That makes me sad. If they had maltreated it while they were looking after me temporarily, I too would be hurt.

Now, had my mother been in my position, she would say briskly "Things are just things, they don't matter." We are all different, and telling someone that mentioning this here to other mothers/grandmothers is " a huge fuss over absolutely nothing." is dismissing other people's feelings - not a nice trait.

Would you dismiss them if if it had been an expensive new carpet ruined? No? - but that just costs money - no feelings involved.

BigMamma, my husband rarely puts dishes bck in the correct place. My chronic ill health often makes me grumpy, however I am glad he has put them away at all.
I just bite my tongue.

kircubbin2000

Unpleasant comments on gransnet! Surely not.
I'm not at all upset just a bit surprised at the plate stacking order.

I remember reading some "household hints" sent in by readers of a women's magazine years ago, for prizes of £5 each. One of them informed us solemnly that a useful tip was to stack your plates in order of size, with the largest at the bottom and the smallest at the top.

My reaction was to think that was the easiest £5 anyone ever made, and to start looking for similar "brilliant ideas" to send in - how about closing the door before locking it? Or taking the dirty pillowcase off the pillow before putting on the clean one?

Nothing was ruined Elegran. The plates, used occasionally, were put under some others which may be used more frequently. To take to GN over this when the culprit has been looking after you following an operation is, in my book, bad form and most ungrateful.

I think there's a lot to be said for stoicism.

I'm sure whatever made the plates end up under bigger ones was not deliberate.

Germanshepherdsmum

Nothing was ruined Elegran. The plates, used occasionally, were put under some others which may be used more frequently. To take to GN over this when the culprit has been looking after you following an operation is, in my book, bad form and most ungrateful.

I doubt the small plates were "put under" larger ones. The larger ones got put at the back of the cupboard on top of what happened to be there, without injury to either.

Glad you found them anyway, kc, and I hope you are feeling better after your operation

If it were my DD I’d assume that they’d put the side plates away while the dinner plates were in use and then just plonked the dinner plates back on top of them in due course.

I hope your recovery is complete.

Our lovely daughters, who grew up in this very house, come round often, and know me well - always put things in strange locations. I tend to not worry much - but I do wonder at their choices.

I'm sorry she seemingly disrespected your dishes, I hope all is well now.

Perhaps your DD thought that the big plates were more likely to be used next for a meal and so putting them on top just made it easier to retrieve them?

Hope you make a speedy recovery! 💐

I am a little bit worried about these plates all being piled on top of each other.
Perhaps one of those plate stackers would be a good. I have one which is plastic coated wire.
Then the plates are accessible and also visible.
Our children do see things differently, but she was there to help you when you needed it.

I'm enjoying some of the po faced replies on this lighthearted thread.

Op

Would this have have annoyed you so much if you have not felt unwell?

It hasn't annoyed me at all.

I honestly did not think the OP was upset or complaining, just bemused that the heavy plates were stacked on top of those small one's.
I have a lovely partner who tells me I do things left handed, and he does it this way. I am never offended, I seize the moment and say oh OK you had better do it then. Win Win.
Oh just to add I am right handed. I would not want to offend people who are left handed.

"Despair" is a very strong word. Recent wider family suicide to cope with.

Maybe add LH (light-hearted) to the title so that there is no misunderstanding. People cannot 'hear' tone on the printed page.

Once one knows exactly what was meant, the title wordking isn't a problem but I have to admit my very first reaction was Gosh! what a fuss about some plates.

They weren't "squashed" either.

I have actually "squashed" a plate or two in my time with careless putting away – my own thankfully.

I agree Baggs. If the OP was meant to be lighthearted, the initial poster could have have given an indication that it was. Then perhaps we wouldn't have wasted time responding, or responded differently.