AIBU to feel this awful mixture of emotions?

I’m so sorry about your dd, Flaxseed. I do know how
hard it is. My dd had 2 misses before her first successful pregnancy - the 2nd was particularly devastating for her since she still had all the symptoms but was told at her 8 week scan that there was no heartbeat - it was a ‘missed’ miscarriage.

However she eventually went on to have 3 healthy babies, and no further misses. 🤞🙏 for your dd.

It's awful for you flaxseed and, of course, you are not being unreasonable. Please let you partnerknow how you are.

I have a photo of DH, a very tearful Dd3 and me admiring DD2's first daughter. DD3 was tearful as she had just miscarried for the third time. She was incredibly brave and determined to go and congratulate her sister on her new baby although it was hard for her.

But, she now has 3 lovely children of her own.

I’m so sorry Flaxseed. How absolutely awful for all of you. You are not being in the least unreasonable. It’s a huge conflict of emotions and loyalties, a big burden to bear. Don’t keep your emotions from your partner, allow him to comfort you. One day at a time for all of you, and I hope happiness lies ahead. 💐

Go ahead and cry! This is a sad thing for you all and you won't feel happy for your DP until you have grieved for the loss of this little one.

DP needs to know your sadness so don't cover it up. There's a way to go before his GC is born and by then I'm sure you will feel so much more able to welcome another little one.

Life throws us these things from time to time- don't hide your feelings, I am sure they feel for you too.

Thanks crazyH
I am trying to keep busy as really I just want to burst into tears

Thanks both of you.
RosiesMaw, gosh that must have been so hard for you (but also lovely welcoming your new GD)

Luckily, both DD’s are close and DD2 (Mum of my two DGS) is very supportive of her sister.
It’s going to be so hard for DD when she finds out DP’s DD is pregnant but I know she will be pleased for her.

They say you are only as happy as your unhappiest child and that couldn’t be more true

So sorry Flaxseed - ofcourse you have a mixture of emotions.
You wouldn’t be human if you didn’t.

I had a similar mix of emotions when DD2 was strongly advised to terminate a first and much-wanted pregnancy because the foetus was so damaged it might not even have lived to term. Even that wasn’t straightforward as she developed an infection after the procedure and had to be readmitted.
At the same time DD1 had her third baby (a girl, after two boys) and pics from the time show D2 struggling bravely to recover. To her credit, D1 dropped everything and drove over 120 miles to comfort her sister .
We were heartbroken for D2 but rejoiced at the birth of our first granddaughter.
Of course you are not being unreasonable - reason does not come into,it where love, sadness, death and birth are concerned 🌺🌺
Sincere sympathy.

I'm sorry to hear this Flaxseed, feeling sad is completely normal look after yourself