I feel offended

Cateq

I’d say she’s very insensitive, must be a thing with husbands bothers wives. She sounds exactly like my Dh SiL, I don’t call my sister in law because she too is insensitive. I hope you get to spent time with your dad as he’s the most important person right now

That's a generalisation!

My DH' s brother's wife ie my sister-in-law, is lovely.
As are and were my brother's wives.

These are not situations for messages. Call her, so you can explain things properly.

I find it hard to get proper context when people don't use commas and fullstops.

Otherwise, I am sorry to hear about your dad.

These emojis change their meaning from time to time according to my daughter. I can't keep up so would not base a response on that. Much easier to speak on the phone and clarify things I think.