To think this is really inconsiderate

I'd be more worried about taking a baby with colic on a plane to be honest. The change in air pressure can't be helpful.

Thats the last thing I would want a colicky baby in holiday, he will grown out of it and the holiday then will be a pleasure. Most of us have survived it.

My dd2 had absolutely classic 3 months’ colic - started at maybe 10 days old and ended at 3 months. I was strongly opposed to dummies at the time, but resorted in desperation and it did seem to give her some relief.

IIRC the doctor prescribed some drops to be given before a feed, too, but in those days it was a case of 3 or 4 hourly feeds, not the seemingly endless mini-feeds that seem to be the way now - certainly if breastfeeding.

You haven't said whether the parents of the baby are taking up the offer. They would have to apply for a passport for the baby, which could take weeks to arrive. I doubt very much whether they would take up the offer for several weeks or months, by which time the colic may well have passed.

I had one with this and used to be zombie like through lack of sleep. I also had a 20 month old, both in terry nappies. It was the worst time of my life. He didn’t improve until he was on solids.

The thought of going away with all it entails with a screaming, colicky baby gives me the shudders.

Personally, I’d rather be at home with everything I need close by. I can’t see how it’s going to be a rest or a break as they’re taking the ‘problem’ with them.

Unless you are in the downstairs apartment it doesn't affect you and is none of your business Why do you want to put your friend and her family's private business on a public forum ?

It will give their usual neighbours a break from crying baby. I had 1 baby that cried from colic I used to put her in the car seat and drive around until she fell asleep or get DH to drive her around until asleep.

Not a good plan for all the reasons mentioned above.

How about helping this couple by providing a childcare professional for them a couple of hours every evening or at least 3 or 4 times a week.

It's none of your business.

If you live nearby couldn’t you do a couple of nights with the baby to give the parents a break ?
I did this sometimes when my twin grandsons were small, we swapped houses, I went to their house with the babies and they were at mine for a takeaway and a decent sleep. They were so grateful and said it felt like a little holiday.

Vintagejazz

My friends daughter has a small baby who is colicky. He cries non stop between 5 and 7 most evenings and then starts again at about 11 and they could be up until 5 with him.
My friend and her husband have an apartment in Spain and have offered it to their daughter and son in law for a 2 week holiday with the baby. It's a third floor apartment in a building that's mostly holiday rentals. My friend said to me cheerfully 'God help whoever's in the apartment below. They won't get a wink of sleep. But Ben and Laura really need a holiday'.

AIBU to think this is really inconsiderate. I have every sympathy for Ben and Laura (not their real names) but the people renting the apartment below might also really need a holiday, or have saved hard earned money for a fortnight away. Now they're just going to be exhausted and on edge.

Ir is that just a risk you have to take when you book a holiday apartment?

This is absolutely none of your business! It’s entirely up to the people involved to sort it out. Why you, a person not in the slightest involved in this, would plaster it all over social media is beyond me!

Whethertomorrow

I think they’re totally mad taking an in pain stressed colicky baby on holiday.
It’s bad enough dealing with the little one at home where you have all your familiar surroundings and equipment. The baby, how old is it by the way, has familiar smells and cot. You are then going to uproot it to somewhere strange, isn’t that going to stress it out more.

Then you can add in airport noise, ear pressure when flying, different water and food which can affect the little tummy. What happens if there is flight problems or massive delays at the airport. Wouldn’t all this stress an already unhappy colicky child. I can’t imagine being a parent and coping with all that.

I agree, any baby can get unsettled when away from home and air travel and delays only add to this. I'd always stay at home unless I had a very calm baby.

Vintagejazz isn't related to the parents or baby so there's no reason why she should volunteer to look after the baby for two nights a week.

Unless she has rented an apartment in the same block at the same time 🤔

Am I reading this correctly? Y

You criticise people you call friends to let their grown children take a holiday in their own property because of their colicky baby? ?

When I suggested providing professional childcare for the baby, I meant Vintagejazz's friend might do this.

Mine too. Perhaps should could get help from health visitor. Colic doesn’t last for ever. Maybe it’s something else

Years ago my friend was left with her colicky grandson while the parents went to get a bit of peace and quiet and sun .
I think the baby was so shocked it stopped crying 🤣
Having a new baby was no problem to the granny , I was very surprised at them leaving the child
All grew up best of friends

It will give their neighbours a break.

I ask earplugs everywhere I go on holiday. It isn’t only colicky babies who are noisy!

Good grief!
My youngest, of 4, is 56. Most of my friends had babies and we all swopped horror stories. However I have no memory of any small baby crying so loud and long that parents and neighbours were permanently tired. However I do recall one girl, who was always frightened of her mother, being horrified when her ineffective little pats on her baby’s back didn’t result in a burp, when told to use more force. Her mother had told her using force would injure her baby.
My youngest had just finished her bottle so I showed her how to put the baby face down on my knees, then place my hand in the small of its back and press slightly in an upward motion. Resulting in a burp which a grandfather could have made! She passed her 6 week old over and boy! Did that baby enjoy its burp!!
Not all babies respond to gentle back taps when it’s in a horizontal position. I truly believe that many of the babes with a reputation of being colicky and constantly crying, need burping procedures experimented on.
Incidentally, the ‘across the knee’ method was shown me by my elderly foster Dad who was born in 1889.

Across the knee suggested by my helpful advisor when I had a breast fed colicky baby - usually caused by too much milk, greedily guzzled. This was nearly 70 years ago and it certainly did the trick!! In fact, something never advised today, she always slept in her tummy afterwards. As long as it was a firm mattress and no pillow, her nose - should she have decided to sleep face down - gave her breathing space. Happy Mum and happy baby!!

MercuryQueen

I guess I’m the weird one, because if I spent thousands to go on vacation and had a colicky baby overhead, I’d be in tears myself. All that money wasted, because unless things were soundproofed, my sleep would be messed up, and sleep deprivation guarantees pain flares for me.

It would completely ruin my vacation.

Totally agree. Not fair in other people.

What your friend and her family do is up to them. Whatever you think about it is not really relevant

A baby of the age that typically suffers from colic, should not be taken anywhere by plane, and I doubt very much that the child's parents will even consider sitting for an hour or s o in an airport with a crying baby.

If they do, it will be a pleasant change for their neighbours at home.

I do not consider the grandparents' offer as inconsiderate - not well thought through, as no-one would want to travel with a baby unless forced to.

Anyone who has ever stayed in a block of flats must surely know that people come home late at night or go to work early in the morning - toilets are flushed, showers taken, loud music played, babies cry, adults make love, dogs bark and so on.

If you cannot take any of the above, then stay at home, or if you go away, stay in a luxary hotel.

Here was I thinking the snowflake generation were the young adults in their 20s and 30s, apparently our age group has snowflakes too.