Am I overacting?

I don’t think you’re overreacting at all. I would be the same.

There is however a massive red flag here in that his parents live right next door! That’s not quite normal I think.

I think everyone can relate to a degree but you are overreacting and you need to take a deep breath. You'll get plenty of time with your grandson in the future if you manage to keep your feelings under control.

I am presuming you are seeing posts on social media? they don;t always tell the truth

wibblywobblywobblebottom

I would say so. The birth of a child is a day for the mother and father. Everybody else will just have to wait.

I think the issue here is the other GM is NOT having to wait.

I do feel sorry for the OP.

Pollypink

I think your feelings are quite natural, but for now bite your tongue and simply ask your daughter when it would work for you to come and help her with baby and enjoy.

Congratulations

pollypink

I just feel so left out. Surely a mother and daughter should share a special bond especially at the time of a new grandson coming into the world, I was so looking forward to this time as I have lost mu father, mother and brother in law all in the past 6 months. This was a little bit of happiness to look forward to and it's just added to my despair

I'm sorry.

You say you visited the new baby, that's wonderful. Distance away - many don't visit new babies as soon as you were able, hold on to happy thoughts of the visit whilst awaiting the next visit.

You've a happy future with daughter and baby - perhaps just wait patiently.

I'm glad that mine are so close to other gran as I live far away and only see them twice a year.They also have the friendship of cousins of a similar age.

I would say so. The birth of a child is a day for the mother and father. Everybody else will just have to wait.

Totally get it. I had something happen when my grandchild was born that I cannot put here. At times it can be difficult. However, I have gained much by keeping my mouth firmly shut, gritting my teeth and getting on with things. I have a good relationship with family and I feel it was worth putting up with a little bit of hurt which, I don't usually think is intentional.

I’m so sorry pollypink. Of course you are sad, I would be too. We want to be there for our daughters at these times and it is hurtful when they show they have no need of us. I would feel exactly the same.

Please be happy your daughter is OK and has safely delivered a beautiful baby boy. You have seen the little one and although a long way away you aren't overseas. You have years to be part of his life. At the moment he only needs his mum.

Life is often not as we imagine it will be - but it can still be beautiful.

Congratulations.

I just feel so left out. Surely a mother and daughter should share a special bond especially at the time of a new grandson coming into the world, I was so looking forward to this time as I have lost mu father, mother and brother in law all in the past 6 months. This was a little bit of happiness to look forward to and it's just added to my despair

As the mother of a son this attitude saddens me greatly.

This is such a common story, usually from first time posters.

Norah

Yes. Be gracious, you will gain much.

Wise words

As the mother of daughters I do feel for you. Your DD and her DH live next door to his parents.....
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I would also be a loving mum to your daughter and not concentrate on your new grandson.. She will need all the care you can give at the moment from both you and her MIL.. stay close to her and she will want to share her joy with you..

Yes. Be gracious, you will gain much.

Yes you are overreacting, if it were the other way round would you excuse her mother in law reacting like this?
It’s not a competition, enjoy your time with the family when you can, that includes the new parents, not just the baby.. Make yourself useful, pay for a food delivery to help them out, perhaps a laundry service or a one off clean, your time will come.

Oh dear, it is a fact of your situation that you are physically farther away, and the MIL is closer, so it it bound to happen. It doesn't mean that your daughter doesn't value your input as a grandmother any less.

It can seem unfair and yes, it can hurt, but you mustn't show that your are heartbroken or jealous of the other grandmother's time.

Try to stay in contact via video so the little one learns the sound of your voice, and try to arrange your next visit, which must be convenient to the new parents.

Congratulations on the new arrival.
A very loving relationship can be had whether or not you are distant from your new grandchild. Cherish every cuddle, and had the little one over to the next grandparent with love. Love isn't portioned out, it is shared, and grows from that sharing.