I know they were only trying to help but

Sorry but I think you are being ridiculous.....

You can’t please some people! How lovely to see some courtesy and manners. I would have really appreciated the kind gents - don’t be so prickly!

nanasam

ViceVersa

I wouldn't be offended. I'd just think it was nice of them to be so helpful, and I'd have given them a friendly wave to thank them.

Hear, hear. I love the age of chivalry and feel special if I'm offered a seat or am treated kindly

I agree but perversely, once the spotlight of 6 eyes belonging to 3 helpful men (or women for that matter), were on little ol' me, I would invariably lose my confidence and do something wrong!
I know this from experience 🫣

It was nice of them and it makes people feel a little foolish if their good manners and kindly meant gestures are derided.

You are being unreasonable

Caro41

It was nice of them and it makes people feel a little foolish if their good manners and kindly meant gestures are derided.

Doubt they are on GN.

Yes, I would be absolutely delighted! I am all for bring back common courtesies that are now considered “old fashioned”!!! I never, ever wanted wanted feminine rights or equality, perha ps because I never felt inferior!

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Oh! For goodness sake.
Just smile and mouth a thank you, wave
- and be grateful and glad that you've obviously still 'got it'!!
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Maybe it was for their own safety - women drivers!(joke)
Personally I would just be very thankful for the help and tell them so.

Oh, for goodness sake!

I did smile and wave thanks!

I'm quite nice actually - just don't like to be patronised.

grumppa

I am sure they meant well, kittylester, but I do sympathise. I have been reversing out of my front garden without incident for thirty years, but the other day a passing neighbour took it upon himself to guide me out with much waving of his arms - but he had placed himself in the direction in which I was least likely to look. It's a miracle I didn't flatten him.

Nevertheless, I gave him a cheery wave by way of thanks.

That gave me a laugh 😂

kittylester

Oh, for goodness sake!

I did smile and wave thanks!

I'm quite nice actually - just don't like to be patronised.

Maybe it was a one off, or did they do it today as well?

Bluesmum

Yes, I would be absolutely delighted! I am all for bring back common courtesies that are now considered “old fashioned”!!! I never, ever wanted wanted feminine rights or equality, perha ps because I never felt inferior!

It's not about feeling or being inferior, it's about being thought of as automatically inferior just because you are a women.

Women have proved time and time again that they are not inferior but some men find that old habits die hard.

That is the point though

It's not about feeling or being inferior, it's about being thought of as automatically inferior just because you are a women.

I've never felt inferior, no man has ever made me feel inferior. Why think that men are thinking you're inferior? That's your choice to believe and think that way.

As a young woman I tended to believe that women had the upper hand in many scenarios.

So it's just your choice to think that way.

Yes you are.

You are definitely being unreasonable being offended! What a lovely gesture one that’s very often lacking these days. I would have taken it with the good grace it was meant.

In the world we live in today I say don’t sweat the small stuff🥰

You say "if only you knew how it works" referring to all the navigating devices on your car
Be grateful for being shown some consideration. Your devices could have been fogged up (quite common where I live due to v.cold weather, rain, snow) bet you'd be grateful then

Of course you're not right to be offended. These men were trying to help you - they could have left you to flounder.

You never know when you might need help and from whom
A few years ago I was returning home and pulled into a country park to use the toilet
On my return my way out was blocked by a gang of learning disabled who had been gardening
Excuse me gents are you going to let me out.
One opened my car door , another waved me out I was then signalled to stop and yet another waved me forward. Proceeded out under an arch of gardening equipment.
I didn’t need any help at all but they made me feel special and made me smile
I lowered my window and gave them a thanks and a wave They waved back
I can still see them in my mind. Such lovely guys

kittylester, you know you can do it without help and that’s all that matters. Personally, it wouldn’t bother me at all; like you, I would have given them a cheery wave and been on my way. Unlike you, though, I doubt I would’ve given it another thought during my day ……

I'd find it very irritating, just as I used to feel irritated when my late father-in-law used to stand behind me when I was backing out of his drive and make 'winding' motions for me to back out when he decided it was safe!

I'm sure no disrespect was meant in either case - just an attempt to be helpful'

GoldenAge

Of course you're not right to be offended. These men were trying to help you - they could have left you to flounder.

I was not going to flounder at all. I am perfectly capable of backing out of my own drive. I do it at least once a day most weeks.

Did they know that?

How pathetic! Just be thankful that there are some men who like to help, wheth