I know they were only trying to help but

BTW, did your OH stop to have a chat with them, as you did?

I too would giggle to myself and find it really funny..

Actually kitty I thought it was rather sweet!

Also, they probably felt a bit more accommodating towards you because you had chatted to them.

kittylester

There are men down manholes on our road doing something with Virgin Media cables.

I know because we had a chat before I got in the car.

As I backed down our drive 3 of them leapt out of their holes, one stopped traffic, one stood watching and one stood on the opposite side of the road so he could tell me when it was safe to proceed.

My car is new, has cameras and could probably track a satellite if I only knew how to do it.

DH went out 10 minutes later and was, apparently, left to cope on his own.

This happens quite often..

AIBU to feel offended

Yes you are! You are the sort of person who will say this and then have a huff because a man didn’t hold a shop door open for you!
Be thankful there are still some men with manners still around. They are few and far between!

Am afraid I rarely encounter this, if ever, but my OH has had people jump up on trains or the tube to offer him a seat. And though he is a few years older than me he doesn’t look it.
So it does happen the other way round.
Would take it as a good deed done.
👍

I think opening a door and letting someone go through first is just a matter of good manners and common courtesy, whether it is a man or a woman!

Barleyfields Do you object to a man holding a door open and letting you through first?

Yes I do, I find it patronising. I would never say anything though as the poor dears think they are being considerate letting the little woman through first and not asserting their superiority.

It would have made my day 🤭

I’d be delighted. It’s good manners.

Would you have been offended if it had been women ?

I’d be amused ‘kitty’ while asking Mr C if he’d managed on his own. Then I’d duck 😂.

nanasam

ViceVersa

I wouldn't be offended. I'd just think it was nice of them to be so helpful, and I'd have given them a friendly wave to thank them.

Hear, hear. I love the age of chivalry and feel special if I'm offered a seat or am treated kindly

I would feel the same!

ViceVersa

I wouldn't be offended. I'd just think it was nice of them to be so helpful, and I'd have given them a friendly wave to thank them.

Hear, hear. I love the age of chivalry and feel special if I'm offered a seat or am treated kindly

I wouldn't be offended. I'd just think it was nice of them to be so helpful, and I'd have given them a friendly wave to thank them.

I’d take it with a pinch of salt and have a quiet chuckle to myself.

You may feel offended on your DH’s behalf, if their work was obstructing his view. They should have treated you both equally, but otherwise I agree with Barleyfields.

Old fashioned courtesy or thinking that a woman was more likely to drive into a hole.

Yes you are. Why not just appreciate some gentlemanly courtesy? I would. Do you object to a man holding a door open for you and letting you enter first when he wouldn’t do that for another man?

No - I would just grin to myself, smile politely and carry on.