Email addresses, wives using their husbands’.

Having a joint email address (as well as our own individual ones) for certain things makes sense for us, as it means that either of us can deal with matters if the other isn't around for whatever reason. I'm talking about things like utilities, insurance, cars, our joint bank account and so on.

I have a friend who hasn’t changed a John and Mary email address although John died 3 years ago. I find that a bit maudlin. Surely creating a new email account with just Mary and gradually stopping using the other can’t be that difficult.

Doodledog - was that when it was still CIS? I didn't have Compuserve.

We had a friend "in" IT who wrote programs (for industry mainly) and who thought AOL was "the way".

I know later that AOL had free email accounts but I'm pretty sure ours was part of our Internet "deal". It was still new to us so maybe we just didn't explore it till we got Eclipse.

Obviously all dial up then.

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Galaxy

Emails have been used for around 30 years havent they. That's quite a long time to avoid 'new tech'.

I remember going on a course about that long ago when the instructor introduced us to the concept of emails. He said he and his friends never sent Christmas cards any more, just emailed greetings to one another.
We were astonished - we'll never do that, we thought! Now we can send e-cards 😃

Since Himself was diagnosed I have been frustrated when (if) I’ve wanted to share my anxieties with two of my friends, I can’t, (well I could but don’t want to) because they share email addresses with their husbands. I tend to share a short text instead but obviously it’s not as fulsome a message as I’d like.
Hey ho.

I looked this up. I’m a Hotmail.com user (had it 20+ years and counting).
I found it interesting:

“ Sree Sreenivasan, a strategist with an accomplished digital resume, ignited a fierce debate on LinkedIn in January when he suggested that an email address that ends in @hotmail.com might be grounds for tossing out a job application.

“When you see a resume with a Hotmail address, what do you do?” he wrote. “Treat ’em same as others? Reject ’em right away? Some other response?”

Responses ranged from annoyed (“That would be the same as poking fun at a 15-year-old Toyota that is rust-free and still runs like new. It works, it does its job, and it’s mine. Get over it.”) to outraged (“If my email doesn’t get me the job, then I didn’t want it to begin with!”) to pointedly bombastic (“While you are on it you should track them, find them and put a bullet in their heads. That would teach them.”).

The furor demonstrated that not only are people using one of the world’s oldest webmail services, they’re zealous fans of accounts that some have been using for decades.

But does a Hotmail domain actually matter to job recruiters? What about other long-standing email services, like AOL or Yahoo or Outlook? Recruiters, hiring managers, lawyers and human resources experts we spoke to largely agree that it’s unwise for businesses to discard a job application because of a vintage email domain.

But it still might be time to consider a switch to something fresher.

Seeking tech-savvy applicants

Hotmail launched in 1996 as one of the first public webmail services. Originally stylized as HoTMaiL to highlight its web-based existence (HTML provides the building blocks for most web pages) and because mixing cases was inexplicably popular at the time, Hotmail offered everything that ISP-based email did not. Most notably, while its contemporaries were tied to a specific device, users could access Hotmail from any computer all over the world.”

NotSpaghetti

Marydoll I think you shouldn't be sending them to a shared inbox.
I could be wrong. It would be very unfair if it was you who got into trouble though.

I DONT and wouldn't dream of sending them to a shared box. I am very rigorous about GDPR.
Don't get me started on people, who CC instead of BCC.
However, some people just dont get it! . It is their responsibility to come to me!

I have an AOL address that I think morphed from my Compuserve one when it went under. I used AOL as a service provider for years too, when we were on dial-up. I was aware that some people thought it 'infra dig', and poked fun at AOL users - they were usually Linus-using male nerds who also scorned Windows and Internet Explorer - basically anything that allowed the masses into what they saw as their domain. I think they also disliked the fact that AOL users had dynamic IPs so were more difficult to track on their chatrooms and so on.

I happily ignored them, and carried on regardless. I have several email addresses for different purposes, but the AOL one is my main one, as I've had it for so long that it would be a massive faff to change it. OTOH, it would get rid of a lot of junk mail, so who knows?

Maybe having an AOL address will become cool again, in the manner of vinyl records and G Plan furniture?

No you’re not being unreasonable. My dh and I have had separate email addresses since the early 90s . I don’t want to receive his emails and he doesn’t want mine . I think after 30+ years women should have their own . Not use their husbands/partner.
My mother is 89 and has an email address. She got annoyed with her late sister who wouldn’t have an email address and had to contact her via her husband .

What about other long-standing email services, like AOL or Yahoo or Outlook?

Yahoo is insidious. When DH asked me to open his Yahoo email account on my device just once, Yahoo took over my PC as the default search engine. I have deleted it several times but every time I switch on, there it is again.

Maybe having an AOL address will become cool again, in the manner of vinyl records and G Plan furniture?

"My email account is retro" 😁

I’ve got a couple of email addresses, used for different purposes. My main one is still AOL, because I’ve an early username that I like and it works well - I’m not job hunting and couldn’t care less if anyone wants to judge my tech choices. I like a bit of vintage.

When I’ve given it lately to get email receipts, Doodledog, the young assistants have commented on it - in a “that’s cool”, interested way. Perhaps our time has come!

My very first email address was maggie@england - I can’t remember whether it was .com or .co.uk. I wish I still had it.

When our GD was born I immediately set up an email address for her.
I have spent 10 years sending pictures and videos to it.
I am going to hand it over to her on her 11th birthday.

We have our own email addresses but acquaintances often assume mine is joint because of the initial we have in common. Most of the time it's not a problem. I wouldn't want to share as I get enough mailing list stuff and wouldn't want his as well!

My husband has his own email but as he can hardly remember that it is also his business address which I need to monitor, so I see them all. He only looks if he is expecting something or I tell him to. It is part of my job description (gofo) to read them 🤣🤣

It comes across as quite pathetic. I imagine a little woman whose husband let's her join a few things but would not be able to use email herself.

We each have email addresses, his business has email.

People do what suits their life.

I have a friend who shares her husband's. She uses it as much as him.
I find it bizarre but each to their own.

A problem comes when she wants to look back at something. She has much to scroll through.

I can understand a joint one for banking, bills etc (assuming these things are shared) so that both parties can access it and action anything that needs doing - a bit like either opening a bill that lands on the mat because they've picked up the post that day.

It's the personal ones I don't like. If a message goes out to friends about Ermentrude's gynae operation, or Ariadne's haemorrhoids it's not unreasonable for E or A to prefer the details to be kept to her actual friends, not their spouses.

As we can have as many as we like, and they cost nothing, it makes sense to have both a joint one (if preferred) and separate ones too.

fancythat

I have a friend who shares her husband's. She uses it as much as him.
I find it bizarre but each to their own.

A problem comes when she wants to look back at something. She has much to scroll through.

This is where I come into my own with an admin background!

I check ours daily, delete the spam and rubbish and once read and dealt with, file everything in the relevant folder ie Banking, Bungalow, Car, etc

Never more than half a dozen in our inbox awaiting further info. Lawdy, what an almighty mess MrPG would leave his own in if he could be bothered 😱

My old school friend addresses my birthday card Mrs J Smith (not real name) It drives me nuts my name isn't John Smith, part of me wants to ask her what strange hat has she pulled this weird anachronism from, but I don't want to fall out with her.

Separate email addresses for us.

TerriBull

My old school friend addresses my birthday card Mrs J Smith (not real name) It drives me nuts my name isn't John Smith, part of me wants to ask her what strange hat has she pulled this weird anachronism from, but I don't want to fall out with her.

Separate email addresses for us.

It used to be considered the correct form of address for married women years ago but it's old-fashioned now.

I must live on a different planet, as I don’t know anyone who has a shared email address. A most strange thing to do in my opinion.

Why are posters saying that the woman shares the man’s email address? What makes it his and not the other way around?

NotAGran55

I must live on a different planet, as I don’t know anyone who has a shared email address. A most strange thing to do in my opinion.

Why are posters saying that the woman shares the man’s email address? What makes it his and not the other way around?

My friend does this and yes, the email address is her husband's name.

A strange thing to get upset about. We have our own individual emails, and bank accounts. But I have friends who have shared emails, banks etc. That's their business, not for me to criticise. It's almost like saying the neighbours should plant tulips and not daffodils because that's what you do