Granddaughter and my Boyfriend she does not like him.

Sorry, but can you explain what you mean by 'comes out'?

Personally I think that after 7 years ‘partner’ would be a better label than boyfriend, and would help establish him to others as a fixture in your life.
But your gdaughter must have a reason for disliking him, and without knowing what it is we can’t help.
I hope you find a solution.

You can't make her like him. Sometimes people just don't mesh well. If spending time with her is important to you, do it without him present. Meet for lunch just the two of you.

Your granddaughter sounds as if she is in her late teens/early twenties? So a tricky age, and perhaps she feels slightly embarrassed by the thought of grandma having a boyfriend/partner. But would try to have some quality time alone with her to sound her out about what it is that she doesn't like about the man in your life. Until you know what the problem is you can't really do much about it.

Just to add your boyfriend/partner has no right to put pressure upon you about your granddaughter, issuing ultimatums, appreciate that he is hurt but if it upsets him so much you must arrange to see your granddaughter yourself rather than always having your boyfriend/partner with you.

General rule of thumb: as soon as a partner or "boyfriend" starts issuing threats and ultimatums it's time to wave them goodbye. A genuinely loving and supportive partner would be willing to communicate with the aim of finding either a resolution or a compromise, but issuing threats is what the emotionally stunted resort to because they're either a bully or are too immature to discuss things properly. It's probable that your granddaughter will grow up, mature and come around to you having a life partner. I'm less optimistic that your boyfriend will. You choose.

Maybe your granddaughter sees something thats passed you by.

could you get another member of the family, perhaps her mother or a sister to try to find out if there is something specific she does not like, or is it just a general dislike? We cannot always choose who we like or dislike but can have manners and behave in a civilised way. i see them both thinking you are going to choose between them. Well maybe your partner should have a better idea , being older, but feels that your relationship is threatened by her attitude. I dont think you should let your granddaugher dictate your life either. Once she has found that she can influence who and where you go there will be no end to it. Another point is that at her age, she may move away, go to a new job or college, make a load of new friends and forget all about it, or simply change her mind. Then you could end up where you are on your own if you give up the relationship and your life is not as you want it. Whilst I think you should think carefully if there is a specific reason, and perhaps if you have a very old friend that you trust you could ask their views on the matter, at the moment I would say it is 6 and two 3's, and personally I would be prepared to listen to comments but my life is my own and someone trying to manipulate me would just be an absolute NO NO, so think what you want in your life and follow it. In my view as long as I dont harm anyone else I think I have the right to choose my own life and so do you!!!

My Boyfriend was hurst because of this and now says if she comes out again he will leave me

You have been together 7 years, and he is still behaving like an insecure toddler and demanding that everyone round you should love him too? Obviously there is something attractive about him, because you love him and have been together so long. But I prefer mentally mature men.

do we have evanescence here

do we have evanescence here

What's evanescence?

Definition: Something that possesses qualities of evanescence, has a quality of disappearing or vanishing.

A bit early to tell.

Yep, American AI.

Definition: Something that possesses qualities of evanescence, has a quality of disappearing or vanishing.
A bit early to tell.

Ah! Gotcha!

Oh one of those posts eh !!
Never heard of ‘evanescence’ before new word for my dictionary

Why not ask your granddaughter why she doesn’t like him?

Simples!

What should you do? Tell your granddaughter to mind her own business and not to be rude to your friends.

Well that’s not necessarily good advice Baggs perhaps there is a good reason she doesn’t like him and he doesn’t sound very nice if he’s given the poster an ultimatum that ll he ll leave her if the grandaughter visits again I can understand him saying well if she visits again I ll go out for the day and leave you to to it but I ll leave you if she visits again sounds pretty bullying

He sounds very immature- the ultimatum is a red flag

She may see other behaviours she doesn't like, she may not like how he treats you.... we don't have the whole story here

Attending her high-school and college graduations does not entitle him to anything, it just means he was invited and he attended

Have you ever met her without him?

It might not be good advice, bluebelle but it's true nonetheless. It is none of the GD's business and she should not be being 'cold' and 'rude' to her grandmother's friends. Why has grandma put up with that shit?

That the adults may also be immature and silly is beside the point.

Why is everyone assuming it's the bloke who's at fault? It sounds as though he's had to put up with quite a lot of insolence.

I agree he's made a silly threat but a lot of people make silly threats they don't mean to keep.

The girl refusing even to say hello is disgraceful. That's the bottom line.

A 'boyfriend' of seven years? Has he moved in? You don't say how old the boyfriend is but I'm guessing he's younger?
Maybe your GD doesn't like him because she thinks he's too young for her? How old is the GC? They both sound immature anyway so maybe would be good for each other?

I don't know if its a wind-up tbh...life is too short for this sort of thing.

Maybe he's one of those sleazy guys . . .