Granddaughter and my Boyfriend she does not like him.

*honesty!

What was your granddaughter like when she first met your OH?

If she was alright at first, then he has hurt or upset her in some way!

If she disliked him from the start it's possible she felt pushed out by him and wanted to spend some time alone with you!
OR, she knew/knows something about him that would hurt you!

PLEASE spend some time alone with her and ASK her why she seems not to like him?
Don't be angry with her, ask for her honest!

OhOhOh

^do we have evanescence here^

What's evanescence?

An American rock band.

Your granddaughter has a perfect right not to care for the man in your life, but NOT the right to ignore him or be rude to him when she visits you.

Unfortunately, you have let this behaviour slide for 7 years, so I am not at all surprised that your friend has delivered an ultimatum.

What you do, is to think very seriously as to which of these two people means most to you, then act accordingly.

It might not be good advice, bluebelle but it's true nonetheless

Well it might not be true Baggs the grandaughter might have a very good reason for ignoring him perhaps she s seen him be mean to her gran or maybe he’s been sleazy to her we have no way of knowing ….if we knew both sides of the story we could give a more balanced view
It doesn’t say anything at all about the grandaughter ignoring Grans friends ! Plural ! just him so she may well have a reason
and by giving an ultimatum he’s showing a side most of us wouldn’t like

welbeck you never let us down, ha ha

Maybe he's one of those sleazy guys . . .

A 'boyfriend' of seven years? Has he moved in? You don't say how old the boyfriend is but I'm guessing he's younger?
Maybe your GD doesn't like him because she thinks he's too young for her? How old is the GC? They both sound immature anyway so maybe would be good for each other?

I don't know if its a wind-up tbh...life is too short for this sort of thing.

I agree he's made a silly threat but a lot of people make silly threats they don't mean to keep.

The girl refusing even to say hello is disgraceful. That's the bottom line.

Why is everyone assuming it's the bloke who's at fault? It sounds as though he's had to put up with quite a lot of insolence.

It might not be good advice, bluebelle but it's true nonetheless. It is none of the GD's business and she should not be being 'cold' and 'rude' to her grandmother's friends. Why has grandma put up with that shit?

That the adults may also be immature and silly is beside the point.

He sounds very immature- the ultimatum is a red flag

She may see other behaviours she doesn't like, she may not like how he treats you.... we don't have the whole story here

Attending her high-school and college graduations does not entitle him to anything, it just means he was invited and he attended

Have you ever met her without him?

Well that’s not necessarily good advice Baggs perhaps there is a good reason she doesn’t like him and he doesn’t sound very nice if he’s given the poster an ultimatum that ll he ll leave her if the grandaughter visits again I can understand him saying well if she visits again I ll go out for the day and leave you to to it but I ll leave you if she visits again sounds pretty bullying

What should you do? Tell your granddaughter to mind her own business and not to be rude to your friends.

Why not ask your granddaughter why she doesn’t like him?

Simples!

Oh one of those posts eh !!
Never heard of ‘evanescence’ before new word for my dictionary

Definition: Something that possesses qualities of evanescence, has a quality of disappearing or vanishing.
A bit early to tell.

Ah! Gotcha!

Yep, American AI.

Definition: Something that possesses qualities of evanescence, has a quality of disappearing or vanishing.

A bit early to tell.

do we have evanescence here

What's evanescence?

do we have evanescence here

My Boyfriend was hurst because of this and now says if she comes out again he will leave me

You have been together 7 years, and he is still behaving like an insecure toddler and demanding that everyone round you should love him too? Obviously there is something attractive about him, because you love him and have been together so long. But I prefer mentally mature men.

could you get another member of the family, perhaps her mother or a sister to try to find out if there is something specific she does not like, or is it just a general dislike? We cannot always choose who we like or dislike but can have manners and behave in a civilised way. i see them both thinking you are going to choose between them. Well maybe your partner should have a better idea , being older, but feels that your relationship is threatened by her attitude. I dont think you should let your granddaugher dictate your life either. Once she has found that she can influence who and where you go there will be no end to it. Another point is that at her age, she may move away, go to a new job or college, make a load of new friends and forget all about it, or simply change her mind. Then you could end up where you are on your own if you give up the relationship and your life is not as you want it. Whilst I think you should think carefully if there is a specific reason, and perhaps if you have a very old friend that you trust you could ask their views on the matter, at the moment I would say it is 6 and two 3's, and personally I would be prepared to listen to comments but my life is my own and someone trying to manipulate me would just be an absolute NO NO, so think what you want in your life and follow it. In my view as long as I dont harm anyone else I think I have the right to choose my own life and so do you!!!

Maybe your granddaughter sees something thats passed you by.

General rule of thumb: as soon as a partner or "boyfriend" starts issuing threats and ultimatums it's time to wave them goodbye. A genuinely loving and supportive partner would be willing to communicate with the aim of finding either a resolution or a compromise, but issuing threats is what the emotionally stunted resort to because they're either a bully or are too immature to discuss things properly. It's probable that your granddaughter will grow up, mature and come around to you having a life partner. I'm less optimistic that your boyfriend will. You choose.