My daughter has excluded me because I did not like the name she chose for her new baby.

I'm not sure what you are wanting. Maybe just to "say your frustration outloud". I hope so, and that you have got over it now.

I do not think it's an unpleasant name at all. It feels very strong to me and makes me think of ancient Greece. It speaks to me of someone very handsome actually!

Two of my grandchildren have names I wouldn't have chosen. One very old and one very new.
I have grown to love them because they now bring thoughts of my family to the fore.

My mother (especially) didn't like my older son's name. It's very short so she wanted me to use another name (a traditional one) that would "could shorten to our chosen name as a nickname".
I'm afraid we just laughed at this silly suggestion. She had the privilege of choosing my name and we had the privilege of choosing our little boy's.

I hope you can grow into this name - I'm sure you will.

Regarding family names... my mother suggested this and it makes me wonder why.
One of our granddaughters has my first name as a middle name. It's not a name I'd choose!

A family second name is maybe an interesting idea if you have a long history of (say) Archibald... or Beatrice or whatever - but I did once know a boy whose family went back many years and all had "Mary" as a middle name, boys and girls alike.

You sound like my awful MIL who, on meeting her first dgc said ‘I hate the name, I will never call her this, I will choose a better name’. That was before saying hello or anything else.
She just proved what a c@w she was, and things never improved.
It wouldn’t have even crossed my mind to butt in when DS and DDIL had my DGCs.
Sadly the damage you’ve done could take years to erase.

Troy is a perfectly reasonable name! It is non of your business what name your DD chooses for her child. You have had your children - it's their turn now. Apologies, grovel , do what is necessary to get back in her good books.

We were disappointed that DH's name was not included as one of our grandson's names, as it is a very old family name over generations. They chose not to, and included the name from his family side, which is very common. We never said a word, and accepted it with grace- as it is none of our business at all, as grand-parents.

As it is none of yours.

NotSpaghetti. - “it makes me think of Greece” -

it makes me think of Michael Woods, in his crumpled linen, desert booted, intrepid search for Troy, blonde, bronzed,
“the thinking woman’s crumpet” or was that womens’

Don't let this fester any longer. Write or phone your daughter and apologise for being way out of line over this naming business. The bond between grandchild and grandparent is far too precious to be put at risk.

petra

The only Troy I knew was Troy Donahue who I was madly in love with as a young teenager.

Hence the large number of boys given that name from the 1960s. His real name was Merle!

I wonder how many rows there were in families? No, we are not going to call him Reg or Percy after your father!

I don't think Reginald or Percival have been heard at the font in a very long time but time was, almost everyone had a relative with that name.

And let's not forget the gorgeous Troy in the film, Far From the Madding Crowd.

I don’t think the OP will welcome the comments, but really they are deserved.Not only is Troy a good enough name but it isn’t anyone’s choice but the parents.
Learn to smile sweetly for the future and say ‘how lovely!’ Whatever names they come up with and however outlandish.

To be quite blunt I would say you should have kept your opinion to yourself. She was obviously happy with the name chosen - her baby, her choice and you've spoilt that for her by telling her you don't like it and then by asking her to include a 'family name'. Your daughter must call her baby whatever she wants it really is not up to you to choose or even have a say. Perhaps you could apologise to her and say you regret trying to change her mind or maybe even say that now you're more used to the name you quite like it?

We’d settled on Daisy for DD1. It wasn’t popular in 1980 and when I (regrettably) told my colleagues at work they all burst out laughing and said it sounded like the farmer’s prize cow. I admit their reaction put us off and we went with our second choice, that DD1 describes as deadly dull. She’d have loved to be Daisy, apparently.

We didn’t discuss our name choices with anyone for the next two - it was a case of this is what they’re called, like it or lump it! We live and learn.

If this post is real....

Op, do you still wonder why you were not told first?

She's not excluding you because you did not like the name - she is excluding you because you said so out loud!

This is a wind up. No one is that that stupid.

I am rather shocked this the hill you would choose to die on and damage your relationships with. I would also guess that you were told after others because this reaction was completely expected. It sounds like you must eat some humble pie and start respecting the other adults in your family in the decisions that make them happy and should make you happy for them.

I didn’t know what my grandchildren were going to be called until the day they were born and we had a phone call to say they’d arrived and were called …. Lovely names no problem at all , we’d have loved anything just glad all was ok.

When my first daughter was born my MIL said she didn’t like her name and a few other choice remarks . I told her it didn’t matter whether she liked it or not it was none of her business. When I announced my third pregnancy she had the audacity to ask me why was I having another child! My impression is you are probably her long lost twin

"What's in a name" so Shakespeare said.
I know a young man call Troy, it's a fine strong name. My SiL wanted my Grandson to be named Atlas (which is popular now) he wasn't in the end.

It's not your call, just make try to make amends with your DD otherwise it will drag on and you will miss out.

My mother’s first choice names for my brother were either Troy or Paris - he ended up as Adrian Spencer ( middle name after Winston Spencer Churchill).
This was in 1947

As others have said, I’m not sure why you think you might be involved in choosing the baby’s name, surely it’s up to the parents. Your job was to smile and say ‘That’s a lovely name’ even if you didn’t like it. At this sensitive time your daughter needed your unconditional support not argument and criticism!

Wasn't there a Troy Tempest?

Anyway surely #windup

"We tried for a nickname and received anger."

I wonder why?!?

Troy is a lovely name.

Well OP hasn’t returned!

Well there’s a surprise isn’t it Cossy, a rather ludicrous OP from a new poster who doesn’t then return, trip trop

I wasn’t that keen on DGS2’s name (though it was a shortening of the name on his birth certificate) but I wouldn’t have dreamt of saying so. Of course I’m used to it now. To insist on the use of family names is really bad judgement on your part. Surely the baby is far more important than his name. I’m not surprised your daughter is so annoyed.

I would not have expected any of my grandchildren to have names from the family. It is the parent’s decision and even though I found one or two of the names slightly different I soon got used to it. I love all of their names now the unusual ones just took me by surprise at the time but I didn’t say anything and glad I didn’t.