Is it me?

No you are not being unreasonable Ziggy manners cost nothing. I don't know if people are becoming more ill mannered and it's something that annoys me too.

Some seem to be!

Manners cost nothing and are easy.

Manners maketh the (wo)man.

I have lost count of the times that I have held a door open for someone, or stepped aside to give way to them and most of the time received no acknowledgment whatsoever. I have now lost my filters and simply call out after them 'you're very welcome!' MrA does get a bit embarrassed but I do no care........a simple smile or a 'thank you' costs nothing does it.

Unfortunately, I think it is becoming more common now. Only yesterday, I held a door open for a man who simply barged past me without a word of acknowledgement. Simple good manners and courtesy cost nothing.

I think manners do cost something to people who are not naturally sociable, and to miserable (unhappy) people, because they do require a certain effort. Most of us don't really feel the effort but I think some people do. Social effort is a cost.

That's not an excuse, btw.

Yes I now say " thank you " in a loud voice

A lady pushed by me to get something off a shelf in Tesco last week, I said " Oh I'm dreadfully sorry you should have said if I'm in your way"

People are more ill mannered - in cars also.

I let the door go on people who expect me to be their unacknowledged door holder!

I really dislike bad manners, if someone moves out of the way to let me pass I say thank you and smile, if a car lets me cross, even on a zebra, I raise a hand. If a driver gives way for my OH when we are in the car he raises a hand or flashes his lights at night.
Is just second nature. But have stood by to let people pass who just barge by without batting an eye, and I have had a door slammed in my face rather than held by the person who just went through it.
Am afraid some people are just bad mannered, but is certainly a pet hate of mine.

Couldn’t agree more . And don’t even get me started on the drivers of this world

My DH always says "Don't mention it - oh you didn't!" if he doesn't get thanked 😁

Grannybags

Yes.

The ‘bottom line’ of life these days is people just don’t care.
If they did , many of these events/incidents just wouldn’t happen 😡
I know it is dangerous/inaccurate to generalise so madly in this way - but- what other conclusion could one draw?

This is odd. I was only thinking this morning how many people return a smile, step aside to let me pass, or hold the door for me (and I'm not in any way disabled,) or make an amusing comment if we wait in a queue, to keep our spirits up.

Perhaps I'm just lucky living in the countryside where people aren't so pressured. I'm 80 so I can't claim to be attractive or interesting! I do smile a lot though as I'm glad to still be alive.

I've been using an approach that I read about somewhere years ago - maybe here?
If I hold a door open for a lady and she comes up with a comment like - Don't you think a woman like me can open doors herself?
I reply - I'm not opening the door because you're a lady, but because I'm a gentleman! This becomes easier to do the older that you get (60+) - with the attitude - I Never Dreamed I'd Become A Grumpy Old Man, but here I am killing it!

LJP1

This is odd. I was only thinking this morning how many people return a smile, step aside to let me pass, or hold the door for me (and I'm not in any way disabled,) or make an amusing comment if we wait in a queue, to keep our spirits up.

Perhaps I'm just lucky living in the countryside where people aren't so pressured. I'm 80 so I can't claim to be attractive or interesting! I do smile a lot though as I'm glad to still be alive.

Yes, my experience is that most people are still courteous and considerate. There are some miserable so and sos about as well of course, but there always have been.

One thing that worries me slightly is that a good proportion of the younger generation don’t seem to want to acknowledge people they pass, as the older ones nearly always do up here in Yorkshire. It’d be a shame if the old friendliness died out.

Sadly I notice more at my work and it is usually older people (ie my age!) I think because I am wearing a uniform I must be invisible or they just expect me to hold the door open for them. I expect my two year grand daughter to say "thank you" if someone holds the door for her so I think an adult should do the same. I saw it in schools too where certain teachers would be quick to reprimand a pupil for forgetting to say thank you but would breeze though without bothering to thank the child who held the door open. It used to really annoy me.

People always seem kind, friendly and appreciative. Until they get behind the wheel.

Driving a lot in my part of suburban London, I find that more and more drivers are showing courtesy to each other. Even if the motivation is to protect their car's paintwork, it is welcome.

But don't get me started on pedestrians and Lycra louts on their bicycles!

I agree with you! Same in supermarkets people just barge across you to reach for something, no excuse me nothing.....a lot worse since covid

Please don't flash headlights at night.
I know people mean to be polite but it is massively dazzling and causes actual eye pain sometimes.