Feeling annoyed today.

Pippa22

Maybe your ex was looking for an excuse to leave you. I’m sorry I put that but might he have arranged the call from his demanding neighbour to get out of the meet up with you ?

What? He called unexpectedly so no.
What a strange idea!

Why are YOU annoyed your ex can do what he likes, it sounds like you are keen to have more to do with your ex or are you just interfering in something that is not your business at all?
You can't control an ex

Maybe your ex was looking for an excuse to leave you. I’m sorry I put that but might he have arranged the call from his demanding neighbour to get out of the meet up with you ?

If all of us worried about our ex's behavior, what a strange world this would be.

Yes Delila - in my world it is …

If he is your Ex, then there's a reason he is your Ex. Be friends, of course, but whatever he does, that's down to him. If he prefers to drop everything, even a coffee with you for some one else to give them lift, instead of saying no, and keeping your company, then that's not nice. But his choice. He ain't gonna change.

Perhaps it would be a good idea to talk with your ex because he may be enjoying this responsibility who knows. You could let him know that you felt someone was taking advantage of him and ask him to please talk with you about it what he thinks etc.?

crazyH

Kircubbin - I’m amazed that you have a good relationship with your ex. I also admire you for that

Why, is it unusual?

Perhaps he made that up about his wife.

His wife doesn't like him driving!! Why doesn't she drive him then

You cannot control your ex, and if it's not a problem to him, then just keep your nose out of his business.

He said he was busy yesterday so the man got a lift with someone else. His wife doesn't like him driving.

That has to stop. I have had a similar experience with a woman in the next street. I used to consider her a friend till I realised how she was using me. I have gradually withdrawn the amount of time I spend with her.

Perhaps your ex could just tell this person that he's too busy to help. And keep saying it.

It’s easy / he need to stop answering the phone to him and tell him he cannot give lifts anymore as it’s messing up his days.

He’s a people pleaser is all, by the sound of it.If you’ve already raised questions about it with him then no more you can do.
Unfortunately some people are only too happy to take advantage of others.

That's why he's an ex!

I must say I think it's rude to answer the phone while he is having coffee with you and even more rude to leave you mid coffee to attend to some annoying neighbour.
He needs guidelines and boundaries. .

He's not accepting money or being blackmailed. He's let this man take advantage and is too polite to refuse.

Is the neighbour blackmailing him?

If your ex is accepting money for driving this neighbour (I know you didn't mention this) he needs to be careful as his insurance could be invalidated.

crazyH

Kircubbin - I’m amazed that you have a good relationship with your ex. I also admire you for that

It's only started since his girlfriend died.

Tell him to get a ring doorbell & don’t answer the door or phone.

Kircubbin - I’m amazed that you have a good relationship with your ex. I also admire you for that

Sounds like your ex could be frightened of him.

He is a bully and had no self awareness. He came to my dad's funeral even though he'd never met him and talked through the speech. I had to shush him.