My partner and I have a 3 week old.
During pregnancy during an argument he said it would be easier to pay child maintenance and have nothing to do with me. I was a little controlling. That obviously didn't happen. He said he onky said that as our little girl is an extension of me and he would want nothing to do with me. He also said there is now a little person here and he didn't have a bond with her when she was in the bump.
I have asked him about this lots of times if he can promise for sure that he is always going to be there for our little girl and he can't say for definite as he doesn't know the circumstances or why we would break up etc. He said im red flags for even thinking about us breaking up in the future. I've said that he's rhe red flag as he can't say, as her dad, that he will always be there for her, even if we break up. I then said as her mother, I can say ill always be there why can't you? He then said "mothers belong in families"
Is my questions strange or would you find his responses strange? Why can't a dad say first sure he will always be there for his child?
He keeps going on about never thinking we will break up and we are solid and that he is fed up of these alternative universes I keep creating.
Aibu??
