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No Mot No Tax and driving every day!

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Mincub Thu 05-Jun-25 19:12:33

Sooooo AIBU my neighbour is living there as woman and children on benefits and suddenly after 4 years Daddy moves in but she calls him her brother.
He owns a Care business. HMRC are chasing him over unsubmitted tax etc over the last 4 years at his ‘address’ (not this one) and his car tax ran out 1st December 2024 and his MOT ran out on 1st April 2025 both are still out of date.

He’s using the car every day and has parked it in her parking bay which means she parks in front of my actual garden gate, meaning I can’t get past in my wheelchair.
They have all but taken over!
He dashes in and out of the car, looking pretty guilty,as I say she calls him her brother, the kids 7and17 call him Dad! Before he moved in he visited just two or three times over the 5years. They are from Zimbabwe in a council house paying nothing and she bragged about this.He had a succession of partners at his company’s address.His clothes are in-the back of his car and he often has the lights on with music and drinking in there until early morning. This is outside my window.
It annoys me and it’s wrong……and it’s dangerous ! I have checked my evidence
What would any of you do ?

Churchview Thu 05-Jun-25 19:39:53

There's a lot going on in your post, some (most) of which is probably not your business.

Could you ask her not to restrict your access and speak to him about the noise?

If he's using the car without MOT or tax then his insurance probably isn't valid and he poses a risk to other road users. You can report this.

www.gov.uk/report-untaxed-vehicle
www.gov.uk/report-no-mot

Cossy Thu 05-Jun-25 19:48:40

I’d report the car.

If you think she’s defrauding the DWP then report her, but be wary, there are two innocents children.

BTW, mentioning their nationality was utterly irrelevant

seventhfloorregular Thu 05-Jun-25 19:54:47

I'd report the car and probably the benefit fraud as if he is running a business and not paying tax then they have plenty of cash. As a country we can't afford people like this - we have genuine people in poverty - whether they be disabled, asylum seekers and their families or elderly.
Be very careful though and keep quiet about what you report.

Freya5 Thu 05-Jun-25 20:01:25

Cossy

I’d report the car.

If you think she’s defrauding the DWP then report her, but be wary, there are two innocents children.

BTW, mentioning their nationality was utterly irrelevant

So let her keep defrauding the rest of us. Is that what you're saying.

PamelaJ1 Thu 05-Jun-25 20:04:21

Re: the car. How do you know that it is untaxed ect.? We no longer have tax discs so there is no visible evidence.

Grannylynj Thu 05-Jun-25 20:07:45

I agree, not your monkey

Churchview Thu 05-Jun-25 20:08:02

You can look it up online PamelaJ1
www.gov.uk/check-vehicle-tax

PamelaJ1 Thu 05-Jun-25 20:12:31

Churchview Why didn’t I think of that🤦🏼‍♀️

monk08 Thu 05-Jun-25 20:17:22

PamelaJ1

Re: the car. How do you know that it is untaxed ect.? We no longer have tax discs so there is no visible evidence.

You can check on line all you need is the Reg

Mincub Thu 05-Jun-25 21:17:31

Thanks for your advice, he has lost his contract to provide care
As he has a drugs conviction he didn’t declare until a check was run and they aren’t short of money as they mentioned they had just come back from. 2 month cruise. It’s just
like they have to rub your nose in it. The boy has been cautioned for keying a neighbours car and the girl was given a community order for threatening another neighbour and prodding her in the chest. I’m seriously looking to move.
And yes I looked car up online via Carveto.
Maybe I should just move and leave it. It’s so intimidating.

Mincub Thu 05-Jun-25 21:18:33

Im black myself!

Mt61 Fri 06-Jun-25 09:12:12

Do what you think is right, but keep your own council 🤔

Mt61 Fri 06-Jun-25 09:13:23

Why should you up sticks 😩

keepingquiet Fri 06-Jun-25 09:23:34

What is dangerous here?
Playing music in the car after 11pm can be reported but have you asked him not to do this?
She is free to park her car legally unless you have a disabled parking bay.
The tax and all other info is not your business and eventually they will be rumbled.
However, you ask what I would do?
First, make a video record of all your complaints- the parking and the music etc.
Warn your neighbour that she is at risk of having her benefits cut if the DFS find out about the 'brother.'
Speak to your other neighbours and ask what they think- the more allies you can get to curb this anti-social behaviour the more the authorities will listen.
Contact your local councillor- you may not be the first person to do so.
Hope this situation works out for you and for them.

BlueBelle Fri 06-Jun-25 09:27:14

You know an AWFUL lot about them, their private money details, the businesses he runs how he runs them, the troubles he is or isn’t in and about their private lives, the children he has or hasnt fathered, the places they go
My neighbours have absolutely no idea of my money status my holidays or my businesses ( if I had any)
Has this become a vendetta
Are you jealous ? Quote: It’s just like they have to rub your nose in it

It doesn’t smell right to me I d drop your curtains and get on with living your life without the complications of trying to live theirs unless something happens that directly involves you

Ziggy62 Fri 06-Jun-25 09:56:29

Mincub

Thanks for your advice, he has lost his contract to provide care
As he has a drugs conviction he didn’t declare until a check was run and they aren’t short of money as they mentioned they had just come back from. 2 month cruise. It’s just
like they have to rub your nose in it. The boy has been cautioned for keying a neighbours car and the girl was given a community order for threatening another neighbour and prodding her in the chest. I’m seriously looking to move.
And yes I looked car up online via Carveto.
Maybe I should just move and leave it. It’s so intimidating.

I understand your concerns and how annoying this is but from what you say about the son and daughter, will you be safe if you report them?

David49 Fri 06-Jun-25 10:11:32

It’s common, being from overseas makes no difference, plenty of UK drivers do this, if you’re a single parent with kids and you get caught you will get fined, you pay by installments but forget to pay. The worst they can do is crush the car, they are never going to jail you for not insuring a car.

So they get away with it

M0nica Fri 06-Jun-25 10:18:59

Visit Citizen's Advice and talk to your local coincillor about these problems. Take with you all the evidence you have about the man living there his employment and yax status.

Remember that fact that someone else told you something about your neighbours does not make it true, and much of what you say sounds like hearsay, rather than information based on solid hard evidence -like that for the untaxed car. Take photographs of how their cars are blocking youraccess.

I do undestand how frightening and intimidating behaviour like this is, but the only solution is to approach those in formal positions to change this for you will a dossier of what is happening, with evidence to support your complaints

Hellogirl1 Fri 06-Jun-25 13:13:10

Also, if you`re thinking of moving, any problems with neighbours have to be declared when your house goes on sale.

Mincub Fri 06-Jun-25 13:35:50

I’d just like to add that a lot of things I’ve said have actually come from them.I did ask nicely about the parking and explained I couldn’t get through my gate, the parking is actually on my driveway. I am in a bungalow they are in a house. I did also mention the lights on and music keeping me awake.
Her daughter came round and threatened me to ‘mind my own business and keep my mouth shut or she would shut it for me’. I was shaking and said I’d call the police to which she answered ‘go ahead and you’ll get what 227 got’. Since then I’ve had my shopping delivered. I’m actually more frightened than I’ve let on and now i just don’t know what to do. I used to love my little house now I hate it here…..sorry 😢

butterandjam Fri 06-Jun-25 14:27:38

I'd inform Crime stoppers, which you can do online , guaranteed anonymity.

Ziggy62 Fri 06-Jun-25 14:36:16

If it's possible I would be moving

WelshPoppy Fri 06-Jun-25 14:42:45

PamelaJ1 it's easy to check online about a vehicle's tax and MOT status

Bobbysgirl19 Fri 06-Jun-25 14:44:45

BlueBelle

You know an AWFUL lot about them, their private money details, the businesses he runs how he runs them, the troubles he is or isn’t in and about their private lives, the children he has or hasnt fathered, the places they go
My neighbours have absolutely no idea of my money status my holidays or my businesses ( if I had any)
Has this become a vendetta
Are you jealous ? Quote: It’s just like they have to rub your nose in it

It doesn’t smell right to me I d drop your curtains and get on with living your life without the complications of trying to live theirs unless something happens that directly involves you

I totally agree with BlueBelle. I am amazed that you know so much of their business! You can almost write a book about them, very strange!