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When one partner likes to be naked

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Nitpick48 Fri 13-Jun-25 15:23:01

I re-married 8 years ago, my husband and I are both in our late 70s. Turns out he likes to garden naked. (we moved a few years ago and to a house where we’re not overlooked). He gets irritable when I say I don’t like him sitting on the furniture or wandering around gardening. Bending down to plant or prune. (If you see where I’m going with this) He just says “well don’t look!” He’s fit and active and not mentally impaired, Just rather stubborn. Am I being unreasonable?

JamesandJon33 Sat 14-Jun-25 05:28:34

Delila I was trying to be delicate. There is often a lot of pearl clutching on here 🤭

BlueBelle Sat 14-Jun-25 06:25:37

Oh for goodness sake Jameandjon how I hate that put down insinuating all old ladies are pearlclutchers I bet most ‘old’ ladies on here have seen and put up with more than most young people have ever even thought about
Very little that can shock us
Your name and your post implies you’re a man but that may be or may not be
I have not got a care in the world if the man has the whole of his body exposed to the elements and neighbours when gardening I ve already seen many shapes and sizes over the years, not so good for him if the insects or stinging nettles bite and probably not such a pretty sight for the neighbours if he’s getting on a bit

I m not even sure it’s a genuine post as why get uptight eight years after ?

Calendargirl Sat 14-Jun-25 06:53:06

Where abouts are you? I would have thought that gardening naked is a bit chilly for much of the year, depending on which part of the country you’re in.

I think the sight of a naked man well in his 70’s gardening would be a gruesome sight.

Even Monty Don looks better clothed.

Allsorts Sat 14-Jun-25 07:00:02

I don’t think this post is genuine. No one would put up with the old fool.

JamesandJon33 Sat 14-Jun-25 07:03:22

Bluebelle Some time ago I posted on here about an acquaintance who had shown me a rather explicit video on her phone, quite out of the blue.. I was asking for advice, as to what I should have done. Did I get any? No.Just post after post of how horrid porn was. No help whatsoever. I learnt later that this acquaintances had done this often and she was in the first stages of dementia. ‘Pearl clutching was exactly what happened then… and I have never forgotten it. You may dislike the reference, but I can assure you it is quite appropriate at times .

JamesandJon33 Sat 14-Jun-25 07:04:10

p.s. I am not a man .

JamesandJon33 Sat 14-Jun-25 07:06:11

As to my name a reference to characters in a book of mine

M0nica Sat 14-Jun-25 07:32:34

I can see that hygiene could be an issue when sitting down. But otherwise I cannot see that there is a problem.

Some have complained of hygiene but how many have pets - cats and dogs, who spend most of their time sat down with their bums rubbing over carpets.

DD moved recently to a house where the previous owners had a dog and cat and couldn't get the carpets out and away fast enough because the animals would in her words 'have been wiping their rss on it. And at least a naked man doesn't have fleas.

Luckygirl3 Sat 14-Jun-25 07:36:31

J52

You could always buy him one of those gardening belts to keep his pruners, gloves and plant ties in.

Pruning? - hmmm .... I would be a bit worried about that .....

janeainsworth Sat 14-Jun-25 07:37:48

Wandering round the garden naked …..no problem.
Naked bums on seats ….. not in my house. That goes for dogs too.
I don’t think the post is genuine, but it’s an interesting question.

Gingster Sat 14-Jun-25 08:02:45

Not a pretty sight! 😬

Whitewavemark2 Sat 14-Jun-25 08:18:03

I can remember seeing on television a couple who gardened naked, - in Hampshire I think. They had open days.

It is not my preferred mode, but each to their own I suppose.

They must get through gallons of factor 50 though.

Maelil Sat 14-Jun-25 08:46:13

She clearly said that they’re not overlooked.

Gwyllt Sat 14-Jun-25 08:58:56

At least he is out there doing the gardening If you complain too much he might just quit

Jaxjacky Sat 14-Jun-25 09:01:23

OP has posted before, not necessarily teenager finished their exams!

Fartooold Sat 14-Jun-25 09:09:42

Where do you live?? I would love to see this……….

BlueBelle Sat 14-Jun-25 09:31:01

Hahaha according to JamesandJon we re all clutching our pearls Fartooold 🤣
Seriously though jamesandjon I m sorry you didn’t get more helpful postings on your query but I do think most of us older folk have seen plenty over the years and aren’t too shocked…. maybe I m just speaking for myself but if you look at the humorous replies on this page I think you ll agree most aren’t fazed by a bit of nuditity or sex
I just think how many times I get pricked (no pun intended) and stung when I m on the allotment or garden that I wouldn’t really want to expose my more tender bits to that, although I suppose a bum isn’t tender but other bits are
However if poster had said he liked sunbathing in the nude in his not overlooked garden I would have not even blinked

TheWeirdoAgain1 Sat 14-Jun-25 09:44:55

I don't mean to be horrible but I think you're being unreasonable. After being married for all that time and being together before the marriage so should have at least an idea of how he goes about things!

Deciding now that you don't like his nakedness is a bit late!

I understand you don't want to ''see things'' but you can look away or go into another room.

However, you could ask him to wear shorts in the house, which is reasonable.

Sorry, but I'm with hubby on this!

Allira Sat 14-Jun-25 10:11:54

J52

You could always buy him one of those gardening belts to keep his pruners, gloves and plant ties in.

Like a sporran?

Please make sure he uses suncream, as someone else suggested.
Some parts are more delicate than others.

Allira Sat 14-Jun-25 10:15:21

Some have complained of hygiene but how many have pets - cats and dogs, who spend most of their time sat down with their bums rubbing over carpets.

Oh yes, the bum rub! Aka scooting. Means anal glands need attention, I believe.

Galaxy Sat 14-Jun-25 10:20:27

I don't want my husband to do that either.

Coconutty Sat 14-Jun-25 10:25:44

No thank you. Not the most attractive body parts and certainly not when sitting on my best cushions.

Mt61 Sat 14-Jun-25 11:01:02

Deedaa

Years ago I had a very attractive friend who used to sunbathe naked. She lived in a fairly remote cottage in Cornwall with high hedges all round the garden, so there were no neighbours to see her. However the helicopters from Culdrose Naval base used to fly over every day!

No wonder 😂

AGAA4 Sat 14-Jun-25 11:06:52

I'm not a pearl clutcher but wonder why anybody would want to do gardening naked. He needs to be careful with the shears and pruners.

JamesandJon33 Sat 14-Jun-25 11:53:21

Bluebell I am an artist….life drawing. Seen it all.