Beds in the study?

RosieandherMaw

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I have one like this but without the headboard and when not in use it has a bright bedspread and cushions on, looks OK to me.

They arent his children


Why does he have any say on it then?
I'm quite confused here?

...and the children haven't complained.

We have a tiny spare room so invested in a single study bed which is so easy to switch to a desk which is the full length of the bed and makes a fantastic workspace. The desk always stays horizontal so even a fish tank would be ok being switched under the bed! We love it.

We had a lovely study with one wall of books but gladly gave it up to fit a single bed with a trundle bed underneath for our gran children . When the books were still there one of them said she always worried about them falling on her so we gave away the lot .

We have a single bed with a trundle underneath. It works well. Ours is from John Lewis.

The parents will be in the second bedroom. The 3rd room is small and once 2 beds go in there will be no room to move. They will either have to fold up or slide underneath.

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A trundle bed should work and needn't be unattractive.
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Why wouldn’t you? They’re your grandchildren for heavens sake! Put the computer desk elsewhere and get the bunk beds. I’ve had them in my third bedroom for years, my desk is in the kitchen. They grow so fast, embrace it while you can!

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RosieandherMaw

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I have one like this but without the headboard and when not in use it has a bright bedspread and cushions on, looks OK to me.

So why are you even having this conversation with other son who is not the parent. Does he have children of his own that wish to stay or does he wish to move home? Tell him to but out and if you really want to discuss it with the parents without the other son around. Is there a chance. the parents have said something to the brother? Either way you do as you please as it is your home

Yes Win. I'm wondering if the family have asked him to intervene. They are discussing it now and we will decide after the holiday as they are not coming till August.

The room used not so much as a study but for computer wotk was long ago to accommodate bunk beds for two grandchildren. Now one is so tall I feel he has outgrown even the 6'3" bunks. I feel he woukd manage in something wider being able to lie across a bit more. Really interested in the blow up beds, which would be accommodated in another room. I had a sofa bed years ago to accommodate a son on his visits. Wouldn't go down that road again even though it was a high end make, just not confortable for sleeping.

I’m thoroughly confused here. The children are happy. The issue is being discussed between their parents and uncle and you’ll be told the outcome? all feels very heavy handed towards you kirkcubbin.

I’m back to my previous thought . Unless those two lads are used to sharing a bed putting them to sleep together when they haven’t asked to do so is a recipe for many arguments. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with the self inflating air beds (eg Aerobed), very comfortable and big enough for adults.

I wouldnt allow it personally.

Your house - only that few days per year they stay in it. I presume you use your study as your study - as in 365 days a year (minus their few days staying). Your son can't just TELL you what to do in your own home - how very presumptuous of him.

Why on earth would anyone rearrange a whole room for the sake of his wants for that few days? Worst case analysis could be a new sofa or something that YOU want anyway in the sitting room and that converts into a bed and that would do the trick.

I use a z-bed for my grandson, it fiolds away to look like a small console table , a couple of them would serve quite well.

My MIL has a camping bed in her study-slash-bedroom. One of her sons and even I have slept on it without complaining.

But this is your son and your grandchildren, if you feel you have good relationship with them and want to please them all, do put another type of bed. This won't be that expensive or bad for you all

A pull-out from the wall bed doesn't take up much room. Just say thank you and be grateful that you have a onsiderate son,

Right now in fact - I'm absolutely laying odds that you live on your own. I wonder if he'd "try it on" to dictate how your house would be laid out if you were a couple or a single man living there.

I'm betting you are a widow - and, at some level, he's thinking "Ach....a woman on her own can be bossed around to suit everyone else. Single/widowed women don't count as People".

It sounds to me like a bit of sexism may well be going on here of the "Women on their own get told what to do/how to live their lives".

Take a leaf out of the assertiveness training courses given to women a few years back. Say firmly "No - I don't want to" and repeat the same words steadily in a row however many times you have to until daylight dawns on them that you are serious. In my experience - the couple of times I've had to do that - I've found they "stop in their tracks" and realise you mean it when you've said it about 10 times in a row steadily. "No I dont want to...no I don't want to....no I dont want to.....".

Or as we do it here, we have a corner behind a bunk bed, where we put 2 spare mattresses and when my foreign family visits, I accommodate two adults on the sofa bed in the living room and their teens sleep on the mattresses

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Right now in fact - I'm absolutely laying odds that you live on your own. I wonder if he'd "try it on" to dictate how your house would be laid out if you were a couple or a single man living there.

I'm betting you are a widow - and, at some level, he's thinking "Ach....a woman on her own can be bossed around to suit everyone else. Single/widowed women don't count as People".

It sounds to me like a bit of sexism may well be going on here of the "Women on their own get told what to do/how to live their lives".

Take a leaf out of the assertiveness training courses given to women a few years back. Say firmly "No - I don't want to" and repeat the same words steadily in a row however many times you have to until daylight dawns on them that you are serious. In my experience - the couple of times I've had to do that - I've found they "stop in their tracks" and realise you mean it when you've said it about 10 times in a row steadily. "No I dont want to...no I don't want to....no I dont want to.....".

If you love your sons and your grandkids don't do this, it is not sexism and it is not a hill to die on. Be thankful you have decent sons who visit you and are able to physically help you with stuff for free like putting a bed.

this is the first time someone pissed me off on gn.

RosieandherMaw

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Perfect indeed.

Over the years I tried so many different bed options for visiting g.children. In my house, the third - small bedroom was also my study/office. For a few years I had bunk beds in there, also had blow up bed to use.
The second bedroom in my flat is a strange shape and cannot take a full sized double bed. For a while I did have a sofa bed, 3 ft wide which pulled out to a full sized double bed. Had to have the radiator moved to give people about six inches to get past it. Have now turned that into my craft room, got rid of that sofa bed and got a got quality z bed. Full single size when open 3 ft x 6.3. Folder and cover on it is out of the way. Friends who have used it in overnight stays with me say it is comfortable.
Do remember that boys start to grown during their teen years. My youngest grandson, now 15 years of age is well over six foot tall. He lives nearby, so I have no problems there, but no way could two of him share a sofa bed!!!!

You can get chair beds that easily fold out into a small single bed - fine for occasional use.

This would give you two separate beds - teenagers are not going to want to share a bed. Also these chair beds don’t take up too much space when folded up as a chair.

My GS has one in his bedroom for use when his friend stays over. It’s great!

They sell them at Argos - wide range of prices.

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I also think that a wall bed is the answer, if there is sufficient floor space next to a suitable wall. They're pretty expensive so perhaps your son will pay?!

I have just reread your post and see it is the boys uncle is the one suggesting a change. The boys are only 9 and 10 so probably not 6 ft. I would have thought the blow up beds would do for a while yet. I would ask the boys themselves if they have a problem before spending money.