Posting holiday pics on line

mabon2

Get over it.

I think you are ill. Please check with your doctor who may refer you to a psychiatrist. The things you say are not normal!

I had a photo printed of our second child as a baby (who usually just ate and slept).
It was one of him crying - I felt I needed to remember that he did do this occasionally.

The first baby sobbed all the time I wasn't holding her it seemed to me.

I would not want photos of me online and I don't like photos of the grandchildren either....
But that's a decision for their parents.

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Good idea Tallulah and the messy pics and an odd tantrum one are usually the best.

I would be rather concerned if someone posted pictures of me on holiday without asking! Surely it’s a security risk?

A holiday photo book is a great idea, I did similar with a photo album one fir each of my two gc to keep with photos of times when they were with us while parents worked, so they can look back and remember our times together .
You may think you are lucky to look after the children,and of course it’s lovely but it can be hard work so don’t forget you are helping the parents with childcare which otherwise they would have to pay for so are doing them a big favour.
When the time comes that they go to senior school and have other things to occupy their time many of us feel redundant and sidelined, so don’t ever be a doormat.

Thanks for all your replies.intereting to see different perspectives. I am very lucky and look after grandchildren regularly whilst parents are at work so I have a great relationship with the little ones. think I just have to accept that DIL had an on line fantasy world where she is a perfect mum. I’ve decided to make a holiday photo boo so that I’m years to come the little ones will be able to see that we were there and how much we love both them and their parents. I can include the messy pics and the odd tantrum pic too! I ageee social media is a bane in our lives and mine is limited to close friends and family. I do lovethe memory reminders that show me what I was doing this time last year etc though.
With regard to emotional maturity I think inside we are all sometimes that hurt child and it’s good to talk about things.

You lucky you got to look after the grandkids .I don't ever have mine . due to money going missing a few years àgo.i only ever see them at church for half hour after the service

Could you not add underneath the photos .that you babysat the children ..or something along those lines

No no she is right not to put the children on media sites.. maybe some of the adults could go on .but not the children who knows when people use children pictures for other purposes

Well said BlessedArt.

Tallulah21, your DiL no doubt has a busy life and the important part of the holiday for her was the fun they had, not the help they needed in order for the fun to happen.
You gave them the gift of time to enjoy themselves and that should be enough for you.
Why care about whether her online friends all know that you did that?

A few years ago we took (and paid for) our daughter and granddaughter on holiday to the place where my mother was born. The two of them posed for several photos and never took any of me and DH unless we edged ourselves in. It was upsetting and thoughtless.

It isn't just about pictures from the OP not even a mention although she praises the local staff.

Kate22

Yes, you are right to feel hurt. Post a reply saying something like ‘ gorgeous pictures, didn’t we have a wonderful time’ then add a lovely photo of you with the grandchildren and another one of your dil too so it’s about all of you

Are you suggesting the OP try to post photos on someone else’s page? This desperation to ensure her DIL’s followers are aware of her presence on the holiday may not be perceived as positively as you’d like to think. People are allowed to post pictures of themselves and their children without grandparents, regardless of the setting of the pictures. Surely we all should have reached the stage of maturity in life that we have better things to concern ourselves with than youth posting pictures of us online.

Good idea Kate .

Social media has devolved our emotional maturity as a whole, from the youth to the elders of society. This post is proof. No one should need validation from someone else’s social media posts. That is the underlying problem. The real-life experience is diminished because you now feel your DIL should have included your presence in her pictures based off of assumptions you assign to her and what you think she should share on social media. We don’t get to decide what others post. Why should it matter anyway? Your experience with your family should be the only thing you care about here. Do you know all of her followers enough to give such weight to what they know and feel about your holiday experience? By giving someone else’s social media posts this much power over your feelings, you are admitting you care just as much as you accuse your DIL of caring about appearances and opinions of her followers. It’s all silly. Focus on reality. You had a wonderful holiday with your family. Don’t put energy into upset over what others post on their socials.

Yes, you are right to feel hurt. Post a reply saying something like ‘ gorgeous pictures, didn’t we have a wonderful time’ then add a lovely photo of you with the grandchildren and another one of your dil too so it’s about all of you

Did your son thank you?

not even a mention although she praises local staff it isn't just about photographs.

I am not sure how I would feel honestly. But, have you got photos of you and the Grands enjoying yourselves together? That's what matters and makes memories to keep.

But one thing I would say is, never, ever post holiday photos online while you are actually on holiday. You are showing everyone that your home is empty. There are people out there that constantly surf socials to see who has left their homes empty for the duration. In this day and age it is too easy for someone to find out where you are living. Sad but true.

Lots of people don't include their relatives' pictures when they post photos from their vacations or family functions. First of all, you need to ask for permission to share someone's photo online or include it in your Smartshow 3d video and there is a big chance they would decline. Then there are people that avoid social media altogether, so again there is a big chance of them saying "No" when asked if a photo could be shared.

Since you have your own accounts she probably just assumed you'll share the pictures you like on your own and she will share her immediate family's. Sounds reasonable to me.

I never post pictures of myself or family. Don't want to be on there.
Understand you being hurt at no mention of you but I am afraid for most of us thats how it is. I hardly see my gc now they are working, they are much too busy.

This is an interesting one I think! I take loads of photos on holiday and post them on FB usually while we're away

Not really a good idea from a security point of view as you are advertising to whoever sees the posts that your house is empty. You might even find your contents insurance didn’t pay up in the event of a burglary because you have publicised your absence to all and sundry.

It's ridiculous to nitpick someone else's social media. Social media is used to show off a perfect (fake) curated lifestyle. None of it is real.

If you had a good time, focus of the actual experience you had with your loved ones offline. This is just inane. I'm sure there are more important things to worry about in the real world.

Mojack26

Sorry but you seem a bah humbug type of person. Just because you don't like pucs of you the poster obviously does and she has a valid point

And that post was addressed to whom?
It does help.